Saturday 21/06/2014

Went to a Guns N Roses tribute show, was awesome. Went to M with P and another mate of ours who we haven't seen in months. Unfortunately as the students have pretty much all left the city for summer, it's pretty dead in there. Not out to do pickup anyway, in a week and a half I'm moving into my new place, then there is no excuses and I gotta go full on. After a while I'm waiting at the bar, cute girl next to me, barman comes to me and I point him to her because she was actually there first, he another barman took his attention away, she thanked me and we just got chatting. Decided to go full polarizing and use lots of downtalk; all going well, she seemed quite quirky and pointed out a monkey teddy behind the bar that had its legs wrapped around a walkie talkie, I said it looked like the monkey was raping the walkie and the Tabasco sauce next to it was a distraught on looker. *NOTE* This for me was simply a way of screening her, if she doesn't find that funny, I'm gonna lose interest. Fortunately, she was crying with laughter at this and said something along the lines that she was impressed I'd even make that joke because that's her sense of humour and I'm "as weird as her", so I took it further and said I'm weirder than her blah blah blah and that if she hadn't found that funny I wouldn't have really wanted to know her anyway. A dude comes over who knows her and starts talking to her about some friend that's left or something, I let them talk about 10 seconds then introduce myself to him, he says my hair is awesome (mohawk), he's got some breaking bad t-shirt on so I say its cool etc, befriend him, he makes his goodbyes to the girl and leaves us alone again.

After a little bit she says she has to go back to her friends so I tell her I'm gonna get her number, she says something like "so you can not text me tomorrow and wait like 2 days?" so I respond something along the lines of "Are you kidding? I'm gonna text you as soon as I get signal, I'm gonna text you something really needy like 'OMG it was so unbelievably amazing to have met you, I feel so blessed' and I'm gonna send you like 25 messages straight away, because you know, that's attractive right?!" By the time I finish talking she has her head in her hand laughing and I actually saw a few tears lol. So she says I'm nice/funny etc and gives me her number. Before we say our goodbyes I keep the convo going a bit longer and she's talking about her obsession with Dr Who and asks if I watch it, I just stay honest saying I used to but found dinosaurs on a spaceship too ridiculous; she agrees and I say we should write our own script (I used US mentality quite a bit with this girl, and made it clear in the other ways I did it that I wasn't talking to her to be her friend). After chatting another 5 minutes she says again that she's gotta rejoin her friends, I tell her the same, she goes to hug me, as she does so I say "So I'm gonna hug you (whilst hugging), I'm gonna kiss you (lean in and kiss her, not makeout but just a no nonsense smooch with no hesitation) and I'm text you a random rape joke later tonight"
2 things to mention there; the kiss was good, as in how I did it, I told her I was gonna do it whilst starting to lean in, she was visibly taken aback by the blatantness of it and confidence that she was gonna reciprocate, also the text I sent her was basically exactly what I said "Hi, random rape joke - Musterion". She's already responded this morning so we'll see if I can fashion a swift day 2 with this one.

Lessons

1) I've come to realise that the majority of my interactions seem to stem from getting chatting at the bar; food for thought when I start up properly in a couple weeks, need to take that casual approach to approaching in other areas.

2) Only the one interaction but it was pretty solid, the only thing I could've done possibly better would've been to either makeout rather than just kiss (although just kissing to show interest but not being that guy that NEEDS to makeout for an ego boost could work in my favour) and if I'd set up an actual date when getting the number, which I really need to start incorporating but always forget in the moment, although sticking around talking to her for longer after getting the number should reduce chances of flaking a bit. We'll see though.

3) Being polarizing is so much better than trying to say what you think they wanna hear. When I rejoined my mates and they asked like "what did you talk about?" and shit I said I made a rape joke, they couldn't believe that she'd stick around after saying that. That's the point though, if she'd said "that's not funny" or walked off, that's not my problem.

