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PostPosted: Mon Jun 03, 2013 5:58 pm 
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Would you like a couple ideas with JayBo's post in mind?
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Dude, keep it up!

...how important it is to go out day after day and if you ever feel like you're not making progress, just take a couple of steps backwards and start again...
What he said! Keep tracking your progress and LOVE THE PROCESS. Keeping yourself moving, tracking your progress, and loving the process is essential, because you'll be spending plenty of time in both the realm of "Getting Results" and "Sometimes Not Getting As Much Result As You Wanted." In fact, with these ideas in mind, I think it's always fun to carry a timer, and just go out and game for 30-50 minutes with your objectives in mind.

Bonus: If you've read The 4-Hour Workweek, you'll know exactly the benefit of doing this.
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This video is great if you're ever feeling demotivated, not just in pick up, but in any aspect of your life. Bookmark it - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GX9unvqpMt8
RSD's (and all dating) Seminars are great, and in-field video is always better. For the most ultimate source of wisdom (yes, wisdom that's even more powerful than seminars), you're better off visiting SimplePickup's channel on YouTube (or find RSD's in-field footage), because your Unconscious mind will pick up the behaviors that Jason, Jesse, and Kong exhibit, and it will do it automatically from just watching

(In fact, after watching them, it actually hurt when I don't interact with a girl--so, yeah)

Also, if you're looking for Approach Anxiety relief, Gambler posted a NLP-Hypnosis audio that helped me to change my life. If you want some nice Unconscious programming that will make you feel better about the approach, I highly recommend that (along with--or just--the StyleLife hypnosis that you'll find in The Rules of the Game :) ) Hypnosis and NLP (when done in an outstanding fashion) can help you massively when it comes to your interactions.
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I also have the Stylelife Challenge, but so far I haven't been following it, just completing tasks I feel will push me yet I'll find enjoyable. Let me know when you receive your copy, I might follow it with you too.
Would you like an idea?

("Might" is what triggered this thought) If you're not following through, you don't have enough "leverage" or accountability. And I can talk the accountability talk because I've kept myself accountable for sixteen days now (RECORDED days... I've been doing this for two years now) If you do something to keep yourself accountable: like send an email to ten of your friends telling them, " I will do one day of the StyleLife Challenge every day between now and [date of 30 days from now]." If you do all this, I can assure you that things will become better and you'll awaken a power never known inside of you before.

Here's what I mean by accountability (this has worked to an extreme degree with myself--to the point where I was outwardly rejected by an entire room and did. not. give. a fuck. If you use this, then after a while, your dream of being socially confident is almost--almost--automatic). It's an email--an email that drives almost every action that I've taken since May 19th--that I sent to a good friend of mine, Tari Manello, of Epica.com (imported Italian leather journals):
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You should know this.

I did not keep my agreement. I am sorry, friend.

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Tari Mannello
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Well you certainly don't have to go blow a guy (Aaron's Note: My original, unkept agreement included this ;.;)

Warmly,


Aaron Bell <aarondoesmarketing@gmail.com>
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"Ohh my g**! This f***er is emailing me again."

That's right... lol.

Because, brother, there's a new update!

Here's something that's infinitely more interesting than last time. It was inspired by Timothy Ferriss's favorite quote, "Do one thing every day that scares you."

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Create emotions off minor anxiety or discomfort within myself every day from now (5/19/13) to 5/29/13). The way to measure this is that if I can't get at least three other people to easily do it for $5, then this change is plausible.

(Btw, do you have a better way of measuring this? If you have a better way, it'd be awesome to find out what that is).
  • A blog post must be written about what's done every day--and ask at least one other person to link to it a day. (Sorry for the poor taste in blog name. It's crude and unprofessional.).

    Cost That You'll Receive (If Neglected): $40 for every day that I don't do it--immediately mailed out to you (for physical feeling of loss of cash). If two straight days are missed in a row, I must drop the laptop I'm using now off to a homeless shelter.

    Leaving the other agreement unfulfilled like that was a disgusting thing to do, so, as of right now, I'm absolutely committed to doing making this happen.
Look forward to your thoughts, Tari.

