Hereinlies the problem with pickup, there's no transition point from something ego-based, like PUA into a relationship, which is more equity based.
Best way to learn of course is through experience. Let things unfold unto their own, and above all else someone who meshes well with who you really are. Authenticity is a good thing, it's really hard to give any explicit advice as things are so fluid in a relationship. If you screen well and select a girl who bodes well with your values and world view things should be relatively smooth. That said, relationship do take work and adversity in it will bring the two of you even closer together, provided its a good fit. Just enjoy the ride and see where it goes, learn to be as present as you can be through 'losing' yourself in another.