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Thursday - 26/06/2014

Day 2 with cute girl from Saturday, very limited texting since then, no need to as I feel like in did the texting perfectly both how much and the content. She actually said during the date that I'm very witty over text; given that text game has been one of my biggest sticking points for a LONG ass time, I'm glad the things I've implemented now have improved it significantly, what's more is our interaction wasn't very long and she said the next day she pretty much couldn't remember the interaction and couldn't remember what I looked like (turns out it was her birthday and she was drunk, didn't seem it at the time) so yeah, on to the date.

We met at a bar I know really well, it's got like a mini golf thing outside and giant connect 4 and giant jenga, so if the date is going shit I have a nice little fall back; wasn't necessary in the end but it's worth thinking about. We shoot the shit and it takes a good 15-20minutes before the conversation really got going; even though she got a really open sense of humour and is comfortable with like rape jokes and shit like that, her body language is a bit awkward, she's very much a "good girl". Getting physical proved very difficult, I take every opportunity I can to get closer and break the touch barrier; at one point I hug her for some reason then I just hold her and say "I'm just gonna keep hugging you until it's really awkward" or something along those lines, at first she's cool with it but then gets noticeably uncomfortable so I let her go and don't make a big deal, she then starts saying how she's a bit of a weird person and doesn't even hug her close friends etc... This was actually a bit of a test on my part to gauge her a bit more, she already seemed quite reserved (minus sense of humour) and this confirmed it, this isn't one of those girls you can just go wild on, that'd just freak her out.

All that being said I know I've got to keep trying to push forward and make sure she knows that I'm there because I find her attractive and want to have sex with her. So a couple of random times I mention her being cute (for example saying the main thing I remember from meeting her was she seemed cool and was cute). Conversation is flowing well and she mentions how on Saturday some guy had come up to her saying... *CUE LAUGHTER GUYS, YOU'LL LOVE THIS* "hi, I think you should kiss my friend, he wants to kiss you". Of course I laugh hard at that, I mean not approaching is one thing, but sending your buddy over like a 10 year old is just hilarious. Anyway I sense the opportunity, so I lean in close to her, give her laser eye contact and "He should have come up to you and said (in low down talk voice, very slowly) 'you, are absolutely fucking gorgeous, and I want to kiss you'". (Possibly 'I'm going to kiss you', I forget) so anyway I then just lean in and kiss her. She kisses back but cuts it short, again she apologises saying she's really awkward etc... Again it's not a big deal, I don't make it one and we just carry on the conversation. I should point out as well that throughout the date I keep filtering in sexual topics and mentioning sexual things; I get the feeling that this helped me out with getting the kiss.

So after 3 hours we decide to head home, she comments how she can't believe how quick the time went etc. which I take as a good sign. As we leave and cross the road I take her hand, she seems comfortable with it at first but then I start feeling her wanting to have her hand back so I release and don't even mention it, again, it's not a big deal, she's just not a touchy feely person. We jump in a cab as her place is on the way to mine, she gives me the fare up to her place and as she leaves the cab she leans in to me to kiss me as I do the same (good sign), I hold her a moment to kiss her again then she leaves and I cover can fare back to my place.

This is clearly not the best date ever, there were definitely peaks and troughs in the conversation etc but overall I think it went alright; the only thing I think would cause lack of a day 3 is that my touchiness stretched her comfort levels a bit too much. But otherwise it was alright, plenty of laughing, we disagreed on some thing's like movie taste etc, I made sure not to fall into the trap of liking things just because she does. The MAIN takeaway from this though, is it's the first proper "Date" I've been on in just over two years, since meeting my ex. So even if this goes no further, it's nice to get back on the horse.

Lessons

*Side Note* When I move into my new place next week, dates need to be near to my place, there are plenty of bars within a 5 minute walk of it so it should make pulling back easier.

