Conversation routines:
- Have you ever done <something that
you already have done or
you are about to do>
- What happens in <place> that doesn't happen here
- What does it feels like <something she said> (eg: What does it feels like to be a doctor)
- What is it about <something> that you love
- How do you imagine yourself in 10 years from now
- What was it like growing up in <her country> because <her country> must be so different comparing to <the country where you are at the moment>
- You look very <adjective> because <describe a few reasons why you said that>. <Some question related to it> (eg: You look very french, i can sense the french vibe on you, also i can sense that on your ascent because it sounds really sexy. Why did you come to Italy? You have the must tasteful chocolates, we just have pasta!)
- Is that right that <affirmation>? I say this because <explain why you affirmed that> (eg: Is that right that almost all doctors are hypochondriac? I say this because... you know... you study a lot of things in school then you start to relate that symptoms to real diseases and then you start to freak out because you find out that you might have cancer or something)
- What's the story behind <something she said she did or she's doing at the moment> (eg: what's the story behind studying to become a doctor)
- What would be your dream if you <something>
- I don't know about you but <give her an opinion that you have>
- <her country> must be so different from <the country where you are at the moment>. I imagine <her country> like <adjectives> and <the country where you are at the moment> are so <adjectives> (eg: France must be so different from Italy. I imagine France as noisy, a lot of people, anyone speaking with a funny accent... and Italy are so quiet, not stressful at all, the silence take place of this whole country....)
- "Tell me something about you that i would never guess" then when she answers you, just say: "No, no, tell me something weird or really dark that i would never guess about you"
Tips to maintain the convo:
- Try to get her an opinion on something you said without making a question (just insinuate something and wait for her opinion on it, like: "I don't know about you but i love cup cakes")
- (This might seam weird but works as gold) After she stop talking just say "hum hum" (or repeat her last words) and look at her without saying anything else. So you should wait for her to add something more. Then she'll fell forced to talk more and she'll do it. (But don't over do this, otherwise she'll get uncomfortable!! Just do it when you thing she might have something else to say, for example if you are talking about her passion for something or something that she likes to do)
- If you run out of things to say just get the last words the girl said, repeat them, use them as a statement and add a question or an affirmation to it, like: HER: I love shopping | YOU: Ok, you love shopping, so you must be a compulsive buyer.
- Never interrupt a girl, let her talk... While she's talking she's doing all the work! You want her to talk right, why would you want to interrupt her...
- Give pauses while talking (this makes your attitude more confident and relaxed) but don't look around while you do this otherwise you might make her think that you are bored and you want to go away.
- Conversation must of the times be focused on her but she needs to know things about you (what you do, what are your passions, what's your name, etc...)
- Use "us" or "we" in your talking to make you able to create instant role-plays ("role play" in short is some kind of a story that you create to perspective the future, in this case: Something that you might or might not do in the future with her company - it's a good NLP technique because it relates you with her in the future, so you start to get out of the stranger's zone)
- Observe something with her but never criticize it (eg. Oh look that painting, you like art right, give me an artist perspective on that, like when they imagine something that no other human been can imagine)
- Disagree with her when you don't think she's right, it's ok! If you do this you show her that you are a genuine person.
- Make her qualifying herself to you by asking her behaviour (eg. No i don't believe you, you are not like that)
How to show interest
Always show a little bit of your intentions (that you are attracted to her), but never do it over and over again otherwise you'll get her uncomfortable.
- If she say something about her carrier, just say: Oh that's really cool, you are really smart and really beautiful that's a rare combination
- If you got distracted just say: "Oh I'm sorry i just got distracted by your eyes" or "Oh I'm sorry i just got distracted because i can't stop thinking about kissing you... oh i shouldn't have told you that"
When she asks:
- When she asks you something, tell her a funny story that can gives her the answer and also can be conversationally rich (eg: if you are a web designer just say: "You know that websites that are always down and never do the work you want them to do? Well, i'm the guy behind a few of that problems, I'm a web designer" | If you are a marketer: "You know that annoying advertises that you can find over your favourite websites? I'm responsible for that! I'm a marketer.") | If you are a psychologist: "I'm kinda of a person that hears a lot of other people's problems and try to save them with the right words" (she might say: "Oh you are a psychologist", then you should say: "Yes, but no free consulting for you")
- When she asks you something you can make her guess by giving her some tips, just say: "I'm going to tell you but you have to guess..." - This is challenging
- They might ask you what kind of hobbies do you have, so you might need to have that in your mind, so if you don't do shit, at least make up something.
- Every question you ask to a girl might get back to you (the spell might turned against the magician), so make sure that you also have an answer for all of your questions.
- When you ask her something and she replies, you can also give her your perspective about the question you made (you can also disagree with her).
- When you are describing something that you like to do, use the magical words "love" or "like", and then fit them within a sentence that can qualify you, eg: "I really love swimming, i love to take my bike and ride mountains, i love to get out with my friends for a whole weekend to some interesting places... you know you work all the week so you have to do passionate things to avoid the stress .... and i think that... all of this things have in common is this sense of adventure, the freedom, ..."
Topics to talk about:
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The past (eg. You said that you work at <bla bla> but what you wanted to do when you were a little girl)
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The present (eg. You look very <adjectives> i guess you are going to <activity>)
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The future (you can link the future with the past) (eg. You wanted to be a doctor but you don't want it anymore, now you want to study design, ok... and all of us have ambitions so i believe that you want to become a famous artist.)
Focus on passions, adventures, dreams, hopes and ambitions 
CHAT
disappointingly)
