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Goodness, this thread totally misses the point of "what is attractive." You have to be attractive to attract girls. There are just no shortcuts. No amount of interesting "dates" or "DHVs" will make a girl attracted to you if you aren't behaving in a way that is attractive. This has far more to do with body language and voice tone than anything.
Being attractive + time with girl = getting laid. It really is that simple.
The fact that you say "I have to be attractive 24/7" tells me that you don't actually consider yourself naturally enough. It tells me you think you have to put it on. Let me tell you, girls aren't stupid (most aren't) if you are faking they will know. They might be fooled on a night out an you will/might get laid, but eventually it will click and you're toast.
You think when I'm with a girl I think "shit! Gotta be attractive now!" Of course not! I've spent years practicing and ALWAYS hold myself in a way that girls will be drawn to. For you being around this girl is an ordeal right? You are always thinking "shit! What do I say/do!?" This means your skills aren't there.
You need to go out and get that shit sorted before you ever even THINK about hitting up a girl you live with. It could go south very quickly.
Also, the fact that you have even posted this tells me you were not direct at all. If ou want girls you have to be direct. With your words, tone and body. You have to show attraction for them instantly. Being direct shows confidence and girls like confidence (duh!).
Anyway I hope this helps but you should really not be going for this girl. Tough to hear I know but it's the truth.
Definitely.
From my perspective, and this is probably stating the obvious but you're moving into social circle game now, which is nowhere near as simple as cold approach. Because of the unpredictability of social circle game, you won't find loads of material about it on the internet.
The good thing about social circle is its a bit more relaxed, and you have a bit of flexibility in your state. Night game/cold approach, you're state has to be 100% all the time. Social circle, not so much.
So be the attractive person you are, all the time you're around her. You have to tread the line between friend and lover here, and it can be quite difficult. What I have found works is organising a group of you to hang out, but when you're there, engage everyone, not just her. This way, you won't get too close to her to be put in the friendzone. It HAS to be casual. Look out for indications that she finds you attractive, and after a while, hang out with her a bit. Incorporate casual touch when you see her.
To be honest, your situation is quite difficult because you live with her. If things go south, its going to be a horrible year for both of you, so it might be best to not get close to her until later on. Uni girls are pretty forgiving about stuff like that. I slept and then dated a girl who lived opposite me at university, but it wasn't till the last 2 weeks of term that we got together and she gave the whole 'i've been waiting for this for so long' speech.