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If you dont want to be the alpha, be mysterious.
In a theoretical group you have the alpha, the betas, and the mysterious lone ranger. The alpha calls the shots, the betas follow, and the lone ranger does what ever the hell he wants, the lone ranger is HIS OWN ALPHA.
The lone ranger makes his own decisions, he doesn't follow orders, he is not beta, he is his own man, he is an alpha who doesnt need betas to be alpha. He's a true independent.
I stumbled across this in three ways. 1: I accidentally became the "lone ranger" in a group and it reaped rewards I never thought possible, chicks seemed mesmerized by my unorthodox decision making, it intrigued them. 2: Ive seen other guys pull it off really well. 3: One of best friends (female) always seems to go for this type.
So you don't have to be THE alpha, just be YOUR OWN alpha. It's mysterious.
I like how you frame it!
I understand that you, like me, associate some negative stuff around the concept of "being an alpha" and rightfully so!