1) In future I need to establish her personality earlier in the date if the initial interaction doesn't give me much. I left it too late really to actually figure out that she wasn't very touchy feely and was a little reserved. Had I figured this out sooner, I probably could have used more subtle and slow kino escalation throughout in order to lead to a more heavy makeout etc.

2) During the date I flossed in future date plans, primarily the "you come over, we'll get a massive bowl of popcorn and watch 'this' movie" which should hopefully make for getting her over next week a bit easier as she's expecting it. This kind of thing is what I need to so in initial interactions more.

3) Her leaning across the cab to kiss at the end of the date is the main thing that I think to signify that there is a good chance of a day 3, and I'd expect her to open up more then.

4) I never would have got anywhere with this girl if not for taking some lead and initiative at crucial points in both the initial interaction and date. However, especially at the start of the date, I was talking about myself way too much; she was asking lots of questions about me to be fair, which is good, but I kept saying "I, I, I, me, me, me" far too much, instead of making it about "Us".

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Saturday - 28/06/2014

Met P and J late after I finished work at bar near where my new place will be at, finished watching the world cup game then headed to town and to M as per usual; on the way there we were discussing that we really need somewhere new to go but the problem is, even though that place sucks, everywhere else sucks even more. We get in there and it is DEAD! Aside from a big fancy dress party (turned out to be two that happened to be in the same place) there was no one in there. We sat down and again started discussing alternatives for future reference, we'd already paid to get in the and got a load of drinks so fuck leaving.

Anyway my focus for the night was to not give a shit and just do pretty much whatever I thought was funny, this is the main attitude I used to have when I used to have no issues with approaching so it's gonna be my focus for a while. At the bar (Only had about 2 drinks at this point) I see a girl that looks like she's trying to get through to the bar, I'm not ordering so I tell her to go ahead and she says she's not waiting for the bar, her gay guy friend and hooking up with another guy just as they were about to leave and points them out, sure enough 2 gay guys smashing face, good luck to them I say. She says she doesn't really know what to do so I tell her she's coming with us and she agrees, we all make introductions and head back to our seats which are now taken; we stand there for a minute and I decide I can't be dealing with this so I tell everyone we're gonna crash the fancy dress party. I go over and ask what the occasion is, and we get chatting. I start going hyper-sexual with my speech, like one girl had a unicorn horn and like a weird crown type thing on her head, and I was asking if she was gonna fuck her friend (girl) with it, to which they laughed and agreed. Then someone mentioned you could get more people on the crown (it looked like four long buttplugs put together) so I said something like "Are you gonna use that to go one in the pink, one in the stink", laughter ensues and I'm enjoying literally just saying whatever the fuck I want. Some other girl comes over to see what all the fuss is about so I ask her "what are you?" we chat for a couple minutes then she fucks off.

Original girl says she wants to wear some shiny jacket thing some guy's wearing, so without hesitation I go ask him to put it on her and he does. We chat for a little while longer, I make a joke about the unicorn horn being floppy and how it only goes hard for certain people, blah blah, P says are seats are free again as the convo is dying so I put my arm around original girl and lead her over there, she says she hasn't seen her friend in a while and wants to go check on him but will be right back, it's cool, we aren't going anywhere and I know she'll be back, she's having too much fun. I sit kinda strategically so when she comes back she next to me, we're all having a light hearted convo then she mentions to me that J looks a little bit gay I laugh and say to J "oh man, apparently you look a little gay", next comes a lesson in what NOT to do if anyone ever says that. Now just to give you a little heads up on something which I'd thought was a possibility before but am now certain of, J is a massive Narcissist; and what happens often when you make a comment to a narcissist that they deem is demeaning to their perfect image of themselves, you get narcissistic rage.
So J starts going nuts (Explosive Narcissistic Rage), saying over and over and over "I'm not gay, I'm not gay" then starts saying "like fuck I'm gay, I've shagged 71 girls, my ex looked like cheryl cole" he then starts showing P pictures of girls he's slept with, then calls the girl sat with us ugly. So I go even more mental at him, tell him to shut the fuck up, no-one thinks he's gay and to stop over-reacting, I tell him people say I look gay all the time because I have a red mohawk (they don't but he doesn't know that); after a couple minutes of this back and forth J goes quiet and starts ignoring everyone to stare into his phone (like always) which is Passive-Aggressive Narcissistic Rage. P spots some of our other friends and goes to hang with them because he doesn't wanna be around the confrontation anymore.