Aaron
This fucking email has changed my life to the sexiest and most extreme degree possible in ALL forms and fashions. Check out this unsent letter to him that explains it all.

Alternatively, if you want an easier way to get leverage on yourself (this is the ultimate way to do it), give yourself the gift of an Unleash The Power Within seminar by Tony Robbins. And if you "can't afford it" (this is notion is often B.S.) then take the sucker's way into success by downloading his Unleash the Power Within torrent (note: You must follow all directions for it to work!).

By the way, Positron, if you talk with someone and they even admit to "no success" or if you can just plain tell... detach entirely from their advice in all forms EXCEPT to learn from their mistakes (use it as an anti-role model). I'm telling you this Positron, as a friend, even at the risk of offending JayBo, because I've seen too many people get sidetracked by people who haven't yet earned the right to teach other people what to do. (JayBo, when you start succeeding, I will move mountains for people to hear what you have to say, okay? But get us some proven results first!! Even if it's tough, I think you know that it's what needs to happen).

Please, please, please, if you only get this on thing from me, please just use that idea in bold right now, and always, always, always forever and ever do that. By always following this idea, you will move mountains.

JayBo, your point on keeping momentum is AWESOME, but the challenge here is that you haven't found a way--a way proven by yourself (like that with this email to Tari, where the proof is in the pudding) --that works to keep momentum.

Let me know if this helps (for both of you), and keep strong, Positron! Your journal--especially when you update it--is amazing so far.

Your Friend,

Aaron

P.S. I'm serious, only associate and accept advice (to a psychopathic degree) from those that you consider "beyond outstanding" or "wildly successful." This will impact your success and quality of life immediate, massively, and extraordinarily.

Let me know if this helps, friend ;)


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Surreptitious, no offence taken at all! I'll be the first to admit I'm in no position to teach anything, I have everything to learn myself, I meant my previous post as a motivator more than a lesson. Your posts in this thread are extremely helpful and I'm using the techniques your teaching Positron to try and improve my own game and I thank you for that.

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Thanks a lot you two. It feels awesome to have people going through similar stages with me (though Aaron is way past me!)

Day 7
I'm starting this challenge. I started on day 2, eye contact, since I can't afford a shirt lol.

So I went to the mall for like ten minutes and stared at girls, using James Marshall's technique of thinking "I want to fuck you" while looking at them. Most girls just looked at me for a second and then looked away, and when they looked away I usually did too, since I felt it was weird to stare at them.

Not going to lie, I pussied out of even looking at some girls and I did break eye contact first a few times. But it was good practice! Tomorrow, my minimum goal is to approach one girl, my target is 15, and my outrageous is 20. I will be asking them for the time.

See you tomorrow!

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So I went to the mall for like ten minutes and stared at girls, using James Marshall's technique of thinking "I want to fuck you" while looking at them.

I have a secret for you when you finish this :)

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Not going to lie, I pussied out of even looking at some girls and I did break eye contact first a few times. But it was good practice!
It was good practice! Making good eye contact is the first step of the mating process (seriously), so if you haven't mastered that, what's the point in mastering verbal? There's a girl at where I work who I'm with who would never have even considered me if I wouldn't have had the strength to maintain outstanding eye contact.
Also, I remember the first "really hot girl" that I talked with (she was, in fact, quite beautiful--I would consider her more attractive than Kate Upton), it was like walking into the flames of a space shuttle. Though not immediately, you'll find--through the process you're doing now--yourself with this "Forever Heat Shield" that will let you walk through crowds of beautiful women like it's room temperature.

People will think of you as magic and "lucky" when you get this power (now).
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Tomorrow, my minimum goal is to approach one girl, my target is 15, and my outrageous is 20. I will be asking them for the time.
I like this :) See you tomorrow!

(P.S. I'm getting kind of addicted to observing your progress. I need to detach for a bit, lol.)


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 Post subject: Day 8
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I think I am getting a lot better at eye contact, actually! It feels good to notice progress, however small. I'm excited for this 'secret' of yours!

Day 8

Alright so today I went to the mall again with my minimum goal of asking 1 girl the time, 10 my minimum, and 15 my outrageous (I changed these earlier, lol). I kept thinking about how easy it would be at work and then when I got to the mall realized how incredibly hard it is. I have terrible approach anxiety. I asked three girls for the time, total. Two were employees at the mall.

