Just wake up after partying last night. Long story short, among the exchange students I was partying with there was this Romanian HB8 who was the centre of the boys' attention. I decided to practice my newfound skills on her. Now I'm another guy who attests that neg is an indispensable part of sarging.

The flow
Normal intro. Then further to a bit of joke. We had to take off from the rendezvous spot to the party place. Then I left her, and that's when the boys started trying to look for her attention, walking beside her, praising her on this and that and so on. I, in contrary, kept on walking a bit far from her, talking to some other ladies (that the other guys seemed to have neglected for the sake of the HB8, which I found a little bit unfair as well (this is some of the nice guy aspect of mine that I think I'll keep for good)). At some point, she would walk alongside me by chance. I noticed that, but stayed still for a while for like 10-15 seconds, then started striking neg-laden talk, starting first with questions about her, then commenting about it. ("I find it ironic though that you've been sick in winter even though you're a European while it's my first time here but never fell sick" or "a Romanian learning Japanese in Germany? Interesting"). Then I cut it, as the people were lost for the way anyway. Then I started to talk to others again. People started walking faster and we're a bit behind. She was with a Romanian girl friend, and at this point she (the HB8) would walk alongside me, trying to touch her arm to mine. I joked that she looked too young, like 16, and they both looked like sisters. They're impressed. We arrived at the club, danced a bit, but somehow I felt like not being that good in dancing, so after like half an hour, I told her I felt finished for the day and asked if she's going to leave Germany in a week, to which she said yes in quite a sad expression. So I kissed her cheek and wished her a safe trip home, without asking for her number. I don't care if somebody would close her or something, and since I actually made some mistakes in the process (briefly looking at her tits, where she looked a bit like shocked, and some lapsing negs that I could've playfully got around with) and she was dancing with the fellow exchange stud friends (which may have put up the bitch shield), I thought asking for number would serve as a DLV for me.

I'm pleased anyway to learn from my own experience that negs work like wonder.

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Met the Romanian girls by chance at the uni, didn't look open, I'd even say cold. I asked them if they're about to leave Germany soon, and they said yes, so I shook their hands out of politeness and that's all, because I saw there's no point to talk to them if they're not open. Then I took care of my own business, and met the HB8 at the bus stop, again by chance. I struck some normal talk, but she seemed to be not really open. She only asked where I live, and I had to talk the rest of the time. I didn't wanna look like a loser, so I had to introduce pauses. Then I got out of the bus, said bye, probably for the very last time, and moved on. Not sure we're going to meet again. Looking back, I think it's a slight mistake to have talked to her. I should've let her cold since I've made a grave mistake in my previous approach anyway. Yet another part of the learning curve: If you've looked at the boobs of your target even by accident and she noticed, eject and never go on that one anymore! Women are such sensitive creatures and that experience reminds me of that nature...

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Some events here.

Was finished from Swedish course as I walked along with a fellow student, who happened to drive a car to the course and live in the nearby from my place, so she offered me a ride home. Turned out she's 28, HB7, has worked for 2 years already. Tried to neg her, commenting about the accent from where she came from, while maintaining so as not to sound like an offence, then small talk the rest with some honest comments from my side so as to add a bit tension. Then we arrived, she dropped me off, and shortly before that I asked for her no. She gave me her Facebook but while it turned out to be unaddable from those without mutual friends.

I also arranged a meet-up with HB-GGI. She showed up there pretty cute there, looked like for me she took it pretty seriously. Unfortunately I had to tell before that I would come up late, so she went to the cafe first and since I came up late, I thought it would be rude to ask her to move to other seats where we could sit side by side to allow me to kino her. I teased her a lot though and she laughed a lot about it. Tried to introduce some pauses and she raised a question to break the silence, so it was clear she had interest in me. Then after an hour she had to meet her chef at work, so we finished, I took her up until where she worked (it's not far from our meeting place) and we hugged good bye there and she offered a meet up with her friends (whom I had met before) on this Friday.

Then with HB-LL, given the frequency of the message she sent me first, I felt that it might be right to make a move on her, so I asked her out of boredom whether she's busy with work, and she took a very damn while to reply, so I passed her out (again).

Inner game review

It seems like after a month, my inner game looks slowly improving. Today there were 2 girls trying to draw me to their talk, albeit underages. Well I don't wanna make myself punishable, so I skipped them. :/. I feel it's crucial for me to maintain social contact, so now I'm planning to recover contact with people here that I used to know but decided to abandon for the sake of looking for ladies. Looks like it has actually backfired, big way. And I notice that actually there are lots of avenues to meet new people apart from street games; join clubs, courses, events, or whatever, where people seem to be open to interaction with strangers. I won't skip street games when they're opportune, but it seems like my vibe hasn't been strong enough for this level. To address this, well again, I need to work to recover my confidence, which I'm still working on.

