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Can you give me a run through of what goes on in your mind when you first contact them? Should I compliment at all? A lot of times I would say something like "hey cutie, what's your name/something in reference to their profile and then end with what do you like to do for fun?"
So far I hit up around 40-50 girls and gotten like 5 replies back
Mindset? If I have to describe it with words, it'd be "I'm screening to see if she is fun and open minded enough to my liking". You can also read my posts on my signature. But generally, my first message usually contains some tease about something on their profile and qualifying with my sense of humor (this is when I have time or find the girl very interesting), other than that, I usually just send out the same message to about 100 girls every Monday.
Compliment? Not at all, they receive tons of that everyday. If I have to, I'd compliment on one of their quality, personality wise, not physical. The thing is these women get swarmed with dozens boring, ass-kissing, pervert, playing too safe messages, to the point that they've become jaded (especially when it comes to POF, they don't show your message, just your picture before they open your mail, so pictures play an important role on this site).
So your goal is to engage their emotions whether it's negative or positive. The stronger the emotion you can create, the better your chance will be. You can always shape and lead the conversation later on after she replies if your frame and inner game are strong enough.
Here are the few that I've used before and got decent results out of it:
- Hey you look extremely familiar. Did we sleep together?
- Strange, you look just like this bully that I went to kindergarten with. Is your name [insert a random name]?
- I want you in every possible position
- Hypothetically, [insert some bizarre scenario] (my favorite, one time I asked a girl what would she do if she hit it off with a guy and come home with him, clothes are flying then she realizes both of his legs are prosthetic. This is a good opener since you can always gauge the girl's reaction to certain details of the story)
- Phew, my bad for the delay. I've been busy fighting dragons on the way here. Are you the rumored captured princess? (I used this for any girl that mention that they're romantic in their profile)
etc.....
Another thing to keep in mind is that Asian males are usually not associated with alpha male images in Western culture, so a lot of times they will throw shit tests at you to test your frame. Be ready to put them back to their places.
LD:DR - Be light and playful - Don't send too safe or formal 2 paragraphs messages - Be personal about the message (read their profile and have a quick cold reading on their personality) - Number close after a few exchanges (3-4 replies)
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