Good afternoon PUAS, and thanks for reading my topic, good weekend to all.





I was in this situation once at work where my workgroup bombed me with rejection, or to be more accuratte it was a social "telling off" after something i did less good for the common good (i delivered a birthday postcard to my birthday collegue before time that day by mistake.......)


Has i have never heard about the term "group shit test" or read anything about the subject, i leave this question......... what do you guys think ?





........do they exist ? and if so is it possible to defuse them ?

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In my experience, at least in the way i see things, group shit test do exist and it happen. How does the group shit test look like? This is from my experience long time ago.

Experience 1
I approach a girl and say 'hi' and playful with her and the next things i know, many girls near her area bombarded me with a series of boring question in a tense like environment with a loud mad voice. In other words, they seems to protect that girl by making my attention focus on them and making me feel like shit.

Experience 2
This is worse than experience 1. This happen when you approach a girl in the group or approach a group of girls and when you being playful with them, they response with a playful manner too but more harshly. This mean they use far harsh words (making their expression seems serious) than you toward you. And worse, they said it loudly so everyone around that area can hear.

Now that my friend, is a mysteries that i have yet to solve myself. If there is anyone out there who know how to deal with this in a more productive manner or so, do reply this post

Shit test: A test that a girl performs on a male by saying or doing something to judge the reaction or response from him.

No, there is no such thing as a group shit test, at least the examples in this thread are not shit tests. Every negative or weird reaction or rejection from a person/persons is not a shit test and rarely is. With anything, just be non reactive but stand up for yourself when boundaries are crossed and you don't worry about shit tests.

I think I know what you're talking about. Group shit test is probably when a group is teasing you. Kind of like being picked on in middle school. Don't worry about it. Just acknowledge and shrug it off and keep on your merry way.

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I don't think that exists either.
But srsly OP, I've seen your style of writing a while now and honestly it aggravates me.
Hope it doesn't speak for your character, taking a shitload of space with no content in it.

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Thanks for the opinions guys, cybertiger are you refering to my style of writing ?






The last time i got something alike a group shit test was when i was out with friends, round table of drinks and they all give you the what are you drinking question..... As i live in the UK, they talk drinking very serious, so when i said "juice and ginger ale"...... question immediately was shot "DOes it have alchool in it ?" i said, not really and they all laughed lightly.



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They do exist. But are rare and you don't need to worry about them.

The last one you described about drinks etc. however, was not one. You are thinking too much. Learn to think less. Just do it. Don't ask me why. You will see for yourself. Less is more. You don't use a full can of deodrant everytime before you go out do you? No. Cos less is more. Anything more than 2 sprays is bad. Less is more. Keep it minimal. From now on, you are a "Minimalistic GOD." Relax yourself. Go get a massage. Feel what it's like to be relaxed and you won't turn back, it's in your human nature not to.

They [group shit tests] exist with AMOGS, females, whoever.

The way past is to 100% not react, not be offended, not start to wonder why they just said what they said, the moment you repeat what they just said in your own mind is the moment you fail.

There is a habit to be formed to not react or become self-conscious (self-conscious is repeating in your own mind what they just said.) I understand you're in a different country so you may feel a small bit alienated from people. Just find a connection. The key to this part is CONNECTION. What interests do you have? Find people who are interested in what you're interested in. Do not find people and then pretend to be interested in what they are. Do not try hard to fit in. Do not say something completely stupid because you're trying too hard to join in on a conversation that you have no interest in the subject matter. DO find people who share what YOU are interested in.

Think of it like one of those attractions at a fairground, the ones where you have a plastic hammer and little heads pop up and you have to bash the heads to keep them down with the hammer. Every time a negative or reactive or self-conscious thought creeps into your mind (even in the SLIGHTEST) then you KILL THAT THOUGHT by bashing it on the head with the plastic hammer. If it creeps up again, bash it again. Until there are no more to bash.

As a double-pronged attack on this predicament you find yourself in, you must also learn to not let other people drain your energy. Have you ever been really energetic and chirpy and then talk to someone for a while and then feel absolutely drained, tired, shut down, and generally negative? What's happening here is you, yes YOU gave your energy away to someone else. You must learn to retain your own energy in all circumstances. Think of a buddhist monk meditating in the center of a very, very large room. He is the only one there. He is at one with himself, peaceful, calm, still, yet very aware and flowing with life on the inside, he is feeling a feeling that he has just bench-pressed the world, and can do it again whenever he chooses. He is the true sense of being, the true sense of being alive.

Now, all of a sudden a fly enters the room. The fly is flying everywhere making a loud buzzing sound (as there is no other sounds it is very loud.) Does this distract the buddha? Does the buddha give away his energy to the fly by being distracted from his own self and sense of being? No. He continues on as he had done, acknowledging the buzzing, and guiding the thought of it in another direction, peacefully aka bashes the head with the plastic hammer, killing that thought.

All of a sudden more flies start coming in, the buddha repeats what he had done, and is in no way affected by them.

Time goes on, the buddha is still meditating, he is still at one with himself, the flies are buzzing around everywhere making such a distracting sound, but he is unaffected.

Time goes on, and the whole room is packed FULL of flies, the buddha remains the same.

Hey Classyness, thanks for the great feed for the question ! Very clear indeed.






Im gonna give it a try, so in the question of this shit test of "Does it have alchool in it " How would you defuse it ?




ALso, any other great tips on how to not let others drain my energy ? (It seems to be a BIG sticking point to me lately, now im surrended with people...and wasnt used to that)



Cheers


Thank you for being a supportive comunity whose advice has served me well more than once.

Your answer to this question should be assertive, and here's everything you need to say assertively:
"No."
You don't need to explain why there is no alcohol. Just say no and smile or whatever.

Also, as I said, it is not a shit test. You're overthinking. Stop with the paranoia. Chill.

As for more tips, yes I do. If you have no hobbies that you do on your own - get one. If you have one, do it more, on your own. Spend some more alone time bettering yourself in all areas of your life. You don't even need to tell people your business. Look up the book "48 laws of power" by Robert Greene, and read it, 3 times every year, back to front. You could easily read the whole thing in a day if your brain likes that sort of stuff. It will teach you alot of things that will help in all areas of your life.

There are situations in which you need to admit you are not welcome, no one can win them all. However, with a bit of style, charm. A good attitude, suave jokes that once again make you the prize you should be able to handle these type of things. Reframe the whole scenario to favor you.

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Thanks again for the tips guys, very useful.






I loved the idead of MINIMALISTIC GOD, can you talk a little bit more about it ?





A bit offtopic here, but one other sticking point i seem to have is the need to always justify myself and my actions everytime, everywhere, like if i was in somekind of danger....... either is to my family, my housematrs, my work colleagues, to HBs........have yous ever came across to this ?

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