However, what I really want to talk about was the third girl. She was really hot and worked at a clothing store. I walked in and she said hello first and then I responded and asked for the time. She told me and then asked me if I just got off of work (I was wearing a shirt and tie) and I said that I don't work here in the mall, but further north. I was surprised to be in a conversation with a beautiful girl before I expected it.

Then she kept the conversation going! She said, "so are you just hanging out?" and I responded, "No, I'm looking for clothes. Why, do you think I'm gonna steal something?" in a joking manner. She laughed and explained that no she thought I might be waiting for an employee who worked there to get off. I told her that no, I just forgot my phone. Then she said "oh, that's even worse", to which I didn't reply. I was amazed at myself for having gotten this far in a conversation.

Then she said, "where did you say you worked again?" and I told her where I work and what I do. Then she said something about the clothes I was pretending to look at and said if I needed any help to ask her.

I, of course, pussied out of asking her number or even telling her she was beautiful, but I had good eye contact (I think? I was so nervous that I only remember pieces of the encounter). I left and told her to have a good day and she responded similarly.

I just left the mall immediately because I was so full of self pity for being such a pussy and just leaving her. I'm always full of self pity for myself, even though I know it's stupid and I'm just a huge bitch. Driving home, I thought of the perfect thing to say to get her number, but I highly doubt I would have said it.

AhhH!!! When these things happen to me they drive me fucking crazy.

But I guess there is some positive in this and it's that I actually had a conversation with a beautiful girl I didn't know, managed to say something somewhat witty, and could tell that she was attracted to me. I just need to practice talking to hot girls so I don't get so caught up in the moment. Maybe I can go back to the store some other time and talk to her and get her number. Idk. Today was a mix of good/bad.

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AhhH!!! When these things happen to me they drive me fucking crazy.
What inspires you to choose to drive yourself crazy when these things happen lol? :)
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I think I am getting a lot better at eye contact, actually! It feels good to notice progress, however small. I'm excited for this 'secret' of yours!
It's time for the secret :):

Yesterday, you said, "So I went to the mall for like ten minutes and stared at girls, using James Marshall's technique of thinking "I want to fuck you" while looking at them. Most girls just looked at me for a second and then looked away, and when they looked away I usually did too, since I felt it was weird to stare at them."

There's actually a better thing to think about (as well as a better way to think about this thing). When The Annihilation Method (by Neil Strauss) was (was... frowny face) available on YouTube, I observed a technique by Steve Piccus (the guy who accidentally shot a dude's dick off and turned into the savant he is today... you may have read about Style's adventure and transformation with him in The Game), and that is: Look at her like she's a piece of art and NOT like she's some sex object.

You may even want to test looking at girls with "What's beautiful about her?" in mind vs. your "I want to fuck you" in mind until you're totally convinced, because it took me at least three different sarges to really convince myself that the reactions I got with this technique... well, they averaged at MINIMUM three times longer, twice as "charged," and overall a lot more fun for me.

Oh! And a little trick to make this REALLY work: You know how the brain accepts information in the 7/38/55 ratio? If not, then there was a study that came out where scientists actually measured parts of the nervous system, and this study showed that 55% of what influences us is body language, 38% is the vocal qualities, and only 7% is the words.

So, why do I share this with you? Well, to explain this, can you tell me the tonality that you ask yourself questions with? Because I'd bet a solid $20 that you don't ALWAYS ask yourself questions with an upward tonality at the end of each question. And the effect of that upward tonality at the end of the question is why I share this with you: You will literally FEEL your brain activate 6 times better (approximately--from my experience, I'd say that's an accurate estimate) than if you ask yourself questions in a monotone voice.

So, to wrap this up, ask yourself, "What (best) is beautiful about her?" or (less effective, though) "What (best) is love about her?" You don't have to add in "best"--at least not until I explain why I use the word best in these questions like that--but so long as you constantly ask yourself "What best is beautiful about her?" as you interact with her (make sure to say ANYTHING to her, still!) you will notice an immediate improvement in your interactions.

