Ive been fucking this girl for a few months. I've molded the situation so that she's been doing the chasing since the start. She tells me I blow her mind like she's never a experienced. I've introduced her to bondage and anal, s$m, gspot orgasms, she's discovering now that she's really a freak...but her newfound sexuality intimidates me. She's made comments like "after having sex with you, I really wish I experienced more guys when I was younger" now she's in late 20s)

lately she's been confessing feelings for me but I keep her wondering. She's been basically trying to tell me she's falling In love with me, tells her family all about me etc etc.

She's aware I'm a ladies man but she's trying to corner me In, and she's openly telling me she's all mine and she doesn't talk to anyone else....but the extreme honesty from such a sexual girl makes me think it's a lie

So this week there were two nights she was being shady, one she wanted to "have an early night" and another "out with friends" but didn't return my texts until the following morning. Following day telling me she thinks she wants more of me in her life.

So she does want me but something tells me she's talking to another guy as well,
I talk to other chicks so it doesn't bother me, but if she's going to lie to me about it that pissing me off


How do I punish her psyche for such behavior, how do I play this to shun her?

All that smooth talk from her side can be a strategy to tie you around her finger, to get the upper hand. I think it seems as if she is a little bit "too much". There is no reason to tell someone that you are not seeing anyone else if you mean it. Such things are implied by the devotion to someone.

A relationship with such paranoid elements from you part is not a healthy relationship. I would end it ASAP, no matter what.

well a committed relationship has never been discussed between us. so shes free to do as she pleases, however if she is lying to me, that i wont respect

but im afraid to call her out on it and look jealous of another guy... so how do i get that respect through psychology?

Women respond to emotions, so if you give her the emotions she needs then you will do fine. She will gladly let you in her heart. You guys aren't in a relationship so she can do what she likes. You can imply that it is okay if she is seeing other men but to be adults about it and not beat around the bush if she is trying to seem exclusive. Up to you man, if you want a relationship with her then go for it. If not, all this lying doesn't really matter if you are just fuck buddies...doesn't change the mindset you should have going in a fuck buddy relationship, which is you shouldn't care either way if she is telling the truth or not. Just in it for the sex

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You're seeing other girls, and I assume not telling her. She's doing the exact same thing, so there's no reason to "punish her psyche" aside from your pathological need to feel superior.

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This is a clear and deliberate attempt by her to get you to invest more in her.

You got her by playing it cool and banging her, she goes along with the FWB thing and it's all groovy.

Then she develops feelings and realizes you're still in the FWB stage. She can't be having any of that, so she schemes up a way to get you to change and head towards marriage which is what she wants from you now (yes, she does.).

She decides to tell you she's talking to other guys to get you jealous (which she has succeeded in doing) and now will try and reel you into an eventual marriage by playing on this pattern of jealousy.

You can't show a reaction. If you react, she'll just get more serious with the relationship which is what she wants. If you don't she will leave you eventually. You must accept this. You can either escalate (what she wants), not show a reaction and wait around until she breaks it off (not much longer) or string her along (essentially option 2 plus some deception on your part [i.e. feign jealousy and having a more exclusive relationship that she wants while your heart is not really in it/cheating on her] in order to get sex from her for longer, but at a slightly higher cost). This will cause a very messy, acrimonious breakup.

One of the three. This ship is sinking fast, and believe me, it WILL sink. You have three options, each of which can delay the inevitable to varying degrees and proportional cost.

EDIT: I don't think you will "get" respect out of her. If she's talking to you about her family and things like that, I'm fairly certain she actually IS falling for you, in which case the whole "other guy" thing is just a ruse to get you to invest (i.e. what the several paragraphs I wrote above are about). She's probably not actually fucking another guy (then again, some girls might, but he way you describe her, she's a more innocent type who you've opened up, and now as many "innocent" types do, is falling for you. Probably not fucking other dudes [yet], but definitely trying to play with your emotions in a not so innocent way), but is playing you.

If you are a sociopath (like me), I suggest you get into an exclusive relationship with her and just cheat on her. Just make sure you never move in with her and cover your tracks. But I really don't recommend this if you have more of a conscience.

I'm actually on her side on this one. She ignored you for a whole day?? A WHOLE DAY??? OMG so cray! She was definitely sucking off some dude in the club! I mean, WTF, right?

