I want to be liked and desired by attractive girls (or women) I have never been desired and anything close to being desired ended up with the girl just being a 'flirt' and playing around (not genuine) I feel like giving off the aura of the 'mysterious' one would work but some say it does and some say it does not--but then again being too much of yourself at first has its flaws (obviously I haven't any hot female desire me for me) I have a hard time coming to terms with the fact that not all beautiful women would fall for me--that realistically "I cant ge them all" and that is really the core of my issue (I want to be liked and desired) I have tried to convince myself that I cannot get them all but when I am 'put to the test'--in a public place full of hotties like Starbucks, malls etc the feeling of 'wanting to be desired' creeps up. I really need some insight on this

Thank you very much

So basically I think that this is the core of my issue.

elliot rodger

Without going too much into psychology, I'd say your problem is internal. Specifically an inadequacy problem. You need to seduce yourself right now. Get yourself comfortable with the idea that you can get any woman you want. Stop sayingyou cant, stop thinking you can't. The things we tell ourselves have a lot more power then we tend to give them credit for. Think and speak toward things that you want in yourself as if they've already come to fruition rather than dwelling on your shortcomings or things you don't want. "Keep pretending you are what you want to be and sooner or later it'll no longer be an act" that's a quote from a coach of mine in high school that I've always found useful. I hope this helps.

that is easier said then done--how exactly do I go about that? its not that I am uncomfortable around women. In fact I approach and can hold a conversation its just that I have never felt desired by a gorgeous woman (that is the only problem) I can read body language fine and all that and every time a girl seems to be liking me I later find out that she was a flirt

Your right. Its easier said than done. Look at it more as is easier to say than to accomplish the end result. Its easy to speak to yourself positively. Think of what you desire more than what you don't desire. Its that simple but if your looking for a quick fix to the problem then you'll become accustomed to the "easier said than done" way of operating. When you say you find out they are a flirt you mean they're only leading you on and they aren't interested? Maybe you need to examine the way you go about furthering things once you get the initial interest. Since I don't know what you do that causes you to get flaky responses I'll give you a bit of general advice. Lead the woman. Don't ask her questions about what she wants. She wants to be led. Seduction happens between the things that are said. Solidarity and safety will kill seduction.

Write a list of positive thing about yourself.
1. I am clever
2. I am confident in all that I do
3. I do not get rejected
4. I am handsome and can get any women I want.
I just gave you 4. Say them every morning and at night before you sleep. I promise you in a few weeks to a month you will be better. I had the same thinking. Get this book Call 'the Natural' By Richard La Ruina His book im reading now is amazing! Also look on amazon for books that hep with women, message me and ill send you my list I am getting this week.

I heard a guy (not my credit just dont remember who) saying that the reason guys are so into looking at porn and beautiful women on tv and magazines is because we see the girl looking at us through these images but in real life women hardly do. so we crave their eye contact but since the pre mindset is so strong we dont realize interest when she is looking at us.

women crave attention just like we crave attention, but they get it so much easier then us that they can get it from any guy. you've gotta break the barriers

Gotta start think positive about your self first bro. Some women will pick up on your mind set about you and blow you away and this works the other way. the same women that might not find you good looking might pick up on your mind set about your self and give you a chance.

"When you say you find out they are a flirt you mean they're only leading you on and they aren't interested?"

Exactly,

I do escalate as physically as possible. But I do the simple things sometimes such as holding their hands but I have never really gone for the kiss confidently (and I stress on confidently) when I talk to a girl I usually ask open ended questions that make her think so as far as conversing goes I am fine especially when I am feeling real good