If only because you look like less of a crazed sex fiend and more of a person who can both handle women AND (really) appreciate women.

Let me know if this helps! :)
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Alright so today I went to the mall again with my minimum goal of asking 1 girl the time, 10 my minimum, and 15 my outrageous (I changed these earlier, lol). I kept thinking about how easy it would be at work and then when I got to the mall realized how incredibly hard it is. I have terrible approach anxiety. I asked three girls for the time, total. Two were employees at the mall.
Stop. Lol. You may want to change your question from "How incredibly hard it is" to "What best could I enjoy about the process of developing myself into a master pick-up artist?" The reason you may want to stop now and change your questions (i.e. By asking "What best to ask?") is because it absolutely changes your focus--and by changing your focus, you change the way you feel and the results you create (source: Tony Robbins, NLP, and anyone who's ever observed either of these studies hah)
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However, what I really want to talk about was the third girl. She was really hot and worked at a clothing store. I walked in and she said hello first and then I responded and asked for the time. She told me and then asked me if I just got off of work (I was wearing a shirt and tie) and I said that I don't work here in the mall, but further north. I was surprised to be in a conversation with a beautiful girl before I expected it.

Then she kept the conversation going! She said, "so are you just hanging out?" and I responded, "No, I'm looking for clothes. Why, do you think I'm gonna steal something?" in a joking manner. She laughed and explained that no she thought I might be waiting for an employee who worked there to get off. I told her that no, I just forgot my phone. Then she said "oh, that's even worse", to which I didn't reply. I was amazed at myself for having gotten this far in a conversation.

Then she said, "where did you say you worked again?" and I told her where I work and what I do. Then she said something about the clothes I was pretending to look at and said if I needed any help to ask her.

I, of course, pussied out of asking her number or even telling her she was beautiful, but I had good eye contact (I think? I was so nervous that I only remember pieces of the encounter). I left and told her to have a good day and she responded similarly.
DUDE! I'm PROUD of you! I'm proud of you because do you know how many people won't even do THAT?? Seriously! I'm proud of you not only for blowing your minimum goal out of the water (so what if you didn't achieve you "target"), but I'm proud of you for pushing yourself and setting a new standard for the results you can regularly create!

I'm so proud of you. So proud, and happy, and excited for your progress. You keep on making shit happen, Positron, because you are MORE than this interaction.
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just left the mall immediately because I was so full of self pity for being such a pussy and just leaving her. I'm always full of self pity for myself, even though I know it's stupid and I'm just a huge bitch. Driving home, I thought of the perfect thing to say to get her number, but I highly doubt I would have said it.

AhhH!!! When these things happen to me they drive me fucking crazy.
Grrr! This NOT useful thinking! What IS useful thinking is asking questions like:
  • What (best) did I do RIGHT?
    What (best) did I NOT do right?
    How (best) will my behavior be different now and in the future because of what I've now learned?
Besides, you fucking kicked ASS today! You kicked ass today because your exercise was to make EYE CONTACT, not to actually interact with these women--yet you talked with them anyway!

Outstanding, man. Outstanding. Keep it up!
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But I guess there is some positive in this and it's that I actually had a conversation with a beautiful girl I didn't know, managed to say something somewhat witty, and could tell that she was attracted to me. I just need to practice talking to hot girls so I don't get so caught up in the moment. Maybe I can go back to the store some other time and talk to her and get her number. Idk. Today was a mix of good/bad.
Please, please, PLEASE make sure that you keep on talking to the hotter girls. Let me know, if you want, how to make it easy (or easier) to interact with the most beautiful women you will ever see, because I really feel that talking with the most beautiful women that anyone will ever see is something that I've really mastered.

To wrap this up, though, I am really. fucking. excited for you. I'm excited for you because you're blasting through this shit, AND I bet you're starting to enjoy the process, too! When you get excited about the PROCESS of going out, over and over again (as well as building yourself and your life), that's when you REALLY make shit happen.

Look forward to hearing from you soon, because I definitely enjoy watching your progress. It makes me feel awesome to observe you grow. :)

And JayBo, I like your attitude. Your attitude is honest and accepting, which tells me that you have what it takes to grow into the most outstanding person possible ;)

See you soon,

Aaron

P.S. Have you received Rules of the Game yet?? I'm pumped to start this with you!


