Let’s be honest for a minute. The Pick-up industry is a huge business and most PUA methods out there are all about money. That being said, I often see new guys focusing on unnecessary aspects of the game and ending up doing what we call “mental masturbation”. I’m not saying patterns, NLP, multi-connectional-whatever and routines won’t work, but you could certainly focus on something else that would have a bigger impact on your game & results. Repeat after me:
Getting laid is easy.
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Getting laid is easy?
The following guide will focus on aspects that are truly important to night game, without anything fancy or ground-breaking.
Before Sarging
1- Looks & Style
2- Confidence & Inner game
3- Abundance Mentality
Approaching
4- Taking Action
5- Screening
Mid-Game
6- Being Direct
7- Kino escalation
8- Emotional shifting & connection
9- The good ol’ “cocky & funny”
Closing
10- The kiss-close
11- The number-close
12- The full close
Before sarging
Pick-up doesn’t start when you get in a club or a mall; it’s a way of life. In order to be truly efficient, you need focus on the following aspects:
1- Looks & style
Looks DO matter in PU and whoever that tell you otherwise is obviously full of shit, and most probably trying to sell his “new ground-breaking” product. Don’t get me wrong, you don’t have to look like Brad Pitt to go out and flirt with girls, but you should always try to look at you best. That means getting a nice haircut, taking care of your skin and hygiene and dental hygiene, maximising your physical attributes (going to the gym) and finally, having some stylish clothes (Like many PUA will tell you, I like to think that always being just a bit overdress will do wonders for you).
If you have any doubts or questions concerning the important of looks & style, my boy skills360 break it down in this thread:
finally-no-more-looks-debates-vt160827-30.html
2- Confidence & Inner game
Some guys that get into PU have some serious issues and would be better off receiving some psychological help via therapies, etc. Pick up is not for everyone. Getting rejected is harsh. You will be facing your fears and insecurities. You will be facing failures of all kinds. That being said… I recommend that you have your Inner game and confidence straight if you want to really get involved in this. Of course, your confidence will drastically increase as you get more experienced, but I don’t want anyone to commit suicide over this after getting harshly rejected a couple of times. I do not specialize in this but Poeticlyskuac (
http://coreselfconfidence.com/) and Kasabi are two guys to look for when it comes to Inner game.
3- Abundance mentality
You’ve probably heard that before, but having an “abundance mentality” is important when it comes to pick up. It helps recovering from rejections or breaks ups, being seen as high status, prevent neediness and finally, keeps one from getting insane over a girl. Having an abundance mentality is not only achieved when you can rely on multiples girls to call, text and flirt with, but also when you start to realize that there are more fishes in the sea and that there is no reason for you to get stuck up on one single girl.
Approaching
4-Taking action
This is probably the most important aspect of pick up. You can reach as much PU books, watch as much videos and fill your head with as much information as you want, if you don’t go out there and take action, it’s all useless. You need to push your limit every time you go out, get yourself into uncomfortable situations and work your way out of it. Always PUSH THE INTERACTION AS FAR AS POSSIBLE. Don’t approach someone with the intention of getting her number; always go for the full close. At first, you might want to set up some goals every time you go out (for example, approaching at least 5 sets a night).
“If you succeed, it’s your fault. If you fail to succeed, it’s also your fault.” – K. C. Prince
5- Screening and approaching
The process of screening allows you to reduce your chances of getting rejected when first approaching. The point is to be fully aware of your surroundings, look out for AI and DTF girls (Women that show more skin, that are louder, that look or turn away from their group). She might glance at you from times to times, give you prolonged eye contact or even behave differently when you are near her (can be nervous or anything…. Just think of yourself when you walk by a real hottie); that all mean she is ready to be approached.
As for your openers, they’re not important (as long as you actually approach her). You can go direct, situational or indirect, it doesn’t matter at all. However, if you go direct, you must be aware that good body language is essential. If you go indirect, you must know that it is lower risk but also slower pace, seduction wise. Finally, if you decide to go situational, you will need to be good at analyzing your surroundings fast (noticing something special on her, noticing and mentioning something out of the ordinary that is going on, etc.).
