Yes. But PUA wont help you overcome your insecurities, they will only help you mask them.

Remember when you made your first approach....? you tried it. It was something new. You had no idea if it was going to work.

TRY new things dude. There are certain things that it is okay to learn from others mistakes.... Like jumping out of a moving car. You can pretty much assure yourself that the end result will not be a good one. But basing your decision to move somewhere or do something with your life, such as moving to a different area of the country or even a different country in general, off of someone else's opinion... You will NEVER get the REALITY of it. Everyone has their own perception of things. Create your own reality bro. You can do whatever you want to with your life. The best way to learn something is to experience it first hand.... Same thing as learning pick up. You can sit here on forums and read theory all day, buy books, watch YouTube videos, but until you get out there and actually APPLY WHAT INFORMATION YOU HAVE... You will never fully understand it and experience it and allow it to become your reality. It will all just be theory and information gathering.

Basically, what I'm saying, is find somewhere cool that you have always wanted to live... Try it out. See if you like it. If you don't like it... Move again. If you do like it and can live the life you want, that's awesome! Now you have reaped a benefit from your risk that you took!!!

Hopefully this makes sense dude... But it really just comes down to you need to sack up and do what you want. You will be a much stronger and wiser person for have doing it and experiencing it for yourself.

I stand correct. You only look for validation from people on this forum, rather than listen and taking their suggestions. I have suggested some alternatives for you to get over your issue in the other post by placing yourself in a close proximity of women that are open minded and exposed to foreign cultures. I told you to check out the Asian festival, restaurants, event, etc... There are tons of women that are interested about foreign cultures, put your time and energy into those, don't waste it on someone who is not attracted to you. Attraction isn't a choice. Accept it and make the best out of what you have and do what you can. I also suggested a few cities for you to move to.

However, you didn't listen to a single word I or other people suggested, you just went around and posted another topic looking for more validations. We're all being supportive and want you to get better with your game. But to some degree, keep answering the SAME question can get annoying.

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You guys think I want to come on this forum and have these arguments. HELL NO. Are you kidding me?

If I had it my way I would try to be friends with Zmbc and Warped Mindedness, I would try to be friends with everyone. Do you not know how MENTALLY draining and frustrating the arguments get? They do get frustrating because I hate making enemies, I hate having to get into arguments with certain members and getting into fights.

You guys don't get it. It isn't just the issue of attraction down south, it is just that a man of my color cannot openly date an attractive Blonde here without being harassed for it or getting a lot of uncomfortable looks. Interracial relationships here involving White women with Brown men just don't happen because of the culture of the place. I mean that is the only logical conclusion I have come to after seeing so many Brown men and so many White women.

At first I thought it was just culture and what not but having gone out there and tried it for myself, yes I do make approaches and not just sit inside all day, I have learned that the place is very limiting to me. Questions about where in the world I can live my life and of course have dating success with all kinds of women spring to mind but I cannot find the answer.

I basically want to know of possible success stories involving Indian men with other races of women that are attractive and where these success stories happened.

Personally I always wanted to pick Southern California and the West Coast due to weather and the type of wildlife offered.

I want to discuss cities in the US where a guy with my ethnic appearance can date attractive women who are White (since it is impossible to do down south) if he has the confidence, game, looks, and lifestyle.

Down here, as I have said, doesn't matter if you are a handsome Indian doctor with a great salary and a lovely lifestyle, you aren't dare laying fingers on a White woman, end of story. Good ol south!

I want to discuss success stories and talk more about them, highlight them. Some you guys may know.

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Do men ever really overcome their insecurities?

In your case, no. Cause some men are bitches.

Just want to make this clear. I am not saying I want a good looking Blonde woman to see me, an Indian guy, and go "OMG an Indian guy I want him!". That is not what I am searching for. I am searching for something like this:

"OMG, a good looking, confident, cool, interesting, and fun guy who happens to be Indian". Then after saying that she hooks up with me. You guys get what I am saying here?

Here in the south I have noticed this: "ya there are so many positive qualities about the guy but he is foreign and doesn't look American, eeewww".

I mean I don't want to go to cultural festivals simply because culturally I am an American. I eat medium rare steaks, love football, have no accent, etc. I don't want a girl to love me for being Indian. I want her to see me as a man who has so many good qualities and happens to be ethnically Indian.

Yet the problem down here that me and my minority friends with the exception of some Black guys (who are seen as more American than other minorities) face is that our dating pool is limited.

After dating some mixed race girls and Latinas, I want to see how it is like being with girls who are White. Down here my frustration is with the fact that despite those good qualities, the girls that I want to be with don't give a damn.

