I don't post field and lay reports anymore, cause i do always the same shit... But anyways, i want to show how to bring a girl to your world and your lover frame, and not the other way around... This is a " christian girl" that i met at a club... She was one of the hottest girl, if not the hottest girl in the club that night . I saw her with her female friends, i force approach invitations, but it was kind of difficult to break the group dynamics, so i waited, then open dancing.... escalation make out the usual shit! anyways i escalated hard core on the dance floor for about an hour or 1.5, then she started asking me out of left field to take her out to dinner so we can get to know each other. No she is not a gold digger, is her societal programming, since she is a church girl clubbing for the first time. I went into my speech of why that shit is stupid, is basically buying women blah blah, that you do not have to go out to dinner to get know each other blah blah blah, and trying to change the fucking subject. But she flipped, her friend came to cockblock and she left( just because i refuse to dinner date) but i have no filters i am not gonna sit there and change my frame and my beliefs for a girl, anyways she met some other dude after. But you can tell she was bored and the dude was a civilian... Anyways here is by
teevester before i go into the field report, and soon i am gonna fuck that girl, now that she is chasing me:
Quote:
"Lover VS Provider" Theory And The M/W Complex
Women are seeking two types of mates – call it different providers. Consider sex being a trade, what you are trading for the sex defines what kind of provider you are. The men women are seeking who are confident, independent, attractive having a lot of women chasing them are called “sex providers” – this is the man women finds sexually attractive – the man who women would like to have sex just for the sake of having sex. These men are often behaving sexually toward women, making themselves being perceived as sexual beings – sex providers. This type of men is usually called “alpha males” or “lovers” in community lingo. Important to point out, these men are trading sex for sex. However, these are a minority – whereas the majority of men are providers of anything else of women’s needs such as social value, material goods, emotional support and so on. These men will trade something else than sex in for having sex with a woman. As a matter of fact this type of providers tend to get sex from being in relationships with women.
Now you might ask why is that a problem? Well whenever a woman gets “too attracted to you” in ways that are not purely sexual (-i.e. not perceiving you as lover/sex provider), women will tend to act in very pure and a-sexual way toward those men – she will start expressing purity. This is because she feels more attractive when ever she acts non-sexual toward men and feels unattractive when she is behaving too sexually or promiscuous. Women in fact believe we men do not like women who are sexually open – as they are very familiar with the complex many men have which is called “the Madonna/whore” complex. There are many versions of this complex but the most common one is described as men perceiving women as either plain whores, who are just sex tools without, who are useless when it comes to relationships, or “madonnas”, which men perceives as pure and good. These “madonnas” being known as the pure and correct women, are often perceived by men as better fitted for relationships. Women aware of the following will then act in way that communicates that she is a Madonna - in order words she will behave very a-sexually toward male who they perceive as potential relationship candidates. This is because they believe, and they are right in most of the case that men usually do prefer women that are “pure and correct” because men fantasize about women that are exclusive to them.
The sad fact is that the idea of the pure Madonna remains just a plain fantasy. The cold fact is that no women are pure madonnas, neither are they whores for that instance – any women can be sweet and correct, but they are also “whores” as every women have a sexual biological drive – this is a universal truth about healthy women. Still many men believe some madonnas do exist – we have all heard “she is not like the rest”. Now the problem occurs whenever a man is too attractive to a woman in a way that is not just purely sexual, she starts perceiving that man as a boyfriend potential – nothing bad with that, but she will perceive him as a provider – meaning that the relationship would not be based on the sexual aspect. Therefore she is better off expressing her “Madonna side” by showing purity – acting a-sexual in order to win her man over, as that what believes works. This is why women will often make men wait for sex – “I am not that kind of girl” –, which is something we don’t want to happen. We don’t want women to act pure toward us, as we want sexual openness – women fucking us quickly and good. Many times we just want to simply fuck a girl, not enter a relationship – or if we do want to enter a relationship with that girl, we do not want to commit on a false premise – her being a pure Madonna. A quick word of advice is to never ever enter a relationship on her terms – as you don’t want to exchange sex for anything else than sex. Keep in mind that you can easily start relationships with women by being perceived as a sex provider – these relationships will be of better quality and last longer.
