I've actually got a different take on it - I don't think age is such a big deal (you guys aren't even 10 years apart) if you don't think of it that way - 32 and 25 is actually pretty close.

I'm also shocked she pulled a 180- and I agree that there was too much 'cold time' in between. It's okay though, you'll bounce back - just don't worry about the age difference - there are geezers in their mid 40s macking on 20-somethings every night here in the bars where I live.

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I agree with the poster above... The age difference isn't a big deal. I don't think you were necessarily friendzoned, but it's possible if you weren't flirting back and weren't being sexual.

As for how you should act when you see her, act like nothing happened... Be unaffected. Talk to her but don't overdo it, especially if she doesn't appear social. Did you wish her happy birthday, btw?

No happy birthday, complete no contact, the last time I talked to her was over facebook when congratulated her on a job interview...wish I had found this forum before I did that, (if I am freindzoned this only dug the hole deeper) she was really cold in her responses and I completely overdid mine, I realized I was being a needy bitch so I told her I had to go. I agree though age wasn't an issue, she even told my boss and hers at the time how hot she thought I was, like i said she is a little dingy, but I know there was attraction. Anyway I deleted her number and refuse to wish her a happy birthday over facebook as its just pathetic. I again appreciate the insight as I have never been in a situation exactly like this...hopefully will be better because of it. If anything changes or when I see her I will update this forum and let every that read and responded how it went.

Good luck man. During this no-contact period, it's important that you don't be bitter or at least come off as bitter to her if/when you run into her.

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Hey thanks, I'm not bitter but clearly confused which is why I'm on this forum. I'm naturally nice and my five minute game has always been good, have always been able to open so I just be natural and funny and see what happens.

Alright I have not contacted this girl for around two weeks, no facebook, texts, etc. I ran into a mutual friend though and she brought up the hot student teacher. I played it off and acted uninterested in hearing about her, anyway the friend told me that hot student teacher girl just took a vacation with her ex high school boyfriend to the beach. I acted like I didn't care and said that sounded like fun but I was really bummed to hear this. I'm going to stay no contact obviously but how do I handle seeing her I know its only a matter of time until I run into her, my plan is to just say hi, ask how she is doing etc. or should I just completely ignore her? Open to any advice on this because like I said I'm really bummed to hear it and haven't exactly been in a situation like this before.

Like I said, when you bump into her, act as if nothing has changed. Appear unaffected and be cheerful. Do not ignore her as this will only make you look like a sore loser.

So the girl in question just sent me a message that said "miss you hope all is well bud" I know for a fact that she is still with her boyfriend but why send this message....I'm not planning on responding but would like feedback or advice. THanks!

ANyone have any advice on the message she sent the other day, I haven't responded and don't plan to, but if anyone has any better ideas please share.

Ahh... listen to this bs... bud check this out my uncle is 33 and his wife (my aunt) is 27... age is but a number... you are as worried as I am about things... I get oneitis and I get pretty needy am 18 and never even finger banged a girl, was fat, gotten better am 50 lbs lighter, but honestly, what I've learned so far is that it is all about confidence, I'm still packing full confidence but I'm on the process of fixation and am sarging a hell of a lot of girls .. well damn, this was about you and I 180d it on me... good luck bro, head up shoulders back, and how my favorite pua says... rock out with your cock out

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Thanks for the response stud, but it doesn't really help much, I can't take my mind off of this girl. It's the what if's that are killing me, had I actually accepted when she wanted to hang out I could of at least banged her and attempted a relationship. Getting rejected is not as bad as thinking what if I would have played it differently...this was by far the hottest girl that has ever chased me and I fucked it all up!

Yoo man!

Been reading the posts, interesting.

OK, here's my 2 cents - what you've got to do, is start getting with other girls and you will gradually enter an abundant mindset - because right now, it sounds like you're in scarcity.

Which I can understand, because you're hung up on this girl.

She's playing games with you man, she's trying to head fuck you.

So you have to do the same - but ten times worse.

If she wants to play the game, you play the game - my advice to you...

...is to get her jealous. Make sure she sees you with another girl - make sure she sees you holding hands with that girl and flirting with her - THEN, when you see her, act completely normal. Try and make it so that you talk to her when you're with another girl.

I guarantee she'll come chasing you.

That's when YOU send mixed signals; take a few hours to text back, maybe wait for her to double text you, post pictures of you with other girls on facebook.

If you have any questions - hit me up man :=)

Zak

Also age does NOT matter - I'm 20 and have slept with women that are almost 40.

No big deal - just a limiting belief.

-Zak

Hey Zak thanks for the reply and its sound advice, but she was not playing games with me, she wanted to hang out and get together for weeks, like I said, she chased me. I had oneitis for a LDR so I kept stringing her along and she lost interest, now all I can think about is how much of a fucking idiot I am, this girl is fucking smoking hot and I passed so she found someone else(her old high school boyfriend). She honestly did nothing wrong, the fault lies completely on me, so now I'm fucking with my own head. I have been out with a few other girls and have a blind date tomorrow but I don't really even give a fuck about it or the other ones. The only good thing that has come out of this is I found this forum so I can now get and try to give advice.

I know you like this girl and you're pretty pissed off at yourself...

...but it sounds A LOT like she's trying to play games with you. I know to begin with she might not have been, but it definitely sounds to me like she is now.

Like how you asked her round a few times and she flaked, then text you when she was with her ex boyfriend.

Either way, if you don't want to make her jealous - you need to start getting other girls to enter an abundant mindset.

And if you don't believe me about the 'abundant mindset' - think about it this way, you had 'oneitis' for another girl, right? Then this one came along and it eventually disappeared. Just hook up with other girls, and the scarcity you feel right now will disappear.

-Zak