She doesn't owe you an explanation; who do you think you are? Her husband? Exboyfriend? Bestfriend? I don't know how many women you've dealt with but unless things were serious(sex more than 10times); explanations are rarely if ever given. Just stop it man; I've already told you what to do. You can stop living in the past whenever you are ready. It will get you no where.

Just based on the fact that this is a double thread and reading your posts and responses, I have no doubt in my mind that you came off as needy to her, and might have turned her off for good. Follow Joey's advice and ignore her for a while - not just to try to get her back but for your own good - you don't need her.

Give her a chance and try to gather intel through mutual friends, social networks, etc. I had a similar situation with a girl, taught she was an insolent bitch and it turns out her parents were going through a divorce and the poor girl's world was collapsing. I'm just saying, maybe it isn't that she doesn't want to talk to you, there may be some unforseen circunstances.

I'm sure you weren't the only guy she was talking to; she took a step back to" Test " you for a day, you turned all needy, so she turned to another guy she was talking to.

I'm sure you weren't the only guy she was talking to; she took a step back to" Test " you for a day, you turned all needy, so she turned to another guy she was talking to.

Met this girl over a month and a half ago and she has been texting me first almost everyday... She was really into me, we live about an hour apart so we didn't see eachother much but after a week or so of texting we went out on a first date and it ended very well, ended up k-closing... We then went on a second date last week (we have been texting the whole time up until) and it ended up well i think, ended up making out in her car, probably could have escalated more and f-closed but i didnt... but we had a good time and me and this girl really connect...

Anyway, she texts me the next day (sunday) and everything seems good... I even pushed to go out Tuesday and she said to let her know the details but she was free...
The following day (Monday) I text her back and I get a reply hours later (she was working) and we ended up only exchanging a couple texts and nothing was set on Tuesday... Tuesday neither of us texted eachother... So I text her wednesday and she doesn't reply till i send her a second text hours later (i know i messed up here but she has done that to me a lot so i caved)... She ends up replying (saying she was really busy and tired) and we talk for a bit then I ignore her last text and went to bed... Thursday I send her a text just before bed, no reply... Friday I send her another text, no reply...

Now I'm fuckked and I look needy... Is this a loss cause? This one hurting me bad, I wasn't really into her at first but she texted me everyday and now I miss it and worried i'll lose her...

Is she just upset I ignored her text or do you think she could really lose interest that quick?? appreciate any advice....

First of all it sounds like this girl was really into you but it seems to me like her attraction for you faded when you began moving to slow and not making a move and trying to close her.

Now her attraction for you has cooled off and you're the one stuck chasing her.

I would advise you to read these 3 blog posts that I wrote on my site that are directly related to these issues:

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Really? Only the second date and I had to close or it's done??

I'm not judging this guy but thats bullshit. At the end of the day dude; you have to understand that there are no " Special" situations. Once you've seen one of these situations you've seen them all; which is why I was able to call what happened without physically knowing. Now, I already gave you instruction on what to do at this point; I gave you instruction knowing there was another guy in the picture so those instructions still stand. Go back, read the old post, do as I said and everything will work out. I've seen this all before, multiple times.

When she finally does contact you whether that be in one week or one month, return back to this post and we'll pick up where we left off.

Joey

I am taking your advice, and I will follow through. So I do thank you for that but how are you so sure she is going to even contact me? And from your experience what do these girls say when they eventually do come back? I just don't want her to say something I don't expect and tempt me to reply if that ever happens... And in the case she only sends me one text do I ever bother replying at all?

All that being said, I do know I won't be as interested in her as I am now if she ever does contact me... So I will keep moving forward and try to move on as tough as it is... Part of me is pissed off how she 'ended' things though, I feel if she did come back I should pretend to care and break her heart to let her know how it felt... I know it's wrong but revenge/jealousy right now would feel so right...

She will never text you again if thats your attitude. This is your fault! Why do you want to take revenge against her? You are the leader, you run your kingdom, there are no queendoms; if anything goes wrong in your kingdom you have to take the wrap for it. Take responsibility and be a man. You got needy, she left for a better guy, and its your fault. You can't be upset with her; you broke your own heart. Accept that.

Girls don't know any better; they aren't bound by the same logical masculine rules that we are bound by. They're women! Not men. This is your fault! Tell yourself that. If you want to get revenge, take that against yourself.

As far as what she will text you, if you fix your attitude. It doesn't matter. Just DO NOT respond. I know this game dude. There are no special situations. I've seen men like you over and over who think they their situation is a little different and they are always wrong; asking me not to say " I told you so". Just DON'T respond.

Lets end this thread here, until she does contact you again.