So during make out i grab her phone and texted to myself:
sherryann: Damn u r hot call me papi 2:20 AM
sherryann: Hey
I had a lot of fun dancing with you last night ... Even if you aren't the type of guy that takes girls out to dinner hahaha :p 10:41 AM
Me: i had a lot of fun pretending to be dancing with you while grabbing your ass! xoxo 2:57 PM
sherryann: Lol shut up you are a good dancer! :p 3:00 PM
Me: shut up you are a good girl to do groping! Sherry ann! i usually get bored after for songs and i don't get hard dancing, you manage to do both, i think i even precame a bit... Accidents happen don't judge! muazzzzz with tounge! 3:13 PM
Me: *four 3:13 PM
sherryann: You never know, some girls might be worth taking out to dinner! Haha
but forreal though, I'd be down with dancing with you again 3:16 PM
Me: you need to understand, that me doing something i don't do or like to do is being a fake version of me, do you want me to be fake and take out to dinner, just to get in your pants or be myself? 3:18 PM
Me: When you take a girl to dinner, or any other type of traditional dating, you are looked as boyfriend material, 2 problem outcomes with that, you will be compare to other guys on the application stack, and possibly friendzone since now you become the dude they want to date instead of the lover 3:20 PM
Me: now lets say a dude gets through the screening process, now sex will be delay since, she does not want the dude to see her as a "slut" whatever that means 3:21 PM
Me: Women LOVE SEX, but society brainwash them with sex is bad and if you have sex you are a slut, which is a bunch of crap and societal programming... I can fuck a girl in 20 minutes or one in 6 months, and it does not change my opinion of who they are... 3:22 PM
Me: with that being said women have to be more picky do to societal judgment, pregnancies etc... and i get that... Does not change my view about stupid ass taco bell dinner.. 3:24 PM
sherryann: Lol, I wasn't trying to say that I'd let you in my pants if you took me out to dinner... Lol, I wouldn't. That's just not the type of girl I am. I was just 3:28 PM
sherryann: saying that maybe some girls are worth getting to know. I'm the type of girl that likes to have a good time. I like having friends. I like meeting people. I 3:28 PM
sherryann: believe in marriage lol, maybe that's old school but that's who I am. I'm not telling you to take me out to dinner haha... I'm just saying there's more to some 3:28 PM
sherryann: girls than sex. You think I've got a nice ass, I promise you my heart is even bigger. I'm fun... Even when I'm not dancing on random guys. I've got a great 3:29 PM
sherryann: smile with a whole lot of depth behind it. In no way am I trying to convince you that you need to take me out to dinner, you've made it pretty clear that you 3:29 PM
sherryann: aren't that type of guy haha, but I'm just saying, some of us girls are actually worth getting to 3:29 PM
sherryann: know. 3:29 PM
Me: you can get to know a girls WITHOUT TAKING THEM OUT TO DINNER... The idea that you think somehow you are better than other women cause you got a be heart, is none sense, most women i know have a big heart. 3:32 PM
Me: actually the girls i have taken out to dinner put on a show, is fake, is harder to get to know... Since is bullshit 3:33 PM
sherryann: I don't think I'm better than anyone, I'm just saying I'm not like most girls you meet in a club 3:33 PM
sherryann: I'm sorry you've had such a terrible experience with dinners lol
3:33 PM
Me: never fails they order a salad and say "i am watching my weight" and go into job interview mode, that shit is stupid... Dude most my relationship last 3 to 5 years, so something i must be doing right 3:34 PM
Me: also you keep bringing up sex, like if i want to have sex and that is it... For me to fuck a girl i have to like her personality, her looks, and she got the fuck real good... I just don't sleep with anybody i SCREEN HARD 3:35 PM
Me: hard as in difficulty no hard as in pipi 3:35 PM
Me: anyways i have a romance story for you 3:36 PM
Me: romance tale: me: i am horny i want a bj. ex: Can you be a little bit more romantic me: i want a bj in the rain\u0009 3:37 PM
Me: brb in an hour, you got me horny with all this disagreement so i am gonna go masturbate, muazzz mizz uz! 3:38 PM
sherryann: You're kind of the worst story teller ever. Lol 3:42 PM
Me: mission accomplished!