As always, I will do my best and do what is necessary to make myself attractive (working out, style, etc.) not only for women but because it has other benefits. Yet, I want to be in a place where my effort is rewarded.

One day when I finally get to the end of my journey and am dating the kind of women I want I will thank all of you guys and our petty arguments will be useless and a thing of the past. I really don't want to make enemies but I do want suggestions.

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So men can be bitches? In that case they aren't truly men anymore.

Then again I don't expect this to settle into the mind of a guy with a poorly spelled urbanized name. Go feed your inbred pitbulls and sell some cheap drugs so you can get a night with a low quality hooker and come back to preach to us about game.

GTFO, this thread is for "men", not dumbshit boys.

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Where do you live? I have no problem with women despite my race and so do my Indian friends. And we live in Texas... I have a few friends in Costa Rica and Brazil, they have never had any problem either.... It only becomes a problem when you're too obsessed with it, it will show in your game. Your insecure will show and women are pretty good at picking up on that.
Have you noticed even when you write you're so caught up with the race issue that you had to emphasize it by capitalize them? "Black" people, "White" people, "Blonde" women. Those are not pronouns, they're adjective. They don't need to be capitalized, but you did because subconsciously you're obsessed with it.

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Texas isn't as much south, I am talking SEC states and not Florida either.


Lots of Indians in my state, lots of White women, never seen either of them hook up ever. Have tried my luck and the same approach with most White women here that I have tried with non-Whites, have problems with the White girls in that regard.

I do great with Latin girls and girls that are non-White.

My neighbor was from California so that is a start. She has also commented on how segregated the state we are in is compared to California.

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You gotta be fucking kidding me. Texas isn't that much south..... This is such a joke. Do I need to send you back to 3rd grade so you can relearn the US map? I'm done helping. Nothing I said can get through that thick skull of yours. Good luck on your journey mate. You'll need it.

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No you need to learn your geography.

Texas and Florida = in the south but not considered the south, this talk happens in the south all the time
South = SEC states

I say the deep south often as well. The original confederate states of America.

Learn a bit of history and can your temper.

Oh wait, nevermind, my skull is thick, I forgot, Miami is the deep south too! (sarcasm)

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Lol you're defining a location by a collegiate sports conference, which has Texas A&M...

Either way, you have to deal with all of your problems. If you don't want to deal with them, move. If you don't know where to move, explore. Come to Cali if it's that big of a problem.

Everyone criticizes you because it seems like you're just whining.

"Wahh, blonde girls don't like me. Wahh. I think it's because I am Indian. Wahh nooo! I can't change that about myself- gotta look for another excuse. It's probably because I am in the South. Wahh I can change that. But I rather go on a forum and talk about it some more. Wahh."

Stop talking and start doing.

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My frustration comes from doing and failing and making a mockery out of myself because I am in the wrong place at the wrong time.

Don't act like I sit here all day and post, I approach, and I learn from those approaches, and then I come back here.

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Depends on the person, if you work really hard on overcoming an insecurity or are pushed to some sort of epiphany or break point, then sure it is possible. Not every guy who has an insecurity is going to just break that pattern with wishful thinking though.

It doesn't work for everyone but continual desensitization towards what causes anxiety can help reduce that anxiety, in other words facing what scares you or makes you feel uncomfortable. The way you look at things can also have an adverse effect on how you feel about those things, for example this feeling like you want to be accepted by blonde white girls in the south. Why?

You can find acceptance from within yourself and still hook up with some blondes from the south, even get validation from them, but seeking widespread validation as a source of self actualization will only bring you more insecurity. Not everyone will like you, in most circumstances it will be a mixed bag and it just depends how you cope with that. Some girls are probably just plain racist like you say but focusing on that won't really benefit you in any way, it will just make you feel more insecure and resentful.

Why not just focus on the cute blonde white girls that admire your courage or charm? Why not just work on letting the fact that some girls are not going to like you for X reason go? Why not just work on a more efficient way of finding out which girls see through the racial issue and like you for you, instead of focusing on the girls who don't like you, it's just a plain old waste of time and focusing on it will likely not change the situation but rather just make it more apparent and important to you.

Pumpington, first and foremost I want to say you have been very helpful to me in all of my time here and I like you and poetic a lot as users. Same with Majikal and others who have helped me out.

Anyways, the issue I run into down south is that the attractive blondes here just won't respond to me positively for whatever reason. I have bad experience after bad experience with them but the problem is that I am attracted to them too. It becomes a cruel cycle. The one blonde I managed to get with that was attracted to me was from the West Coast.


It is like I am at a dead end here down south because I cannot manage to find blondes who do respond positively to me. Which is why I said it is helpful to talk about areas in the USA where I would have luck.

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