Does Approach Anxiety ever go away?



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PostPosted: Wed May 29, 2013 2:31 pm 
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I am wondering what everyone's experience with approach anxiety is... does it ever go away, and how do you overcome it?

I am doing the Stylelife 30 day challenge from Rules of the Game and I am on day 6, and have only had a few difficulties so far. I consider myself a novice, although I have been reading about pick up for about 7 months. I have seen some tangible improvements in my game, but I still have approach anxiety. I have always been at least slightly introverted, and I usually have to make a conscious effort to become social. Despite this, I have approached several HB9s and HB10s... but even after succeeding in conversation with beautiful women, I still feel nervous when I approach the HB7s and HB8s.



Does anyone have any experiences or advice on how to overcome approach anxiety? Or is this something that never goes away?


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PostPosted: Wed May 29, 2013 4:02 pm 
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It doesn't ever go away. However, you can control it. Anxiety is an adrenaline rush of negative feelings. Force yourself to think positively and open the set. Once you are in, that negative adrenaline rush will turn into a positive one as long as your thoughts stay positive.

Keep yourself "in the moment." Don't have any expectations of outcome. You just do whatever the next step is. Approach anxiety happens because guys make up scenarios in their head that don't even exist and they start giving their brains excuses as to why they SHOULDN'T do something. Just fucking do it. And keep doing it. Eventually it will feel weird if you DON'T approach a girl you find attractive.


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Never does you just learn how to deal with it.


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It's like skydiving. Does the fear of you might die ever go away? No. But do we still getting so fucking excited every time we jump? HELL YES! Use the adrenaline from AA to your advantage.

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I would say it will go away. Why ? Imagine what anxiety you had for your first exams. After that ? You had less and less anxiety? Probably didn't gave a shxxx after some time... even if you still wanted/hunted a good grade.


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PostPosted: Wed May 29, 2013 5:20 pm 
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The physiological symptoms attenuate themselves eventually but you begin to realise after a while that it's excitement and not anxiety which causes them.


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PostPosted: Wed May 29, 2013 8:11 pm 
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Wait guys.
I strongly disagree with you.
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If you are an 200 lbs fat ugly boy you will have some fear approaching a girl. If you have an Ferrari and you are well know in town... would you feel the same ?
Seduction is not just about words, but also being a man.
After you will gain some personality, you will know how to handle girls why you think you will feel anxiety ? what for? is like being the 10th college exam, not the first one.

If you are like that 200lbs fat boy...then you will feel anxiety because you will think she is the only girl, and if you mess something up you will probably lose the change of your life (and all that bullshit) ... but wait if you already have 20 cell phone numbers from girls you pick up ? if you already have 2-3 best friends (girls! of course) you get out? why ... the fxxx to be anxious ?!


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