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 Post subject: Day 9
PostPosted: Wed Jun 05, 2013 11:25 pm 
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Thanks so much Aaron. Seriously, I can't stress enough how much I appreciate your feedback. I learn so much from your posts. I'm going to try the "what's beautiful about her?" question when I look at a girl. And you're right! Instead of looking at talking to girls like an arduous effort, I can rephrase my goal to have a more fun experience.

I'm curious when you said:
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I'm proud of you because do you know how many people won't even do THAT??
what do you mean? What will most people not do? Talk to a girl, or continue the conservation?

And I will try to start looking at the positives/negatives of an encounter objectively instead of feeling bad about an encounter. I would like to know how to make talking to the hot girls easier, by the way.

Also, no, I haven't received Rules of the Game yet, but I have received Models and The Game, and I'm currently reading both. I'm excited to start the challenge with you as well, though I don't know what it is yet! lol

Thanks so much man, I really appreciate your advice and support so much.

Day 9
I had work and a graduation to attend today, so I didn't really have an opportunity to work on my game. However, I went out to dinner and made solid eye contact with a really beautiful hostess. Also, last night, I went rock climbing and made sure to keep eye contact with the girl that worked there the entire time she was talking to me. I am really getting better at it!

Until tomorrow

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And you're right! Instead of looking at talking to girls like an arduous effort, I can rephrase my goal to have a more fun experience.
:) Remember that 1% of what you do each day will suck... but will become the best moments of your life as you naturally blast through them.
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I'm proud of you because do you know how many people won't even do THAT??
Talk to a girl, or continue the conservation?
Both! Most men are afraid to do ANYTHING with (attractive) women!

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I would like to know how to make talking to the hot girls easier, by the way.
I bet you would ;) If you want to make talking [WITH, not "to"--lol] [SOME, not "the"--lol] hot girls easier, implement this idea immediately.

To make talking with hot girls easier, you need to, now, think of the hottest women you've ever seen. For me, the hottest women I've ever seen is Ivanka Trump, though another "hottest girl" is Nikki Whelan (and Kate Upton was the original... who I still use for the "hottest girl.") Now, from now on, the girl you've selected--Ivanka Trump, Kate Upton, or otherwise--is your "10." Anytime you see a hot, you are to immediately think of your "10" and then immediately talk to her with YOUR context in mind.

This was revolutionary for me.
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Thanks so much man, I really appreciate your advice and support so much.
I really appreciate what you're doing here. I appreciate that you're an evolving, empowering person who deserves this support. You're making the world a better place doing what you're doing and becoming what you're becoming! :) [/quote]

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I didn't really have an opportunity to work on my game.
Yes you did ;) Never BS yourself (accept yourself) because you can always go out for fifteen minutes and talk/make eye contact with someone. Just admit that you were scared and didn't have the willpower and accountability to do it (I was guilty of this, too, so I'm not pointing fingers!).
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I went out to dinner and made solid eye contact with a really beautiful hostess. Also, last night, I went rock climbing and made sure to keep eye contact with the girl that worked there the entire time she was talking to me.
You tracking your progress?

Look forward to hearing from you tonight(?), Pos!"
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I am really getting better at it!
Hell yeah you're getting better at it!

I'm really excited about your progress, because I see now that you're the person who does what scares him, who does what needs to be done to progress himself as a person (which naturally progresses his game). I see now, especially with this progress, that you're the person who best sets accountability for himself (like with what you do here) and you stick with it!

You're an outstanding person (beyond that: "Forever", actually), and I'm really honored to watch you progress in your mPUA (or, as I prefer to call is, VA--Venusian Arts) career :) The whole world's a better place because of you.

Looking forward to hanging out with you on this forum lol :)

Your Bro,

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 Post subject: Day 10
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Lol, you're right...I did have plenty of opportunities to practice my game yesterday. I even felt kind of guilty just writing that haha. I mean, I was at my brother's high school graduation...there were innumerable hot girls who I went to high school with that are college girls now who I haven't seen in two years. I had plenty of opportunities! I was just too scared, lol.