5:02 PM
sherryann: You're gross lol 5:10 PM
Me: yea like you don't masturbate. oh please! you are so fake, whatever.. 5:13 PM
sherryann: I'm fake? Lol you don't even know me :p 5:13 PM
Me: i do your name is sherry ann from north carolina middle name renee, you go to college for biz management, you like to be taken out to dinner, and you have a crush on me, in your face! how you like them apples! 5:15 PM
sherryann: Hahaha I have a crush on you? 5:18 PM
sherryann: But you do listen... Because everything else is right
except its spelled Sherriann lol 5:19 PM
Me: Yes you do, there is no i in balls! i mean us! 5:20 PM
Me: cherry annnnnnnnn 5:21 PM
sherryann: Lol I have a crush on this guy Daniel. He's the type of guy that takes girls out to dinner hahaha :p something else about me, in stubborn as hell 5:22 PM
Me: lets text make out i go first: lalallaallalalalallalaallalalaa 5:22 PM
sherryann: You're so dumb hahahahaha 5:22 PM
Me: nah my name ain't Daniel 5:22 PM
Me: you misspell my name 5:23 PM
sherryann: You're also not the type of guy that takes girls out to dinner :p 5:23 PM
Me: d = s a=k n=i i=l e=s the rest latin diesel 5:23 PM
Me: nah i am the type of guy that make women have a good time, and squirt... So you are totally right... 5:24 PM
sherryann: Hahaha you're fun (my name)... Incredibly inappropriate, but you're fun 5:24 PM
Me: what is inappropriate, oh please, stop with the act. 5:25 PM
sherryann: I'm more turned on by old fashioned guys lol 5:25 PM
sherryann: Lol, what about you isn't inappropriate? 5:26 PM
Me: go to your dinner and a movie date, let him open doors, and give you an interview, sounds like a lot of fun, get to know each other, get married, get a house, have 2 kids and live an ordinary boring life get fat as fuck, then get divorce 5:26 PM
sherryann: I won't get fat. I run. Every single day. 5:27 PM
sherryann: You're parents are divorced? 5:27 PM
Me: running and fattness do not correlate God, you need much to learn 5:27 PM
sherryann: I used to be fat 5:28 PM
sherryann: Lol 5:28 PM
Me: no my parents are together head of the catholic church.. 5:28 PM
Me: i have a fat pipi, so i can relate 5:28 PM
sherryann: Hahahahaha really? 5:28 PM
sherryann: I'm pretty sure there's nothing about you that's fat... You're pretty fit 5:29 PM
Me: i got a fat pipi, question what has 286 teeth and holds the incredible hulk??????? 5:31 PM
sherryann: I have no idea lol 5:31 PM
Me: my zipper.. true story 5:31 PM
sherryann: Haha wow. If its green, you might want to get that thing checked out. 5:32 PM
Me:
so do you think of me? if so where are your hands when you do? 5:34 PM
sherryann: On my phone... Replying to your text messages lol. 5:35 PM
Me: keep lying then, i know your hands are in the promise land, when you think of me... omg! keep lying.. 5:43 PM
At this point i don't give a fuck about this girl is not gonna go anywhere so i just want her be curious to buy my book
sherryann: Lol. Sorry bud... You're wrong. I really did have a whole lot of fun dancing with you though 5:49 PM
Me: my name is not bud, nor my nickname is latin diesel 5:51 PM
sherryann: Haha my bad 5:51 PM
Me: gonna have to spank you, for bad behavior 5:52 PM
sherryann: Lol well you most definitely can't do that through the phone 5:53 PM
sherryann: Are you Cuban? 5:53 PM
Me: hell no! i am lesbian nese 5:54 PM
Me: nah i am (nationality), how you spell your name? 5:55 PM
sherryann: Lol... That's literally the perfect mix... I love Italian guys and Spanish guys 5:55 PM
Me: i know you love me! go with daniel and the other dudes, have tons of dinners with them, and introduce them to family and friends... I just want you for the nightime muazzzz! 5:58 PM
sherryann: Daniel's half Hispanic... Also a win. 5:59 PM
Me: how spell your name? 5:59 PM
sherryann: Sherriann (her last name) 5:59 PM
Me: fuck that is too much work... 5:59 PM
