Day 8 Observations
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AhhH!!! When these things happen to me they drive me fucking crazy.
What inspires you to choose to drive yourself crazy when these things happen lol?
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I think I am getting a lot better at eye contact, actually! It feels good to notice progress, however small. I'm excited for this 'secret' of yours!
It's time for the secret

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Yesterday, you said, "So I went to the mall for like ten minutes and stared at girls, using James Marshall's technique of thinking "I want to fuck you" while looking at them. Most girls just looked at me for a second and then looked away, and when they looked away I usually did too, since I felt it was weird to stare at them."
There's actually a better thing to think about (as well as a better way to think about this thing). When
The Annihilation Method (by Neil Strauss) was (was... frowny face) available on YouTube, I observed a technique by Steve Piccus (the guy who accidentally shot a dude's dick off and turned into the savant he is today... you may have read about Style's adventure and transformation with him in
The Game), and that is: Look at her like she's a piece of art and NOT like she's some sex object.
You may even want to test looking at girls with "What's beautiful about her?" in mind vs. your "I want to fuck you" in mind until you're totally convinced, because it took me at least three different sarges to really convince myself that the reactions I got with this technique... well, they averaged at MINIMUM three times longer, twice as "charged," and overall a lot more fun for me.
Oh! And a little trick to make this REALLY work: You know how the brain accepts information in the 7/38/55 ratio? If not, then there was a study that came out where scientists actually measured parts of the nervous system, and this study showed that 55% of what influences us is body language, 38% is the vocal qualities, and only 7% is the words.
So, why do I share this with you? Well, to explain this, can you tell me the tonality that you ask yourself questions with? Because I'd bet a solid $20 that you don't ALWAYS ask yourself questions with an upward tonality at the end of each question. And the effect of that upward tonality at the end of the question is why I share this with you: You will literally FEEL your brain activate 6 times better (approximately--from my experience, I'd say that's an accurate estimate) than if you ask yourself questions in a monotone voice.
So, to wrap this up, ask yourself, "What (best) is beautiful about her?" or (less effective, though) "What (best) is love about her?" You don't have to add in "best"--at least not until I explain why I use the word best in these questions like that--but so long as you constantly ask yourself "What best is beautiful about her?" as you interact with her (make sure to say ANYTHING to her, still!) you will notice an immediate improvement in your interactions.
If only because you look like less of a crazed sex fiend and more of a person who can both handle women AND (really) appreciate women.
Let me know if this helps!
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Alright so today I went to the mall again with my minimum goal of asking 1 girl the time, 10 my minimum, and 15 my outrageous (I changed these earlier, lol). I kept thinking about how easy it would be at work and then when I got to the mall realized how incredibly hard it is. I have terrible approach anxiety. I asked three girls for the time, total. Two were employees at the mall.
Stop. Lol. You may want to change your question from "How incredibly hard it is" to "What best could I enjoy about the process of developing myself into a master pick-up artist?" The reason you may want to stop now and change your questions (i.e. By asking "What best to ask?") is because it absolutely changes your focus--and by changing your focus, you change the way you feel and the results you create (source: Tony Robbins, NLP, and anyone who's ever observed either of these studies hah)
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However, what I really want to talk about was the third girl. She was really hot and worked at a clothing store. I walked in and she said hello first and then I responded and asked for the time. She told me and then asked me if I just got off of work (I was wearing a shirt and tie) and I said that I don't work here in the mall, but further north. I was surprised to be in a conversation with a beautiful girl before I expected it.
Then she kept the conversation going! She said, "so are you just hanging out?" and I responded, "No, I'm looking for clothes. Why, do you think I'm gonna steal something?" in a joking manner. She laughed and explained that no she thought I might be waiting for an employee who worked there to get off. I told her that no, I just forgot my phone. Then she said "oh, that's even worse", to which I didn't reply. I was amazed at myself for having gotten this far in a conversation.
Then she said, "where did you say you worked again?" and I told her where I work and what I do. Then she said something about the clothes I was pretending to look at and said if I needed any help to ask her.
I, of course, pussied out of asking her number or even telling her she was beautiful, but I had good eye contact (I think? I was so nervous that I only remember pieces of the encounter). I left and told her to have a good day and she responded similarly.
DUDE! I'm PROUD of you! I'm proud of you because do you know how many people won't even do THAT?? Seriously! I'm proud of you not only for blowing your minimum goal out of the water (so what if you didn't achieve you "target"), but I'm proud of you for pushing yourself and setting a new standard for the results you can regularly create!
I'm so proud of you. So proud, and happy, and excited for your progress. You keep on making shit happen, Positron, because you are MORE than this interaction.
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just left the mall immediately because I was so full of self pity for being such a pussy and just leaving her. I'm always full of self pity for myself, even though I know it's stupid and I'm just a huge bitch. Driving home, I thought of the perfect thing to say to get her number, but I highly doubt I would have said it.
AhhH!!! When these things happen to me they drive me fucking crazy.
Grrr! This NOT useful thinking! What IS useful thinking is asking questions like:
- What (best) did I do RIGHT?
What (best) did I NOT do right?
How (best) will my behavior be different now and in the future because of what I've now learned?
Besides, you fucking kicked ASS today! You kicked ass today because your exercise was to make EYE CONTACT, not to actually interact with these women--yet you talked with them anyway!
Outstanding, man. Outstanding. Keep it up!
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But I guess there is some positive in this and it's that I actually had a conversation with a beautiful girl I didn't know, managed to say something somewhat witty, and could tell that she was attracted to me. I just need to practice talking to hot girls so I don't get so caught up in the moment. Maybe I can go back to the store some other time and talk to her and get her number. Idk. Today was a mix of good/bad.
Please, please, PLEASE make sure that you keep on talking to the hotter girls. Let me know, if you want, how to make it easy (or easier) to interact with the most beautiful women you will ever see, because I really feel that talking with the most beautiful women that anyone will ever see is something that I've really mastered.
To wrap this up, though, I am really. fucking. excited for you. I'm excited for you because you're blasting through this shit, AND I bet you're starting to enjoy the process, too! When you get excited about the PROCESS of going out, over and over again (as well as building yourself and your life), that's when you REALLY make shit happen.
Look forward to hearing from you soon, because I definitely enjoy watching your progress. It makes me feel awesome to observe you grow.
And JayBo, I like your attitude. Your attitude is honest and accepting, which tells me that you have what it takes to grow into the most outstanding person possible
See you soon,
Aaron
P.S. Have you received
Rules of the Game yet?? I'm pumped to start this with you!