I going to try to make this as brief as possible. I few months ago a student teacher at a school started showing interest. She is without a doubt a hb 9 but is slightly on the dingy side, has tons of guy friends and loads of options though. At the time I was working on a LDR so I kept things light and fun with hot student teacher girl. She ended up adding me on facebook and always initiated the convo's she then gave me her # and we started texting back and forth. The whole time I was seeing an LDR so I didn't make any advances toward the student teacher until a few weeks into texting and asked her over to my place to hang. She came and things went so well she texted me directly after saying she enjoyed getting to know me and wanted to see me again. After hanging out she would constantly text me throughout the day and always wish me goodnight, or when she went out that see missed me and was thinking about me etc. This went on for weeks but I was still seeing LDR so I moved slow with student teacher girl, but she continued to chase me and tell coworkers how much she like me etc. Anyway around the same time her student teaching was done my LDR ended. Student teacher continued texting and asking my plans and eventually asked about meeting up and mentioned watching a movie at my place, she even said she would pick some up and I said I would get some beers to go along with the movie, we set a specific date and everything. Anyway once I accepted the date she stopped texting as much and on the day of the movie date she texted saying she wouldn't get off work until late and "would let me know if she could still make it" she then flaked on the date saying she was to tired. I admit I got a little needy and said something dumb like well "you owe me a movie in the not to distant future" and she said she promised she would make it up to me. The next night she texted me after work and said how she just wanted to watch a movie because she was so tired so I again invited her over but she again declined saying she was to tired. We texted back and forth a few days more but she was not initiating and clearly was losing interest so I froze her out for 4 days. I then texted her about seeing one of her former students and we texted back and forth after but clearly things had changed because she had stopped asking my plans, what I was up to and telling me about her day. Anyway I had given up until she one day texted about laying out and told me she was off for the day from work so I made a last ditch effort and asked her out again, but she said she already had plans but we would get together soon, which seemed like bs. We have not been speaking as much now and things have gone really cold. What the fuck should I do? If anything? I have pretty much given up and deleted her number so I know I won't drunk text her. I Need Help and fast, I should have came on this forum months ago.

I should have also mentioned that she is about 7 years younger than me and just graduated from college. Also on the day of her graduation she never invited me to her party but kept texting me to see what I was up to and after her party while at a bar she said she wished she could see me but couldn't drive to my place...I should have went to her I now know.

So, you never met up with her after your LDR was done, right?

I believe she finds you attractive, but you may have killed off the attraction by being too hesitant, too easy, and too available. Stop texting her starting immediately. When she texts you, ignore her. Go a good couple of weeks ignoring her. This will make her desperate to regain your attention. She'll wonder why you're ignoring her, etc. At the same time, it'll ramp up attraction. Also, the next time you invite her over (which shouldn't be before several weeks), you TELL her to come over. Not ask.

No I met up with LDR still going on, she didn't know about it and could not have found out. That is why I was so hesitant. Also her birthday is coming up this friday should I not contact her for that? Thanks for the replies because I'm lost...beginning to realize that attraction has a time limit for women...wish I would have known earlier

No, you've given her too much respect. Don't bother contacting her for her birthday.

Excuses to use:
"Oh I forgot"
"Oh I've been busy"

Basically, the same kind of excuses she's been using on you.

Thanks for the replies, but I definitely wasn't to available for the first 3 or 4 weeks of her chasing me, I kept the texts light and fun the after LDR ended I thought she was a layup so started trying to progress things, but she continued to chase up until the point I accepted her movie date request. Thats when it all changed? I know I have oneitis for this girl mainly because I have never seen such a sure thing do a complete 180 on me.

Well, give her a taste of her own medicine and do a 180 on her. As I said, IGNORE her texts... Don't bother replying to anything she says until they get desperate.

Ignoring her texts won't be a problem since she doesn't text any longer

You might hear from her in a few weeks from now. But in the meantime, just forget about her and sarge for other women. It'll be hard to forget, but you will if you create other opportunities for yourself.

Anyone else have any insight to why this happened and what I should do. I also should mention i spoke with her mentoring teacher(who I'm really good friends with) a few weeks ago and she asked how things were going with us and I mentioned they were pretty non exist and said she must have found another dude. She replied that there was no other dude and that I somehow must have dropped the ball. Any other insight would be welcome.

Well just a quick update...this is over. My buddy said he saw her out with another dude on Friday:( lesson learned, when a girl chases you don't be so aloof and strike while the iron is hot or she will ultimately lose interest. On to the next one.

It's a numbers game man, no one can get then all. Live learn and move on- you're better off because of this

One thing I'm a bit curious about is: did you actually ask her if there was another guy? I would never do that - it definitely smells of needy.

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Fuck no I didn't ask if there was another guy. Definitely is another dude though, possibly her latest ex but not sure and not worried about it. Only thing I wish I would have done in the end is just quit contact after her texts/mood changed about me...I knew something was up but disregarded my gut feelings and listened to my dick. The lesson to be learned is if you think something is wrong/happening it probably is.

Here is what she is thinking IMO after reading the posts.

1st she is super young dude... and you are significantly older than her. She prob just sees u as a "friend" to maybe hang with when she has nothing more to do... thats about it. From the convos you 2 had they didnt seem super flirty and sexual and when you did hang out it didnt appear like you F-closed. This put u into the friend zone for sure, but I think shes always seen you there... bc you are OLDER and she is just finishing school...

Your 28 and shes 21?! or your 29 and shes 22?! Dude shes likes you as a mentor and friend... not boyfriend.

That may be hard to hear... but thats why shes flaking you... bc its weird for her 1 on 1 (even if you had a nice time on day 1)

I would next this 1 bro... shes not worth the drama and shit anyways.



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Thanks I needed to hear these things. I'm sure age definitely has alot to do with it but when we hung out the one time she was super excited and texted me directly after so I'm not sure how weird she felt. I'm 32 she is 25 btw. I really feel that there was way to much time in between when we first hung out and I should have made hay when the sun was shining but the LDR fucked up my head. I have not been in contact with her for weeks and don't plan on contacting her. I'm still shocked by the 180 she pulled but I'll get over it. The only question I have now is how I should act when I see her out, which I'm sure I will since we live in a pretty small town. Should I completely ignore her or just act like nothing happened and make small talk for a minute before saying goodbye? Please give advice on how I should handle it and maybe what I should say?