sherryann: Lol 6:00 PM
sherryann: Someone's lazy 6:01 PM
Me: k looking for your pics to masturbate, see how romantic muaz! 6:01 PM
sherryann: My Jamaican friends only want me for my night life but they at least offered to take me out to dinner 6:01 PM
sherryann: Lol, I'm gunna block you on Facebook 6:02 PM
Me: i don't do facebook 6:03 PM
sherryann: Lol where are you going to find me then? 6:04 PM
Me: in my imagination...i busted twice in your honor already muazzzzzz! 6:06 PM
sherryann: And you needed my name for your imagination? Lol okay. PS. Telling me that isn't attractive lol 6:07 PM
Me: i think it is.. Anyways the reason i do this style of polirizing and sexual is cause if we talk sex then we can talk about anything else, is not cause i am this big pervert, there is a method to my madness.. 6:09 PM
Me: people are usually guarded and fake, so by talking sex they feel at ease and they can open up, without being fake or calculating... get me! Damm i should write a book 6:10 PM
sherryann: Haha okay. If you haven't noticed I'm super chill... I'll talk about anything 6:11 PM
sherryann: Like the guy i danced with after you... He wasn't a good dancer at all but neither am I lol but he was cute. And he seemed like the type of guy that might be 6:12 PM
sherryann: willing to go to dinner lol 6:12 PM
sherryann: You on the other hand, are an incredibly fun person to dance with 6:13 PM
Me: k cool! so have him take you to dinner, i am not competing with anybody
6:15 PM
Me: actually your judging a guy by taking you to dinner, is a bit of turn off and silly... 6:16 PM
sherryann: Competing? Lol, I'm not about that life. And I'm totally being silly on purpose lol 6:17 PM
Me: shows me you have very low screening process, so what do you look in a dude? sherry: take me out to dinner... 6:17 PM
Me: and the guy was not cute lol! 6:18 PM
sherryann: Haha I didn't say that's what I look for in a dude, that's where I'd talk about what I look for in a dude, at dinner 6:18 PM
Me: but hey! i am not gay so what do i know... muaz! 6:18 PM
sherryann: Did you see the other guy? I thought he was cute. He wasn't Spanish or Italian... But he was still cute, and he was sweet. 6:19 PM
Me: anyways, here is my blog, and i have a book and videos my life is an open book... 6:19 PM
Me:
http://www.theskillsmethod.com 6:19 PM
sherryann: You have a book? 6:19 PM
Me:
http://www.youtube.com/dancefloorseduction muaz 6:19 PM
Me: yes i have a book on amazon 6:20 PM
Me:
http://www.amazon.com/dp/1479124532 6:20 PM
sherryann: Lol, what "type of woman in the club" am I? 6:21 PM
Me: i don't understand the question.. 6:33 PM
sherryann: Your blog says you cover types of women in the club, lol what type am I? 6:35 PM
Me: read the article, 3 types of women, not interested, interested, and maybe, you were interested.. 6:37 PM
Me: now you probably change to not interested or maybe, take notes.. 6:37 PM
Me: but you fail my screening, cause you talk to much about dinners, so i know you are very naive in experience, so if we ever were to have sex it would suck.. 6:38 PM
sherryann: Lol, why'd you choose to dance with me? 6:39 PM
sherryann: Well I'm pretty good at turning you on for someone that would suck at sex 6:39 PM
Me: you have a point, you got me there.. yea but i don't know is weird.. 6:44 PM
sherryann: Out of everything you've said, the only thing that's been a turn on for me is the idea that you think I'd suck at sex, probably because it made me want to 6:44 PM
sherryann: prove you wrong 6:44 PM
Me: cause you were in my opinion the hottest girl in the club 6:44 PM
sherryann: Lol well thank you 6:45 PM
Me: chemistry was there, vibe etc.. but i think your societal programming is all fucked up... 6:46 PM
sherryann: As do I, about yours lol 6:47 PM
Me: you value dinner and traditional dating too much which is a deal breaker for me, that is a major tun off.. But hey that is who you are? do you, never change to please people 6:47 PM