Girl sat with us keeps whispering to me "but he does look a bit gay" haha, it's true he does, but anyway it's been on with this girl for ages, I probs could've made out with her about 5 minutes in and it's now like 20-25mins in so I turn her head and we make out for a while; J says he's going to the toilet and leaves, we don't expect him to come back. After about 10-15 mins making out (maybe longer) and chatting her gay friend comes over to us and wants to leave, I've already grabbed her number and to be honest the night is still fairly young (2am ish) so I tell her I'll text her, we kiss, she leaves, I join P and the other guys. We discuss J's over-reaction and how if anyone said that to any of us we'd just turn it into a joke and make it ridiculous. We go to the bar and P goes to some girl and tells her to ask me if I'm gay (I can't hear) and tells her he knows I'll just make it ridiculous. So she asks me and of course I start saying how I love cock and fat meaty chodes in and around my mouth; she laughs and we get chatting. At some point we do some kind of pinky promise for some reason and I tell her that our pinky's are stuck like this now and it can't be broken; eventually she breaks it and I tell her she's a douche for breaking the pinky promise and she should just leave, she goes to walk off and I call her back and say before she goes she should give me her number. She says no and I say "do you have a boyfriend?" she says no and that she's just embarrassed because no-one has ever asked for her number before (REALLY) I ask her age and she's 22 (FUCKING REALLY??) I tell her that's weird and blah blah, meanwhile unbeknown to me, J has actually come back (with Narcissistic Remorse I might add) and P comes over to me and the girl to let me know, saying "yeah he said he didn't wanna ruin another one" I was like "another what" then P makes it plainly obvious he's talking about he hitting on this girl, thanks man, make my life easier! I tell him this girl has never had someone ask for her number until just now so P asks her and we laugh that now she's got 2 in 2 minutes. P leaves and she's still protesting about giving her number out, so I use a Simple Pickup technique they use often, which is "ok, how about, we exchange numbers (more protesting)...let me finish (she shuts up) we'll exchange numbers, then I'll send you a text, if you don't wanna respond, we'll go our separate ways and never speak again, if you do, we'll go from there" she says no twice and I just stay quiet smiling, then she agrees in the manner of someone who wanted to anyway but was just unsure. So she gets her phone out and shows me the My Number bit so I definitely have her real number, then asks me to ring her so she has mine (good sign) then she says she really needs to get back to her friends. I lean in to hug her and she kisses both my cheeks...though are lips catch a little. I tell her we have to do it again because the Italian goodbye is three kisses (I know everyone says French but I have an Italian name, so it's easier to back up) she agrees, gets both cheeks then lips then she departs.

J apologises and I basically tell him there was no need to be such a dick about something so pointless, but here's the funny part, he displays yet another classic narcissistic trait, having to prove himself to be the best at his best skill, which in J's case is sleeping with women from Plenty of Fish. Basically the backbone of his game is looks based, I know because I've seen it for myself, women literally drool over his looks, and because of the abundance he has garnered from that, he naturally doesn't get attached to any one girl and therefore doesn't become too needy from one. So anyway, having seen me kiss two girls tonight, it's almost as though his status as the ladies man of the group is threatened, at least short-term, so I see him trawling through his phone again and sure enough some random girl from POF turns up eventually and shortly after they are making out, which personally I find hilarious. They disappear/leave together about 20mins after she showed up and me and the other boys find a horse mask, the rest of the night composed of dicking about with this horse mask and "Suarezing" people. Where you yell SUAREZ then bite them on the shoulder, it was fucking epic and will be happening more!!

