So went to a strip club tonight, basically intending to get a couple lapdances. Instead the dancers all ignored me, and a shot girl sat down with me basically just to chat and take a break. Don't get me wrong, the shot girl was cute and I tried gaming her... but she basically decided I was the guy she could sit down with and talk about how tired she was. She didn't even try selling me a shot, she sat and talked... went to the back (where the air conditioning was apparently working,) came back and chatted some more... then went off to sell other guys drinks.

I kind of feel like the "safe" guy that she didn't think would hit on her...

You have just broken up with your ex, relax.

You're in terminator mode , you are looking really hard for pussy and it's repelling women. "The hungry don't get fed"

Just chill out , hang out with some pals with some beers, travel some where away from home is a good idea

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That's just it though... it was a strip club. I didn't even get propositioned for a lapdance or anything, and the shot girl didn't try to sell me expensive shots. I mean, the entire business model of a strip club is to take advantage of horny guys... and instead this chick is just sitting there relaxing with me.

I basically feel like she looked at me and decided "this guy won't even try to have sex with me."

That's the mentality you want to have in a strip club. Listen, any girl who works at a strip club (be it the shot girls or the dancers) is getting hit on all night and having guys trying to take her home. You WANT to be the guy that girls just chill with.

I kinda agree with what Pebble said as far as take some time off and get your mind off pussy for a while if you just broke up with your girl.... But I also think you should get back out there and start talking to girls again. A strip club really isn't the best place to do that though lol those girls are all trying to game YOU.

If I were trying to pick up in a strip club yes, but I wasn't... I really just wanted to get a lapdance and do some groping. I guess this goes back to my insecurity about being able to feel sexual and give off a sexual vibe. ( sexual-confidence-vs-psychological-issues-vt167899.html )

Maybe I should just look at this optimistically though and think she might have been interested in me.
It's actually been 6 months since we "broke up." Although we still live in the same duplex, and spend a lot of time together. Kind of an "it's complicated" situation but I'm out trying to get some action while she figures out what she wants.

I'm at least improving, approaching girls for a change... need lots of work though.
That's just it, they _weren't_ trying to game me when I wanted to be gamed!

I think thefury meant

You are getting gamed for your money and not your willy.

Dude, just talk normal every day people/girls for god sake. You're being very naive. Because a shot girl sat near you and didn't try to sell you anything is not an IOI , it's a girl taking a break that sat down next to a guy that she knows that isn't going to hit on her/no threat

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