Hi,

I have had my eye on this girl for some time. She is well known in the area. Interesting thing is she is 25 and always with her parents! I know for sure she is single.

I met her out one night few years back then have seen her several times at the same gym. We have had good conversations at the gym with her upbeat and has shown interest in hanging out. I got her number after few times talking to her at the gym.

I called and asked her to go to a sold out show with me a few weeks back. I asked the day before since I was given tickets that day. She textd me when the show started saying she is there and thanks for thinking of her and she will come say hi if she has a chance. I responded “Awesome you are here! Enjoy the show and talk with you later” (I saw via social media she was really at the show)

I saw her at the gym twice this week and she avoided me. Yesterday, she walked past me twice in a narrow isle while I was doing cardio. She looked the other way at the tv the first time and then the second time she had her head down in her phone while walking past me. I know for sure she saw me. Should I of said hi even though she made it obvious to avoid me?

Should I even bother talking to her or contacting her again? I have been sad about it since I have had a major crush on her for some time.




Thanks

It was few years between meeting her and asking her out. I think the high value event may have been a DLV as she thought that you didn't have anyone else to go with (I know that's obviously most likely not the case, just may have been what she was thinking).

I would have stated that she was shocked you were into her in that way and that this is the reason for her avoidance however you mentioned that in the past she had shown interest in hanging out.

Re-open her in person about the show (if she liked it etc). Tease her about something. Treat her like a bratty little sister. Don't let her think you have a crush on her. She doesn't want you to profess your feelings to her and feels uncomfortable now. Show her you're a laidback guy and you don't care that she couldn't join u because after all you had a better time than you would have with her.

It's said on this forum so often because it is the global solve for getting over a girl and for getting a girl who has lost interest to regain interest: Meet more girls my brother.

You're overthinking it. just say hello.

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You guys are correct.

Oceanx, that is how I have been (myself) when interacting with her, ie laid back and friendly shown enough interest to be friendly.
I just want to hangout with her once to see if she is cool. I know she is very shy as she told me this when I first met her.

I just saw she is going to be on local tv this week. Should I mention something about this when I run into her? She has been getting a lot of notoriety lately and I do not want to seem like a crazy fan trying to be involved, if that makes sense.

My fear with approaching any girl is being "that guy" or seeming desperate. Which I am not.

No,

You are bordering on stalker status

Detox why you say that?

He keeeeds.

Anyway, go talk to her. If she's really avoiding you, it will be plain. If so, meh. Talk to her again in a few weeks. Girls are ridiculously fickle.

I've had girls go from highly interested in me, to very disinterested in me, back to highly interested in the span of a week.

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So last night I met my friend at a restaurant bar and the subject girl was there in the bar with a guy. (could tell it was not a date by both their postures)
I am not sure she saw me but my friend went next door so I glanced around for them then went out to call them like a dork. If she saw me I don’t want her to think I left cuz I saw her. Haha . I keep running into her in a 20mile radius.