Thanks for the advice for talking WITH hot girls.

I know I say this in every one of my posts but thanks so much for your advice. I look forward to hearing from you every day after I post to see what you have to say, it really helps me.

Day 10
I set a minimum goal of asking 1 girl for the time, a target of 10, and an outrageous of 15. For some reason today it was a lot harder than any other day, even though the others were still really hard. I walked completely around the mall once, pussying out on several opportunities, and purposely avoiding the store where I talked to the hot girl last time. I decided I was leaving and I saw some lady playing on her phone so I figured fuck it and asked her for the time. Always after that first one is when I realize, "hey, this isn't so bad". But I do have time constraints so I can't stay at the mall for hours waiting to gather the courage.

I feel like I would be getting more results if I didn't have this time constraint. I can only go to the mall for ~15 minutes a day to practice my "game" because my parents (I'm home for the summer) are extremely overprotective and get really suspicious when I tell them I've been at the mall for the past 5 days and haven't bought anything. I think if I had more time, then I could achieve my target goal. I could go on saturday, but it's SOO crowded! I'm too scared to go when it's that crowded, lol.

Results for today:
Positives: I achieved my minimum goal, and at least I'm still getting out there and not avoiding the mall completely, right?
Negatives: I need to get over my fear of approaching. It's terrible. But I know, thanks to Models, that the only way to get confidence is to become vulnerable. And the only way to get over your fear of becoming vulnerable is to be vulnerable as much as possible. But knowing this doesn't make it any easier lol.

Btw Aaron, thanks for recommending Models to me. I'm on page like 50 and I had to force myself to put it down last night! It is a really awesome book.

Until tomorrow

P.S. I'm reading Models right now and I just realized something. I know how important rejection is, but now I'm going to set a goal for it. My minimum goal is to get rejected once tomorrow, my target goal is to get rejected ten times, and my outrageous goal is to get rejected fifteen times! I'll be asking for the time, and I hope I get the bitchiest and most awkward responses.

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There comes a time when this becomes hilarious to you :) In fact, "rejection is a gift from God"/Allah/Buddha/Quantum Mechanics (Brad P "The #1 Pick Up Artist In The World"), because if you know how to learn from it (while having your vision set on WHO BEST YOU'RE BECOMING... This is key), you'll become unstoppable as you laugh at any "rejections." And when you (best) find these "rejections" hilarious, you really grow as a person--a person that most people consider "lucky" and who they wish they were. :)

From Dr. Paul Debranski: "What's crazy about this is that you can measure this... if you do something that causes you 40 points of terror, you can count of getting back 40 units of confidence! It's amazing; you can keep a journal of it." The doctor speaks the truth in his interview the David DeAngelo.

As for the time constraint, if you ever read The 4-Hour Workweek, you'll know exactly what I mean by "time constraints make you stronger!" With a time constraint, I actually make more progress than without them. And, best of all, time constraints make you "rarer" because your time (best) is valuable, and you have places to be :)

Also, Strauss loves time constraints, Manson loves time constraints, DeAngelo, Mystery, etc. all love time constraints. And (best of all :) lol), I love time constraints!

You give me fifteen minutes in a mall, and I'm deadly. Especially for your objectives right now (i.e. "Best making yourself an approach machine").

Let me know if this helps. I'm really excited about how you're developing (I can hear your confidence (best) growing more and more with each post your write, and it feels outstanding, Pos! :)

Really look forward to your next post--I'm so pumped!

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good stuff positron.

I am on day 8 of the Rules of the Game, Stylelife Challenge, although I have not been doing it in consecutive days. The challenges are a good way to benchmark your success.

Honestly, you can get scared of saying hi to women even if you do it every day for a year. Being this far into the challenge, I have approached dozens of people, and I get the same feeling every time. The key is learning how to override those negative feelings.

Now that you have said hello to a lot of girls you should try to make some small talk with them.

Another thing that makes it easier is loosening up your face a bit, and walking slower. If you slow down your walk, you will have a greater chance to say hello to the girls you want.


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Yeah, since I started going to the mall pretty much every weekday recently, I started looking as how I was walking in the shop windows and realized that I slouch and look like a retard. I've since stopped walking so fast and I stand up straighter now. Since starting on my inner game I've started speaking louder and more clearer.