You've been playing it cool all this time, but after such a long time chasing you (to no avail) she is of course going to cool off a bit. You need to decide what you want. If you want her to yourself, you should man up and have "the talk". If you want to play the field, don't expect her or any other girls to pass up the chance to fuck another hot guy.

Your insecurity will be the death of you son.

You're banging this chick and you're falling for her. That's why you don't want her lying to you. What does it matter if she lies, if you're only in it for the pussy? Everybody lies, but it's usually the ones we love or care about most that we hardly let get away with it. If you don't want anything to do with her besides having sex, stop caring about if she's lying to you and just bang her, leave, call another girl and go on with your day. You're being insecure for no hardly a reason aside from wanting to be respected. The best thing you can do then, is cut her loose.

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thank you guys for the insight. yes i suppose im falling for her, shes got too much going for me to cut her loose.

just an update, she started saying "i love you" through text, and she said it face to face after we had sex this weekend. she also brought up the "what are we?" talk..... i deflected the conversation partly because i still dont trust her

fast foward two days, here we are, monday night....shes MIA again. its clockwork every monday night for weeks she goes shady and starts coming up with "ill be busy doing this tonight" excuses. any other day of the week she keeps a running text convo

so my gut tells me theres a dude for sure, every monday night im catching onto her cycle... so whether hes a safety net or shes just that horny she needs to be fucked all week i dont know

id like to make to her my gf but i really cant trust her without this clarity, that is the major issue

i dont know if playing suspicious like "rolling my eyes" face when she lies about what she did come tomrw is a chumpy idea? should i let her know im catching on without actually being upfront?

this was a really entertaining read my friend. I laughed outloud at "how do I punish her psyche" lol lol

Tell her you are seeing other girls and see how she responds. This has two benefits 1) if she isn't seeing another guy it will get her really worked up and you could probably make her your girlfriend to calm her down. 2) if she is seeing another guy it would give her a chance to come clean.

If she is seeing another guy I would say cut it off completely or just keep fucking her but don't make her your girlfriend for obvious reasons. You don't want to deal with that.

This reminds me that once I had a girlfriend do the same things. She would say she was going out with friends, or randomly she had to help her mom for the night. It turns out she was stripping on the side for extra cash. So just because she says she is out with friends doesn't necessarily mean she is fucking another guy, but probably.

i imply that i talk to other girls but ive never considered telling her directly...kinda like that idea.

heres her text to me tonight at 10:30( last i heard from her prior was 6pm)

her: hi baby
her: got busy. came home. worked on yard. ate dinner, cleaned kitchen
her: ya know how i am when i get in that busy bee mood.

is it just me or does that seem like total bullshit to anyone else?....rambling on without me asking anything , not using "I", already having a follow up to reassure her statement.

dont mean to over analyse but does anyone else think shes clearly a liar

Honestly man it is hard to tell if she is being sincere just because I don't know her. my first instinct is to believe her, or at least think she is trying to play hard to get or some bullshit.

50% she is busy
40% she is pretending to be busy
10% she is lying

girls are emotional beings, it is very plausible that earlier she felt like an independent woman who wanted to get some things done/wanted to show you she didn't need to text you all day. Now that she is all alone after 10 she gets a different kind of emotional and wants to talk now. Consider it. Don't keep the attitude that she is with other guys because this will totally show in you demeanor and nothing is more antisudective than a jealous almost-boyfriend.

Have you considered asking her casually if she is with anyone else? I usually ask a girl by saying " are you seeing other people because I really hate condoms and it would be cool if we could ditch them. If you are then no worries but i'm going to keep wrapping it"

thanks for the pep up there, makes me want to pretend im not pissed

i think shes lying because she does this same thing every single monday, its like another affair she has scheduled(in my mind atleast). early in the day shell come up with a pre-excuse of whats shes doing later, i usually ignore that text...then shell make it a point to tell me again that shell be busy.

she doesnt do this any other day of the week, very non-congruent of her usual behavior.

its not that im trying to show her im jealous, but i do go cold the following day...its just my natural reaction...and she starts chasing to cover ground. i want her to realize her being insincere loses my respect for her, but at the same time i dont want to seem jealous so its a tough situation.

if i keep playing unaffected, i think shell keep taking me for granted

when i make a joke about "all of her boyfriends", she has straight up gotten emotional and lovey dovey and promised me she doesnt talk to anyone else. this is prob why im so bothered by this whole situation

Fuck other girls then you can play it even