Why did you delete what you wrote before?

Dude how old are you and how many LTRs have you had?

You seem a bit inexperienced.

25 and this is my second one. I have dated many girls but my second ltr. First one was with a girl who wasnt as attractive and more mature than this one.

I actually think this is the kind of relationship where getting busy, being a bit more unavailable, meeting other girls, working on your own life would help a lot. Especially because then you would stop being needy and insecure and she would be more attracted and you wouldn't give a fuck about shit tests and whatnot.

Time reflecting on past relationships goes a long way, bro. If you give it ample time from girlfriend to girlfriend and identify exactly how you want to be treated and what you didn't like and wouldn't stand for again in a relationship you'll come out a better man and a better partner having experienced it. I've had about 10 serious LTRs(1Year~). At first I had no idea how a relationship was supposed to go(Around age 14-15) and I did some stupid and immature, controlling things by any stretch of the imagination. Still, the relationships lasted over a year and I realised I didn't want to be in that kind of partnership. I asked myself what was reasonable and what wasn't. I found a lot of what was wrong was due to my own insecurities and inexperience. The problems that weren't my fault and totally unacceptable behaviour were actually indirectly my fault because I didn't put my foot down when I should have. I was afraid at times to put my foot down and say "That's not right. Cut the shit or i'm out." I was more afraid of what a good boyfriend should be doing to stand up for myself and always second guessed myself in those situations. One thing I learned from that at a young age is to NEVER listen to a woman, especially a woman you're in a relationship with, about what is and what is not a good boyfriend because they will always, ALWAYS give you a 110% bias answer to better themselves.


For about four years I went from one extreme to the next bouncing back and forth between being too controlling and being too care free and not giving a fuck about what she did until I finally settled somewhere in between and have had nothing but good relationships that were mutually beneficial. I could even stay friends with these women afterwards and be happy for them.

The staples of a good boyfriend I found were:

1. Don't be afraid to put your foot down if you don't like something -- You should never have to settle. If she's doing something inappropriate just lay down the law.

2. Don't do things you wouldn't like her to do(And vice versa) -- Texting that HB9 that's an eyelash away from sexting you? Drop it or keep it friendly, otherwise you can bet your LTR is going to suffer.

3. Don't ever be physical with a woman -- This doesn't even need to be commented on. There's never an excuse for hitting a woman unless she gets turned on by it sexually(Even at that, don't go crazy no matter how hard she wants it). If she's the type that will bring you to the brink you need to walk away and dump her. If you have a short temper learn to control it and learn how to walk away.

4. Respect and be confident in yourself -- This is the most important: If you have respect and confidence in yourself you won't second guess your decisions and you'll be more informed about what you really want from a relationship. If you respect and have confidence in yourself you won't easily get jealous and see if you can or can not trust a woman(Some women you couldn't trust to walk around the corner, that's just how it is). Most importantly moreover; if you have the respect and confidence you deserve you'll see when someone just isn't good for you and when you should move on and take the relationship as a life lesson to improve your future relationships.