Thanks both of you guys for your posts!

Day 11
Today I went to the mall with the same goal as yesterday, only this time hoping for rejection. It was a lot easier today. I hardly had any fear compared to yesterday (I still had a lot of fear). I asked some hot bitch for the time almost immediately upon entering the mall, then another quickly. I even asked a girl who was with a friend which was a huge step out of my comfort zone! I ended up asking only 5 girls, so I surpassed by minimum goal by 4 girls! I didn't reach my target yet, but that will come soon. At the same time, I want to stop doing these pussy approaches and just start approaching and gaming girls, I feel like I'll get way better practice that way.

I know if I would have stayed in the mall longer then I would have gotten my target of 10, I was only there for ~20 minutes. I'm going to try to stop being a pussy and if I have less time than I need to act quicker. No more excuses like this, thanks Surreptitious.

Things I did good:
- I looked fucking good today.
- Not one girl said, "what?". I spoke audibly (not loud, just loud enough to be heard) and clearly.
- I wasn't nearly as scared as I was yesterday.
- Also still noticing improvements with eye contact. I locked eyes with one cute girl for at least a few seconds until she looked away and it felt so good to not be a bitch and pretend to look somewhere else.

Things to work on:
- I didn't reach my target goal.
- I stay away from girls who don't already have their phone out or are talking on the phone, I only targeted girls who were texting or playing on their phone. I need to not give a fuck what they're doing and interrupt their conversation or make them pull out their phone to tell me.


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Okay, so I made a post for this journal, but I must've done something wrong because it didn't show up. Anyway, here are today's observations!

Day 11
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Yeah, since I started going to the mall pretty much every weekday recently, I started looking as how I was walking in the shop windows and realized that I slouch and look like a retard. I've since stopped walking so fast and I stand up straighter now. Since starting on my inner game I've started speaking louder and more clearer.

Thanks both of you guys for your posts!
You're welcome! You're welcome because shifting your posture is the most beneficial thing that you can do right now BY FAR. And if you do simple things consistently--easy things--then you'll find yourself with perfect posture in no time. :)
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I hardly had any fear compared to yesterday (I still had a lot of fear). I asked some hot bitch for the time almost immediately upon entering the mall, then another quickly. I even asked a girl who was with a friend which was a huge step out of my comfort zone! I ended up asking only 5 girls, so I surpassed by minimum goal by 4 girls! I didn't reach my target yet, but that will come soon. At the same time, I want to stop doing these pussy approaches and just start approaching and gaming girls, I feel like I'll get way better practice that way.
YOU HAVE GROWN, MOTHERFUCKERR! You have GROWN :D :D :D

I'm freaking out and doing cartwheels right now, because you're breaking your old, shitty model of the world UP (I mean that in the friendliest way possible :) ). And by breaking that old shitty reality (I used to have a shitty reality, too), you'll freak at how quantumly different your new world becomes as your old one dissolves away.

You are AWESOME! :D

(Quick Question: Are you tracking your progress still? :) Let me know if you are, because it's super, super, super, super, super important)
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I know if I would have stayed in the mall longer then I would have gotten my target of 10, I was only there for ~20 minutes. I'm going to try to stop being a pussy and if I have less time than I need to act quicker.

No more excuses like this, thanks Surreptitious.
YES! Haha, I agree! You can also set a contingency like this:

I'm going to ask: (M) 5 women for the time, (T) 10 women for the time, (O) 500 women for the time (lol, I bet it's possible!), OR I'll have (M) A 5-minute conversation with a woman I feel scared to talk with, (T) A 10-minute convo with a woman I feel scared to talk with, or (O) An three hour convo with a woman I'm scared to talk with AND go in for this kiss ;)
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Things I did good:
Stop! Before I say anything else: You are AWESOME for making this list! There's sooo much good that comes from a single freaking list like this! You're amazing :)
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- I looked fucking good today.
- Not one girl said, "what?". I spoke audibly (not loud, just loud enough to be heard) and clearly.
- I wasn't nearly as scared as I was yesterday.
- Also still noticing improvements with eye contact. I locked eyes with one cute girl for at least a few seconds until she looked away and it felt so good to not be a bitch and pretend to look somewhere else.

