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PostPosted: Mon Jul 14, 2014 12:32 am 
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So there's this one girl who I haven't slept with yet. We've known each other for a few months and have possibly slipped into friendzone territory to be honest. Recently I told her I find her attractive, but it was more of a passing matter of fact comment than making a big deal about it. We were talking about something else and I basically said "yeah you're a very attractive girl". Nothing much has changed since then, we have continued to be quite friendly but that's about it. Not much kino or anything.

So a few days after this we were on my bed after going to the beach so we were still in swim wear/bikini. She went to the toilet, came back and laid on the bed next to me saying "have I got wrinkles here" (points to where crows feet would be next to her eyes). I say "no not here but you have got some just here" (and then run my finger down to the edge of her mouth. Leave me finger dangling there, she smiles slightly. Don't make a move. Error I know. But anyway....

This was 10 days ago. We've just been friendly since then, a few texts that sort of thing. Same as normal. But we have talked about other relationships - she spoke about why she broke up with her ex and had a bitch about him a bit. She knows about this girl I've just finished seeing (who she knows also looks a lot like her). So she asked me just now "why did you break up with her"....

I was thinking of two ways to respond (even if not to this text, then more generally)....I could say "well, it's not all about looks. I think you're attractive, but wouldn't necessarily date you ;) " or something similar. Or I could say "well, she just wasn't as nice as you".

Which do people think would work best in the circumstances? And more generally, is it better in these circumstances to come on strong and tell her I like her, or to try and play hard to get a bit?


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PostPosted: Mon Jul 14, 2014 4:24 am 
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Don't sweat little questions like that. Hang out with her and make a move. You're just slipping further and further into the friendzone. Do ANYTHING. You can do it! Believe in yourself.

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PostPosted: Mon Jul 14, 2014 4:30 pm 
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"well, it's not all about looks. I think you're attractive, but wouldn't necessarily date you ;)

You're trying to play too cool for school. I don't get it, I never did.

Instead of leading, and setting up a time where you guys can see each other again and you can be confident enough to make an actual move; you're trying to play this "hard to get game". What purpose are you trying to serve here? I'm confused.

Do you want the girl or are you content with just having text conversations every now and then? If you don't want her, then by all means keep doing what you're doing, but I don't think thats why you're on the forums.

If you want he girl, pick up the phone and CALL her and ask her when are you going to see her again. Tell her you're free tonight. Tell her she should come over, you guys will order take out and orange is the new black on netflix. Tell her you'll pick her up if she needs you to.

Just do something bro. These text conversations are the equivalent to running in place. You're moving, but you aren't going anywhere.

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