Agreed. Man up bro. YOu are a man, aren't you (toughlove intended to motivate you to set this boundary properly).

Things have since moved on and I decided to go for the kiss which she was happy to follow through with and bazooka her no cheating theory to bits!

I actually quite like her but she still has her bf so I am not quite sure of the next step. I don't think he would be alpha enough to leave her even if she is making him look an idiot, but at the same time I'm not sure she is brave enough to leave him and she is worried I will simply get bored of her and cheat. I've heard she has told him she kissed another guy but they still appear together as I expected.

How can I engineer this situation to my advantage? Should I just leave them to self destruct or would you suggest me being firm to her or giving hints?

Would be interested for some opinions again as the above has proved correct

This is the only answer you need to hear...

You're acting like a retarded dog who keeps running into the Invisible Fence. You're getting zapped and you're doing it to yourself.

Just stop fucking hanging out with this girl...

Dude, you're just not moving fast enough here. When you kissed her, you ought to have had the "I'm attracted to you, I know you are to me, let's meet up tonight, we'll have to be very discrete" talk. Stop beating around the bush. Yes, she does want to have sex with you. That's why she kissed you. You just need to make it plain that you care about her, won't judge her and want her physically, and that you two won't be careless about doing this stuff in public. That's it.

I'm a little fascinated that most of you guys seem to go "Boyfriend!? ZOMG! FLEE! Only single girls for me!". He's not wanting to be her boyfriend, he wants to fuck her. *Most* of my fuck buddies over the years have had boyfriends at various points. This is actually a good thing. He does all the boring stuff, while I get to have a great time with her

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What saloon does she work at? One element you're not considering is that she may also be screwing the manager there. Don't eat the clam chowder, it's fishy.