Things to work on:
- I didn't reach my target goal.
- I stay away from girls who don't already have their phone out or are talking on the phone, I only targeted girls who were texting or playing on their phone. I need to not give a fuck what they're doing and interrupt their conversation or make them pull out their phone to tell me.


Until tomorrow

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For that last one (bolded), I'm just making sure that I understand you correctly: If a girl has her phone out, you'll approach her, but if she's freely walking, you avoid her? I doubt that this is what you meant, but I'm just making sure!

As for making your target goal, would you like to apply a suggestion IMMEDIATELY? If you want to apply a suggestion immediately that, if you apply it well, I would bet $100 on you achieving your goal (I'm serious--And it's important to note that I am REALLY freaking frugal--I don't even spend my gift cards.) The suggestion is to do THIS: Set leverage on yourself.

To sum this video up, you can do the following:

Promise someone you admire that you will do what you say you're going to do, and if you don't do this thing, you will do something that will make you cringe at the thought of doing (for me, it was paying $40 and smashing my laptop). You can also promise 10 of your friends that you'll do this thing (and still promise them the cost of not doing it, too).

If you do this, I'm willing to bet $100 on your success (at least for THIS specific exercise). In fact, I will really bet $100 on your success through something like Stickk.com (which you can also do for leverage)--if you prove to me that you've set leverage on yourself, I'll put my money where my mouth is, and I will BET MONEY on you--for you.

Because leverage is the most epic force in the universe! :) I highly recommend it.

Look forward to seeing your next entry!

Your Bro,

Aaron


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Get your ass back on here!! Lol! :)


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I'm freaking out and doing cartwheels right now, because you're breaking your old, shitty model of the world UP (I mean that in the friendliest way possible :) ). And by breaking that old shitty reality (I used to have a shitty reality, too), you'll freak at how quantumly different your new world becomes as your old one dissolves away.

You are AWESOME! :D
Thanks! Lol I know, my old way of looking at the world was shitty, and still is (less) shitty. It is changing though :)
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(Quick Question: Are you tracking your progress still? :) Let me know if you are, because it's super, super, super, super, super important)
Yep! Here is what it looks like so far:
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For that last one (bolded), I'm just making sure that I understand you correctly: If a girl has her phone out, you'll approach her, but if she's freely walking, you avoid her? I doubt that this is what you meant, but I'm just making sure!
No lol, you're right. I will only ask a girl if she already has her phone out, I'm too scared to do it if she doesn't have it out or if she's talking.

Thanks a lot for your support Surreptitious, I really appreciate it! I'll let you know when I receive Rules of the Game. It should be tomorrow or Tuesday since I ordered it over a week ago.

Day 12
The reason I didn't post yesterday was because I didn't practice my game. I'm only using the 'days' as days where I actually practice.

Ok so today I decided I'd face my fear of going to the mall on a weekend, lol. I went to the mall about an hour before it closed. I only ended up asking 3 girls for the time. It's so weird. I always only do one walk around the mall, because I feel like if I do more than that, people are going to be thinking, "what is this kid doing? I keep seeing him walk around the mall and he never buys anything, what a creep..." Also, I could have asked more girls for the time, but a) I pussied out of asking 1 really cute girl and 2) I feel like the girls I just asked for the time are going to see me ask another girl for the time and think I'm a huge creep lol. These are my two major sticking points. It's not really asking her for the time, it's just what other people will think. I know, I know, I'm a bitch.

Things I did good:
-I'm walking a lot better now. Back straight and chin level with the horizon. I look people in the eye when I walk.
-I'm not nearly as scared to approach a girl and ask her for the time (though I still do pussy out of asking hot(ter) ones.
Things I need to improve:
-Ask the hotter and hottest girls for the time.
-Stop caring what people in the mall think of me so much. I'm just walking around, fuck off. All I'm doing is asking people for the time, that's not a big deal at all.
-Ask girls who are freely walking without their phone or talking on it. Who cares if I get rejected?
-I need to reach my target goal.

Until tomorrow

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