This is really annoying me. I had one girlfriend my whole life, who I had a real relationship with and that ended 10 years ago. I've been on dates throughout my 20's but never had proper sex. I've experienced love and sex but I feel like a virgin at 29. I have many girls, different races that compliment me ask me for my number, nothing works out though. This has been since late teens, I mean girls would stare at me,compliment me always I feel I'm decent looking but they blew my head up big but now I'm getting older I want things to happen.

My major issue is I'm not driving, I don't have my own place and to me those two things kill everything. It was easier when I was 20 and even then I never had sex with any of them(either too drunk or my stupid erection probem) I just had great nights. I want the comfort of a real girlfriend who actually wants me and enjoys cuddling or having sex but I also like the thought of having crazy girls who just want me there and then I like slutty girls mostly and I guess to make up for all the years. To me the girls I see pretend to provide me with these options, but in reality nothing ever happens. Maybe they sense my inexperience but either way, I want to experience this, I've had a taste and now I'm eager to have it again.

You see boring guys or douchey macho man type guys with nice women, but I'm the guy who can't get where I want and don't know why. I'm mixed race black and white and believe this is a problem since most white girls stick to their own. I'd understand if I was ugly, and at times I forget and think I am, until I get compliments for having nice eyes,tall,handsome and all the flirty smiles etc. THAT'S when the problem starts because I get happy knowing girls as beautiful actually give me the time of day. Makes me feel great, the small things in life do so I know how happy I would be if I had a real loving girlfriend. I've had anxiety for many years which I try to control and it's alot better right now but in some ways I think girls notice this or feel I'm too easy and lose interest. What can I do to change things? I have some fun with girls, before settling down with one?

Sounds like you're being too needy, plus it sounds like you're giving women too much value just from their looks.

Learn the game, learn about attraction, and remember all women are dorks!

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They just give up on me though it seems.

Same crap again on weekend. Girl walks up to me flirting while I'm working at the bar, her friend then says she thinks your good looking so I start talking to her. I ask for her number and she gives it but my phone was playing up so I gave her mine. She had a picture of a guy on her phone and I was like "is that your boyfriend?" in a jokey way and she pulled this face as if it was some insult. I spoke to her a bit more and asked her to wait for me. Her friend pulled her away as she was about to dance with me.

She waved saying bye and I went over to give her a kiss on the cheek and she froze and I half got her mouth and then she looked at me like she expected me to kiss her while I was at work and the managers were no far from me. They both left quickly and when I called her the next day she ignored my call and then called me back saying "I just see this number on my phone who is this" she already saved the number too.

Hey buddy, life can seem hard at times. Don't fret though. It seems your understanding of what attracts girls and female psychology in general isn't good. What I suggest you do is you start properly reading up some stuff so that you can get a grip on female psychology and what makes an attractive male. I will now give you a list of books to read which you can buy or get otherwise wink wink. Make sure you go through these so you understand how game works, as well as staying on these forums. Then what you must do is you must absolutely 100% go out and do what you have been reading. Reading may give you the knowledge, but not the skill. The skill comes from failing and then then understanding why you failed so you do not make the same mistakes again. Make sure you keep at it as times in this game can be really tough, but it's worth it in the end. Game has changed my life, and it will yours, too, if you do what has to be done, and enjoy the results on the way.

Books to read:

The Mystery Method by Mystery - many bash this book for being out of date, but I'd say everything in it is spot on. The only thing you should NOT do is learn any of the routines. Rather figure out why the routines work.

The Attraction Code by VinDicarlo - This is a book about being natural around women, being confident, applying your focus, and getting what you want. It's a great book because it, too, first analyzes female psychology, plus at the same time gives you the ability to truly change yourself. It's very simple, you have to apply it though.

60 Years of Challenge - I'd recommend all 4 books (which are about 60 pages each, so they're a quick read). 60 goes against a lot of the stuff said by other pick-up artists, but in fact he is saying much of the same. His books centralize around ESCALATION, pure escalation as an attraction builder. Touching, getting closer, sexual intent, tension and rapport, sex.

I usually don't recommend Mystery, but as a foundation for things it really is quite a good book if you are clever enough to take the important things (the concepts, female psychology, attractive qualities) and leave out the unimportant things (the routines! Again, don't learn any of them!)

Probably the mistake of the night here: immediately asking about her boyfriend. Just be cool with it and act secure/confident. You don't need to know these aspects of her life here and now - what's important is the dynamic between you two.

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Preston's Game Log - Please critique

Still suffering.

Knowing that I can't offer a girl what she wants is making me act AFC all of a sudden. I used to control my inner AFC quite well now I'm acting nervous around successful women.

If only I had a car, my own house...It would be like a massive weight lifted off my shoulders.

Offering a girl what she wants is a car and a house?