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So yesterday afternoon I was with my friends and we were just hanging out waiting for a movie to start. We brought out tickets an hour early because we heard the lines were going to be long and then we just hung out and talked. Now I will describe my friends and I:
You can skip right over this if you guys feel like it. It is just trying to give you some info on how me and my friends are.
1. Tall guy, 6"2, White, Blonde hair, blue eyes, goes to Yale but came down here because he is done with classes. Chiseled face and has been told he can model, is a bit reserved, very speculative and thinks a lot.
2. 5"8 guy, White, brown hair, goes to UF:Gainesville and is almost done with college. Round facial features and very outgoing.
3. 5"10 guy, Latino, curly brown hair, palish skin, goes to UNC: Chapel Hill. Chiseled features but not really that good looking according to most girls and what others say about him, but is reserved and going to Dental school soon.
4. Then there is me Paramount21: 6 ft tall, Indian, jet black hair, olive skin, and goes to a D-1A SEC school. Good looking but no as much as guy 1, overthinks, overanalyzes, and well you know me.
This is our conversation.
So we talked. Friend 2 tells me "dude, you are going to be a doctor, those women are going to throw themselves at you".
Friend 1 says "that would depend on confidence, personality, and a lot of other things man".
Friend 2 says "he is smart and doctors have money, if he gets there, it will be like shooting fish in a barrel".
Friend 3 intervenes and says "Cousin is a surgeon, talks a lot about his struggles in dating life".
I think about it and say "You hear of pro athletes having women throw themselves at them, you hear it happening to musicians, but why never doctors and engineers?".
Friend 1 says "Because smart guys are in a way screwed, why else does a kid in a division 1 school who joins a frat get so much more action than a kid going to Harvard?".
I reply "Because kid in a division 1 school has the time to devote to all that stuff while a Harvard kid is too busy planning for the future, but in the long run he will be better off for it!".
Friend 1 says "true, women will look at the intelligent guy as the settle down option, the guy who can provide her a house to live in, the guy who can be her security blanket, but the muscle man will always be the one getting in one the action. Think about why the poor and stupid have so many kids while the rich and brainy have just one kid."
We all looked at him and nodded.
Well, conversation fizzled out from there and then it hit me! My friend was correct.
Guys who are brainy, educated, and intelligent have all these standards. A lot of these guys will often become their worst enemy and over-analyze themselves. Every rejection will have some sort of science involved. Every interaction has to go a certain way.
I applied to my situation. As many of you know, I have been pushing the "Why don't Indian men ever get with pretty blondes?" question down everyone's throat because I am an Indian guy that likes good looking Blonde women. But then I thought to myself and looked at the given situation. I am analyzing the life out of a situation. I am pretty much thinking along the lines of "well historically such relationships have been blah blah blah" rather than seeing a rejection for what it is, a freaking rejection.
One thing I have noticed that intelligent guys fail at is irrational confidence. Let us be honest, a lot of confidence comes from delusion. Believing you are Superman when you really aren't. Intelligent men cannot let their minds believe in delusion, intelligent men always have to make a reality out of something instead of just accepting it as it is.
Why else do you see athletes, athletic trainers, drug dealers, and small name musicians getting more action than scientists, doctors, and college professors?
Remember the "ignorance is bliss" saying? Well it has a lot of truth to it. Sometimes you are better off not knowing things. When I stumbled on to PUA forums I had to read endless threads by Asian and Indian men complaining about their race. A man like me never though of my race as a setback but then by stumbling on these threads I slowly started to analyze my actions.
Thinking a lot, something bright minds and educated minds tend to do can lead to self defeatism. So why waste time beating yourself up?
But, we care about action right?
So I took at as a challenge, I will believe and make my own reality. In my own reality, my Indian or Brown appearance is not some sort of a setback but an exotic delight to women. I am my own man. Screw the statistics, screw the "social norms", etc. If I want a girl, I go after her, pure and simple. I will approach 20 blondes before one says yes because that is what I want just as I will approach 20 Latinas if that is what I want. _________________ I just come on here these days to give advice and read interesting threads. Gone are the days when I came to seek advice and validation.
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