Lessons/Points to Consider

1) Don't give a fuck attitude for the win. I know this before but haven't really thrown myself 150% into it in a long ass time, it felt good though, after a while I think I was in what the Simple Pickup guys call "God Mode", which makes sense because I used to get into that state when I was half decent at pickup years ago.

2) Don't give a fuck attitude generally made me more attractive. Whilst making out with first girl at one point she stopped and said my friends were looking (they were actually just random guys lol) so I told her I didn't care, she asked why not and I said "why should what they're doing, affect what I wanna do?" and we went back to making out, a couple minutes later she stopped again and said "wow, you really don't care do you"......."No", her eyes lit up and we went back at it. Also whilst making out I straight up took her hand and put it on my cock, she moved it away and said something like "I'm not doing that" I just smiled and said "I'm very forward" she smiled and said she's noticed and went straight back at me.

3) I texted both numbers the next day and got nothing back off either, I'll hit them up again tomorrow and then maybe a quick "out tonight?" Saturday, if nothing them either of those then I'll just delete.

4) The hyper-sexual talk was not only funny but really good at getting sexual vibes out there, certainly makes it easier to move to a make-out etc after talking about it for a while.

5) Just because a girl says no initially, if she's still there and still smiling, she just needs to either get to know you better or for you to take the excuses away; granted it might not be the most solid number, but it's worth getting even if only 1 out of 20 girls ends up coming for a day 2.

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Saturday - 12/07/2014

Bit of brief before starting the FR, just for context later. My SPAM and I at some point in the day were scrolling through his Facebook and came across a very hot girl dressed up for a night out, with the caption being the city where we lived, I told him to find out where she was going jokingly and he didn't, then we shared a moment Facebook perving lol. Also we watched some thing on Netflix where people read out stuff from their journals when they were kids, one guy ended every entry "PEACE! One Love!", which I thought hilarious so decided to say it as much as possible as like a mini challenge. Main thing tonight was to continue working on approaching though.

So my SPAM didn't come out because he has no ID and didn't wanna risk having to just walk back home again so it was just me, P and J off to the usual place (we've decided next week we HAVE to go somewhere else). We get into M and sure enough, it's pretty dead thanks to the lack of students and it being festival season etc. We grab some drinks then at the bar the shots girl I went home with a couple months back comes over for a chat; interestingly the last god knows how many times I've been there since she's like actively avoided me almost, I guess thinking that night a couple months back made things awkward or whatever. Anyway we shoot the shit a while then she fucks off to work, we sit down and I'm already bored as fuck to be honest. Straight away I have to say for a little while in there, there was a super hot girl that was wearing almost some kind of Harley Quinn costume, kicking myself now for not approaching her while she was there, she was with a couple of girls and a couple of guys but I could tell the guys were not very (I hate this word) 'Alpha'. I hate the word but it's the best description of them to be honest. So yeah, note to self, just fucking do it next time.

Anyway after a while of literally nothing happening and me sinking further and further into that blackhole that comes from not approaching and leaving it longer and longer to do so; I'm convinced I see the hot girl from my SPAM Facebook. I go outside and call my SPAM telling him he should have come out because we didn't get ID'd and that I'm convinced I've just seen this girl. Go back in, chill with P and J a bit then realise I'm an idiot and didn't bring a house key out with me, back outside, call SPAM and tell him to leave a key out for me, as I'm talking to him, hotty comes outside with some friends, another of which is also very clever in the face. Once again I don't bother approaching and head back inside, as I'm heading in P is on his way out for a smoke so I go back out with him and decide that there really is no excuse for not approaching, what's more is that just a few hours earlier I'd been gurning over how hot this random girl on facebook was and now she was stood infront of me, what kind of fucking chump doesn't do something about it then?

