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Skills i got to say your posts are fucking gold in the fact that they are informative and entertaining to read.
I struggled for two years in this pua world failing miserably always. It was really disheartening as things seemed to be getting worse for me.
Different story now. I'm not great or anything but shit is slowly falling into place for me. I'm doing it by dealing with the exact things on your list in some shape or form. In short great great list. What i notice though is that your entire list is symptoms from one core problem. The "core" of that person, inner game, being comfortable with yourself.
Hey man thanks, keep at it, pick up is messy, focus on progress, glad you are getting better.
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1. Neediness - needing someone or something to validate them
^ That is not the neediness i am refering, neediness it manifested in all types of ways. I myself was needy with my current gf. But anyways if you want to explore the neediness subject, mark manson book models, is the best source. Second is this video by td
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YNovswAlmio
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2. Trying to be someone your not - they don't want to be them
again, this is not what i am referring too, is trying to be this "fake alpha" which is what mm, proposes, needy dudes overcompensating coming across alpha. Even a bunch of advance dudes are like that.
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3. not being a lover - how can they effectively love somebody if they hate themselves. Thats why these unhealthy obsessions grow.
dude, this is not what i am referring too either, lover is a
sexual threat. in other words a sexual dude.
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4. not taking care of yourself- If they dislike themselves they don't want to deal with themselves or work on themselves.
^ this is about maximizing look potential. For example 8% body fat, there is no reason why you should not be at that body fat for example by hitting the gym. Dressing nice, facial hair, cool haircut etc...
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5. Method - Believing the answer lies outside of them.
nonono, believing a method/book has the answer to get you with a particular girl. They are just guidelines, things that work for a particular author.
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6. not recognizing invites - this one is selfishness created by neediness. When they're needy they're wrapped up in themselves thinking of what they want. they don't give a damn about what the girl wants. they're not really paying attention to her. they're paying attention to they're fantasy of her inside they're head.
^ no, man this is about recognizing no verbal opportunities, warm approaches.
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7. wasting time - desperately focusing on unattainable fantasies instead of possibilities
this is about spending too much effort in girls that were interested and now they are not. Or girls not interested at all.
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8. overgame - same as 2
This one is a girl say something, they got a come back at them with a neg, or something witti. Which is fine, i do it, but most time, the timing is wrong and is with the goal to impress, which is outcome dependant.
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9. no balls - no belief in themselves
Again this is fear of saying something that will turn the girl off, or scare of saying or doing something that will offend or in their head lose the girl... Or even scare of approaching, escalating, being sexual etc...
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10. Work - to go out and get better at this I had to let go of what I want and concentrate on the small steps in front of me. To game effectively and learn effectively i had to test myself and put myself in uncomfortable situations. It's all about basically dealing with myself and becoming comfortable with who I am. But the pua's that fail just want an escape. An easy way out. They want it given to them.
Maybe i just warped your list to fit my problems and situation. Because i had alot of inner game issuses and finally dealing with them a whole new world of possibilities is unfolding before me.
Best book on "inner game" which i use the term loosely, is Mark manson, Models...