As title says, seeing a girl who comes from complicated family. Both mom and dad were alcoholics and drug abusers, her dad died when she was nine. Her mom when she was 26. She openly says she hated her father, but was attached to her mum. Naturally she has daddy issues (absent father symptoms). In our relationship, which was casual sex at first, she didn't trust me, slowly that changed, though even now it sometimes feels like she's reluctant to get attached.
She drinks, smokes, and goes out frequently, however is childlike, very cuddly and loving, and enjoys feeling protected. Another thing is she's really sexual, and gets off easily -great for me, but puts a question mark in my mind about the monogamist relationship we have. Nonetheless, she says she feels a calm around me, which she doesn't feel around anyone else, and she can't figure out why.

All that said, what can I do for her? What do these girls look for in a relationship? I genuinely care for her as a person, but I've never had a situation like this. Also, keep in mind that Im 22 and she's 28.

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Could be a compulsive cheater type, has all the makings daddy issues + high sex drive, but you never really know for sure. The best you can do is be "the man" and hope shes satisfied. I had a gf that i was pretty sure was cheating but the sex was fantastic and she was hot, we even got along really well. The plan was to wait til I caught her and then just go for open relationship. Broke up before it did. Just drop hints of open relationship she might jump on it.

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Hey DM,

When I read title I initially thought you meant "normal" daddy issues. ie: absent father/divorce etc. When I would of replied to with: This is a common thing in todays generation become no one is staying together anymore. Almost every other girl will have came from a divorced or single parent home. It is a tough situation, but it can certainly be worked through because its so common.

When I saw what she actually was I'm thinking: This is a toughy bro; 9 times out of 10 she was highly sexually promiscuous(multiple partners) for a large period of her life. As far as starting a family and raising a kid with.. Thats something you would have to really consider. I know the outside looks nice, but is the inside healthy physically or spiritually enough to sustain something longterm with?

I have had my share of this types of women, and they're often unstable after sometime. However, she is 28 so she may be wising up a little bit.

Theres no concrete answer to this.. All I can do is provide perspectives.

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If she still drinks, smokes and parties at the age of 28, she's not worth it unless you like the Lindsay Lohan type of girl. Maturity and emotionally stable are the first two things you should always look for before considering getting into a relationship with a girl. However, if you just want to continue to fuck her, by all mean, do so but don't bet all your chips on a losing hand.

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Ill add that she's finishing up her degree and has a full time job with a high position at a firm. This girl is a walking paradox. The promiscuous cheater thing has definitely crossed my mind. On top of everything, she says she'll be rooming with a guy friend soon. Its one of those situations where I have to trust her, or not be in a relationship--though she is incredibly honest about everything she does. I dunno, I need further insight into this..

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It does sound like she has too many things on her plate at the moment. If she's honest about everything, just ask her how many guys is she sleeping with. You can get a good read on the answer whether she's lying or not.

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If you think you can handle the mental mood swings, odd behaviour and bizarre attention seeking tactics then by all means go for it.

Otherwise run for the fucking hills mate. I stopped shagging a "daddy issues" girl last year and she's still causing me hassle.

THEY ARE FUCKING MENTAL.

This I've messed with too many chicks with daddy issues, it never ends well.

A person can only cause you "hassle" insofar as you allow them to. Take responsibility.

Nobody escapes life's effects unscathed, none of here have any right to judge.

If you like her, proceed with caution. If she hasn't given you any reason to question her fidelity then you have no right to assume she may or may not cheat. You either trust her or you don't, and if you don't is this your issue, or one culminating from the relationship itself (e.g., she's done stuff for you to doubt her).

Yeah the trust thing is always in the back of my mind. Still I really dont have a choice but to trust her. She goes out often, drinks, and given we met at a bar where she came up to me, so can I trust her has been a question in my mind for a long time.

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Bro, you can only get hurt if you're afraid of it.

Don't let these guys discourage you; do your thing. If she cheats on you or something, say "fuck it" - theres always more. Just enjoy it and if it turns out bad - take the lesson and improve your life.

Peace & Love

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