So the girls are just about to head inside and I ask if they are from where I already know (SPAM told me when we were perving over her facebook), I ask if they know my SPAM and they are like "how the fuck do you know all this?" then I just say I'm good with faces (which I am) and remember seeing a photo of her when my SPAM had been scrolling through his facebook earlier (I left out the part about when we were talking about the unspeakable acts we'd perform on her). P and J head back inside and I stand talking with the two hotties, one blonde (facebook girl) and one brunette. Now I don't know if it was her tattoo's or general attitude, but as time went on I was actually finding myself checking out brunette more, she let her hair down at one point which made her ever hotter and I did some cheap kino preening her hair or some shit. Also I can't remember how, but at one point I did yell "PEACE! One Love!" and high five the brunette, hooray! They say they're heading back inside and I say I am too anyway, we go in, I bust their balls saying I'm glad I've only had 2 drinks having watched them attempt to walk down the stairs. We go to the bar and blonde introduces me to their friends, Blonde is really energetic and I hug her a couple times in conversation and some other general kino, she says they're gonna be leaving to some other place soon to meet their friends, I say that place sucks, she says she loves it, I tell her she's the absolute worst kind of person, more cheap kino, blah blah. After a couple of minutes I'm kind of on the periphery but manage to re-engage the group by grabbing the arm of one of the friends to look at her tattoo then get chatting with brunette again and manage to engage fairly well, if a little forced, we chat for a while and the rest of the group all go outside, whilst chatting I can see she hasn't got the best body language ever. Arms crossed a little, slightly turned away from me, so I subtly open my body language up a bit more and she then at least turns to face me. We should the shit for a while but it's not really going anywhere, she says she needs to go outside and find her friends. NOW what I should have done here was say "Ok we're gonna go find them" and hold my arm out for her to take, to try and push it further, but instead I just said "Ok before you go, let's exchange numbers and when you guys come here next (they said they come quite often) you can come over to our place first for pre-town drinks." She says some bullshit about how it'd be weird because she knows my SPAM from having dated one of his friends and she hasn't seen him in years, but I recall the girls reactions when I first asked them if they knew him and they were both saying what a sweetheart he is blah blah blah. So I tell the girl some shit about how he's the kind of person that you haven't seen for years then when you do it's like you last saw him yesterday, blah blah blah bigging my mate up, she's responding positively; as I'm saying all of this I'm pulling my phone out, then just hand it to her, she taps the number in, says it's nice meeting me, we hug, she fucks off. I see the girls around 2 or 3 more times during the night and should have really re-opened but didn't, because I'm a little bitch.

Did a couple more flimsy approaches after that but nothing special. I know this is a lame excuse but I really think it has an effect and I've heard other guys talk about this too... I need other people to go out with, because whilst P is my best mate, he has absolutely no game and no willingness to even try. When I first approaching the girls and end up with 2 of them talking to me, what does a good wing/good wings do? they occupy one whilst you focus on the other, not just walk off. As for J, I grow weary of his narcissism, he didn't not stop talking all night about his new job or how he's gonna ask out some girl he's been seeing; my only hope is that getting into a relationship again will make him more like he was in his last relationship and not so "me me me me me" all the time. But regardless, for all his good looks and shit, I've never seen him do a single approach ever (who needs to when you get unsolicited messages on tinder/POF every day right?) and he's always been less than helpful when winging me.
On top of all that though, it's almost kind of a downer when out with these guys nowadays; we go out to a club, sit down and it's just fucking boring, we may as well sit in my house if we aren't gonna go and socialise or make twats of ourselves on the dancefloor or whatever else, at least then we can play some video games or watch a movie or some shit, instead of sitting there staring into empty space, OR WORSE, sit there watching other people having fun.