Mid-game
6- Being direct
This one is a no-brainer. You’ve approached her for a reason; she needs to know why so you guys are on the same boat. Even if you went indirect on her, at some point she has to know what your intentions are unless you want her to have a good surprise when you try to kiss her OR stay in the friend zone. Don’t try to be all sneaky and under the radar, be honest with your intentions, it’s usually attractive. You can try to increase sexual tension (which we will talk about later) or verbalize it by telling her exactly what you are doing and why you approached her.
7- Kino escalation
I’m willing to bet that if you aren’t completely new to this, you’ve heard this a hundred of times already. Why? Because it's essential! Kino escalation is basically what separates you from all those guys that keep getting stuck in the friend zone. Handshakes and kisses on the cheek, high fives, hugs, touching her hand, arm , shoulder or leg when talking to her, grabbing her, dancing, kissing, and ultimately sex. Those are all forms of Kino escalation. Once again, you’ve probably heard that before, but always try to do as much Kino as possible, and if the girl get uncomfortable or anything, one step back & two step forward. I won’t spend much time on this as I am sure that you guys already know about this. If you want to look for more information on the matter, I suggest reading “escalation ladder” by Vin Dicarlo or Warped_Mindless sexual escalation guide (
http://realnaturalseduction.wordpress.c ... ion-guide/).
8- Emotional shifting and connection
I often hear about guys wondering what to say after the opener? I personally think that you should not rely on any type of routines or patterns. This might be harder at first, but will become more natural once you get used to it. The point is to start a conversation… But once that conversation is started, you should always try to go on a deeper level. For example, you can start with a boring subject like what is her job, and then dig deeper and trying to find out what she wanted to be when she was a kid, why she changed her mind, etc… Here are some topics that usually create a deeper connection: Childhood, passions and dreams.
As of emotional shifting, I will let my boy Vitamin-J explain more in depth with a thread that he wrote a while ago. The thread was typically for hired-guns, but it is really powerful and works perfectly for night game as well.
Here is the thread:
shifting-emotions-and-getting-passed-th ... t=shifting
9- The good ol’ “cocky funny”
Just like kino escalation, C&F is well-known in PU community. This will often spice up the conversations and increase sexual tension, but you are to worry about calibration. Most guys tend to use it too much and come off as assholes, so make sure to not over-use it.
Closing
10- The kiss close
You’ve approached a cute girl, you’ve flirted with her and she seems to like you. It’s now time to kiss her! Personally, I like to go on the dance floor as dancing naturally create more sexual tension which means kissing usually happens more naturally, but keep in mind that there are hundreds of ways to kiss close. I’m not a big fan of kissing routines, but if you feel like you don’t have the confidence to simply go for it, you can use them and verbalize it (ex: you look like you want to kiss me… Anything other than “NO”Go for the kiss). The last thing I want to say about kissing is that you should not make that much of a big deal out of it. Kissing doesn’t mean much in our current society.
11- The number-close
Like I said earlier, you should ALWAYS push the interaction as far as possible. Having a “blow me or blow me off” mentality is golden in PU and will allow you to learn way faster than if you were to go safe and only go for numbers. That being said, you should always go for the full-close an only takes her number/eject if you realize that closing her won’t be possible tonight. “Give me your number” is all you have to say, I can believe I am even mentioning something that simple.
12- The full close
The fun part! You’ve approached, flirted, kissed successfully and now it’s time to push it further. I usually ask the girl what she is doing later/tomorrow, who she came with in order to figure out logistics, and if it seem possible, I will simply tell the girl to come back home with me. You can make up an excuse like “I have this amazing X collection home, do you want to come back with me so I can show you” or be more direct “hey come back home with me tonight, I’ll bring you back tomorrow morning”. At this point, it doesn’t really matter how you verbalize it, as long as you bring the idea of her coming back home with you. If you have any questions regarding sex or penile problems, here’s a thread I wrote:
mrmatt-guide-penile-related-problems-an ... 52853.html
In conclusion,
This was a short guide with guidelines and important aspects for night game. I did not want to make it too long so I tried to keep everything short, but if you have any question, feel free to ask away. I already feel that this guide is too long and the point that I am trying to make is that getting laid is easy, especially during night game. You don’t need all these gimmicks, just follow some rules and take action and you will get results. Night game has a much faster pace than day game which allows seduction to happen way faster. Meaning, it could take little as 15 min from the moment you approach the girl to the moment you fuck her. If anyone wants to learn more about my style when it comes to night game, here is my journal:
journal-of-a-whimpy-chump-vt158214.html
Peace out
CHAT