Me: i am watching the passion of the christ 6:49 PM
sherryann: Awesome movie! I'm getting ready to go out to dinner for my birthday 6:50 PM
Me: awww! happy birthday! 6:51 PM
Me: i got your present down in my pants.. 6:51 PM
sherryann: Thanks it's actually tomorrow! And you can keep the present lol 6:51 PM
Me:
6:53 PM
sherryann: I failed your screening remember :p 6:54 PM
sherryann: Do you normally go to feelgoods? 7:00 PM
Me: i go out to clemetis not only feel goods, hookak, monarchy, roof top, 313... 9:27 PM
sherryann: Gotcha 9:28 PM
Me: what are you doing? 9:30 PM
Me: i made reservation for us for your birthday 5 start restaurant... See that is all i need to do to win your heart 9:31 PM
sherryann: I'm out a dinner lol... The service sucked so bad 9:31 PM
sherryann: Lol if you actually did then I'd be so surprised... And I'd promise not to order a salad 9:32 PM
Me: oh yea what you had for desert! i am an apetizer myself... 9:33 PM
sherryann: Well damn if you're before the main course, dinner must be banging. Lol (no pun intended) 9:35 PM
Me: how old are you? 9:41 PM
sherryann: Lol how old do you think I am? 9:43 PM
Me: just answer i don't discriminate.. 9:45 PM
Me: i think you are 21 or 22 9:45 PM
sherryann: Well in about 2 hours and 15 minutes, I'll be 19 9:46 PM
Me: omg! we can not be together you will become a clinger if i ever fuck you 9:48 PM
Me: ;-( 9:48 PM
sherryann: Lol I wouldn't let you f me anyway 9:49 PM
sherryann: How old are you though? 9:49 PM
Me: well no problem cause i would not do it, so you don't have to worry... 9:51 PM
Me: i am 69 9:52 PM
sherryann: Lol you're probably like 30 9:52 PM
Me: how you got in the club anyways... 9:53 PM
sherryann: And don't even say you're 69 I just about barfed lol 9:53 PM
sherryann: Would you stop a girl that looks like me from coming into the club? Didnt think so 9:54 PM
sherryann: Forreal though, how old are you? 9:55 PM
Me: yes that could cause the club to lose the liscense.. 9:58 PM
sherryann: Lol I'll be 22 9:59 PM
sherryann: Gullible much? 9:59 PM
sherryann: Could I pass for an 18 year old? 10:00 PM
Me: yea i guess... 10:05 PM
sherryann: Lol how old are you forreal? 10:06 PM
Me: older than 29 younger than 69, i am not telling you till you take my out to dinner... 10:08 PM
sherryann: You're 32! 10:09 PM
sherryann: But you want me to take you out to dinner? Hmmm 10:13 PM
Me: age don't matter what matters you how we feel when we are together.. okay, that is all that matters at the end of the day someday you will understand that dinner, age and all that crap is just crap 10:21 PM
sherryann: I still don't get why you hate dinner. Lol... You're Italian and Spanish, you better be a great cook or it ain't real. 10:22 PM
Me: how do you feel with the other person, and how that person makes you feel it what matters? do he exite you, make you smile, have fun, turn you on, build you up, adds value to your life, the rest is crap... trust me 10:22 PM
Me: yes i cook cereal, toast poptarts, etc... 10:23 PM
sherryann: I like to eat with people that I like though lol... It isn't even about being taken out... Good quality time comes from dinner conversations 10:24 PM
sherryann: Oh my gosh. You're Spanish and you don't cook.... What is this? 10:24 PM
sherryann: Spanish food and Italian food are main reasons in why I have an ass. 10:24 PM
Me: i did not go to college to cook nigga! 10:28 PM
sherryann: You were born knowing about food.... You're SPANISH and ITALIAN lol 10:30 PM
Me: i was born sucking a breast sherry to the a to the nn 10:33 PM
Me: A wife, being the romantic sort, sent her husband a text message that read... "If you are sleeping, send me your dreams. If you are laughing, send me your smile. If you are eating, send me a bite. If you are drinking, send me a sip. If you are crying, send me your tears. I love you." He replied... "I am taking a poop. What should I do?" 10:34 PM