Lessons

1) Ok this was quite a long ranty post, but it's important the message within it hit home. Yes I got a number (not very solid though) but I didn't approach NEARLY as much as I should have given some of the girls that were there (Harley Quinn girl, my fucking god why did I not approach!!) and took way too long to approach the girls I did; there was only one time where I approached as I should have done all night, it went nowhere but the approach itself was ace. This shit needs to be rectified pronto.

2) Having been on a bit of a downer from the get go and the boring ass vibe from the other dudes, I not really surprised I didn't get into any really flowing conversation in any of the interactions. Even the one where I number-closed wasn't gonna win any prizes for conversation of the year, it was more like I 'did enough'.

3) Need to take interactions further, if I hadn't settled for the number or even re-approached later, with an improvement in intent and conversation I may have even been able to take one of the girls home (I'd bet blonde one purely because she seemed more open).

4) Next time I go out, I have to approach before I get to the venue or at least before I buy a drink, need to get the conversational skills flowing early.

PEACE! One Love!

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Saturday - 09/08/2014

I'm currently a bit hungover and dying so I'll write this out properly another time, but wanted to get it down whilst it's fresh in my head. I focused on attitude/not giving a fuck tonight because recently I've been kinda seeing a girl who was my first GF 10 years ago, anyway the situation is pretty fucked up and getting more fucked up as time goes more, oneitis alert, I'm competing with another guy and basically it's all got under my skin quite a bit; so I wanted to have a night that would reduce the oneitisness.

I went out even though I currently have salmonella poisoning. The night started slow as fuck but once my flat-mate arrived (pretty drunk) it soon livened up, until that point I'd just been doing shit to amuse myself like dancing with my hat covering my face and shit. We went to M and bumped into some mates, then just took over the group, we all went in (mainly me, flat-mate and one other mate) and opened everyone in the group just by saying "hi, I'm blah blah blah", later on me and my flat-mate moved onto another group as he wanted to game this girl, so we went in and just said "who are you guys", introduced to the guy(s), then after about a minute he focused on the girl whilst I kept the dudes occupied. Did we need to use some clever line to work our way into the group? No, we sat down next to them like bosses and asked them who they were.
A little later I got talking to more randoms sat nearby by saying "ok, who the fuck are you and who the fuck are you?" Ended up sat with them for 15minutes, they bored me so I just walked off. In case you're wondering, my SPAM didn't close the girl, some other guy stole her away after he'd done all the hardwork.

Finally, I'm stood at the bar, cute tall chick comes up next to me and like a reflex I turn to her and say "FUCK ME YOU'RE TALL!!" As my 'opener'. I'm 6"2 and she was taller than me, I was genuinely shocked at her height. She laughed and showed me how tall she was without the heels. Long story short my flat-mate didn't realise I was gaming her and did something that made her actually try to leave, I recovered by stopping her from leaving to get her number then changing topic before finishing getting her number, sat down with her, made-out, then all her friends and brother came over to try stop us, my buddy's came over to help me out though. The brother was trolling me like fuck so when chick went to toilet I told him to have a seat next to me and straight up said to him "dude, I get what you're doing, you don't like that I'm sat here with your sister" he just went "yeah" to which I responded "bro, I got a sister myself, I get the protective bond you got" said a couple more things which I forget and when she came back, he actually stood up and TOLD her to sit next to me... Game! I tried pulling her back to mine but she threw up 1001 excuses so I took the number, told her we're gonna go out and let her go (closing time at this point anyway).

Lessons
1) Really needed that good night, the oneitis isn't gone by any means and I'm working on getting that girl out with me today (so far unsuccessfully) but just going out and being social, not even gaming as such.

2) Not giving a fuck was so much more natural and made us the life of the party wherever we were at and ultimately got me the make out etc.

3) This is only the 2nd time I've been out since moving into my new place, I've become lazy and need to go out more because as this night showed, even though I haven't been out in like a month I was still able to get a make-out/number and nearly pull the girl back. Going out more = more opportunities. Also need to start day game.

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