sherryann: Hahaha That's pretty freaking funny 10:38 PM
Me: well if you can get a girl smiling, you are half way into her heart wink wink 10:40 PM
sherryann: I've got a big heart and I smile at almost everything, now if you cook me Spanish food... That's a win. 10:41 PM
Me: here we go again, silly logic.. 10:42 PM
Me: you do this you get that, if it wear that easy every dude would be getting laid left and right 10:42 PM
Me: just cook girl food, and take her for dinner... umm it does not work like that.. 10:43 PM
Me: here is from my book 10:45 PM
Me: MISTAKE #4: Trying To "Buy" Her Affection With Food And Gifts How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did? If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT. Well guess what? It's only NATURAL when this happens... That's right, I said NATURAL. When you do these things, you send a clear message: "I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection". Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION. 10:45 PM
sherryann: It's not hard for guys to get laid, those guys just don't talk to me lol 10:45 PM
Me: then that is why, you need to go on multiple dates then you realize that shit don't work.. 10:47 PM
sherryann: It does work for some people. People do date and get married and live happily ever after hahaha 10:48 PM
Me: oh really like who, ON THE MODERN AGE, not couples from 50 years ago 10:49 PM
Me: gosh you are so naive 10:50 PM
Me: the perfect life people bragging on facebook is not what is real behind the scenes... Trust me a lot of those my clients. 10:51 PM
sherryann: I'm not being serious about people living perfect lives... But people do get married and have successful relationships 10:53 PM
Me: divorse rate 50%, your age under 25 probably 95% so don't worry about marriage talk 10:56 PM
Me: most guys you fuck and you get into a relationship with probably won't last more than 2 years, again don't worry 10:57 PM
sherryann: I'm not into most guys. 10:57 PM
Me: me either, actually i am not into any guy, see we have a lot in common.. 10:59 PM
Me: anyway i am out! ttul! happy birthday! 10:59 PM
sherryann: Thank you and good night! 11:00 PM
Me: but i mizzz u! 12:21 PM
sherryann: Lol, do you usually miss your dance partners?
6:02 PM
sherryann: My friend got me a shirt that says "Do it standing up" for my birthday lol 6:34 PM
Me: you are not my dance partner you are my future ex wife, happy birthday again.. 8:41 PM
Me: and happy eastern! 8:41 PM
sherryann: Lol future ex wife... Thanks 8:42 PM
At this point i got bored of her, since i had other girls, so i forgot about her
Till i ran into her yesterday ( a month later), but was not sure if it was her. Though she kept looking at me, i was not in the mood to deal with her, so i ignore her...
But it seems she is interested and want something here we go:
sherryann: Hey are you out? 2:14 AM
sherryann: Lol, I would have danced with you... You look bored standing there 2:46 AM
Me: Nah i had fun, i thought i saw you, but i was not sure.. Next time come say hi and make out with me! muazzzzzzzz with tongue! 12:06 PM
sherryann: Lol I intentionally "accidentally" bumped into you. (name of the club) was lame last night though, we didnt stay long. 12:08 PM
Me: wtf! did not notice... come out with me one night, does not matter how lame the club is, if you are with me you will have fun...
you will see is better than a dinner... anyways how are you? i miss you! 1:20 PM
Me:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jeKMgIshDO0 1:21 PM
sherryann: Haha okay, and I believe it... I haven't had as much fun dancing with anyone else as I did with you. Life is good though, hope it is for you as well! 1:26 PM
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