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I had a totally fucked up night. Went to party with a friend from 2 weeks ago. Before that we took off to a bar for a cocktail. Met a guy whom I met on the street there, who proposed that I drank one of the best cocktails at the bar. After I had ordered it, I found out that it had very strong alcohol in it; the name actually suggested that: Deep Sea Diver. No way back, I had to drink it. Thought I would be strong enough to handle it. Then off to the club. Not the case though: puked in the toilet, puked everywhere. Had to be ejected out by the guys there. I really made a big DLV out of myself, shit. I overheard some people making schadenfreude out of me, saying "Asian people can't party" or something like that, tried to counter the opinion but I was just too drunk. The friend even suggested I go to the hospital but I refused. I just took a sleep at his place and drank some water and recovered the day after that, which was a couple of hours before I wrote this post. I proposed that we meet up again for me to make up what I've done wrong there, but I have the feeling he's disappointed in me already and won't take up the offer. Tough lesson here.

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Went out with HB-GGI. Came up a little bit late so there was no space for kino as they sat isolated to me. Deployed lots of negs on her and another friend, let's say HB-GGI2, as she was once in Indonesia too. Eventually I found myself negging HB-GGI2 more. She's cute and hot though, and I actually wasn't for her but I had the impression that my tactics unexpectedly worked on her rather than on HB-GGI1. During the meet-up I showed relaxed body posture, used push and pull, and of course deployed negs, and as opposed to in the past, I'd stare at her eye for a while every time she looked and smiled at me, then pulled away. No sudden eye pull. She definitely showed lots of IOIs; playing with her hair almost the whole time, looking at me probably like 10 times, biting her lips, and trying to talk to me every time I stalled the talk or stayed silent. Then there's a chance that I sat next to HB-GGI1. Tried to touch her back as part of the kino campaign, but she a bit like pulled back, so I decided she didn't want that. Later on I found that the male friend sitting next to her did quite a lot of kino on her and she didn't refuse that, so I assumed there's something special between them, so I guess I'll pull back a bit at this point, while of course still maintaining contact. Then to HB-GGI2, she was walking next to me as we went home, I kinoed her a bit by touching her back for some seconds and pulled away. But then I was really tired and could no longer deploy all the tricks. She's cute and looks interested in me though, but she's like 10 cms taller than me and hence I'm not sure if I can close her if I want to, but I'll defo not rule that out.

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Not much to say here if sarging is concerned, so those more interested in reading my hunt story can skip this one out, but if you're interested in reading my development to a PUA as a whole, then you'll like this post.

So now I'm in Indonesia (where I come from) for a few weeks for holiday. On my way to Frankfurt airport, I had to stop at a village train station in the middle of the night for 3.5 hours for the sake of saving 25 Euro. That was on Fri nite btw. I decided despite the weight of my luggage and bag to go to the town anyway to see what's happening. On my way there, I came across ladies in my age asking out of the blues asking where I was going with such heavy loads, and on my way back across a guy who was curious about the same stuff. Had pretty good conversations, which led me to think: If the villagers can be so friendly to each other, why shouldn't we the city dwellers?? This suddenly gave me energy to greet anybody I wished to talk to, which I would've normally shunned. Struck some talks with multiple girls on the plane (one of them was actually apparently with her BF who sat a bit far from her, but yet she seemed to check me out many times hehe).

Long story short, I arrived in Indonesia. The day after that, I took care of my stuffs, and at the bank with this new-found confidence, I came across this HB7 MILF who was about to walk past me, I starred at her and applied this eye-fuck and a smile, and all of the sudden she smiled back and looked like submissive! Just too bad my turn was about to come any soon and I couldn't skip the appointment, so I passed. But I was proud of that, since that was the first probably sexual sign I could trigger since I started these PUA stuffs. Suddenly I see the pussy coming faintly.

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Not much to report sarging-wise, still. Just that I decide to pause for a while. This stress has taken a toll on my sexual appetite and I think this has influenced my gaming. Countering that with doing sport, which I haven't done for 5 months. I have also read the book Social Intelligence by Daniel Goleman and have learned the concept of high road and low road in one's head, from which I've also managed to handle my fear very effectively before it ruins my gaming and my life in general. Worth reading really if you're a complete beginner. Anyway, got accepted into the uni officially, so start of something new; well something to do.

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Inspired by VW Cephei's reply to me, I decided to return to sarging scene again, only to find myself returning to my AFCness. Not that I got nervous, but I was way too hesitant and analytical even as my target met my criterion. I think that's because I expected to get something out of it. From now on I target to absolutely sarge minimum once a day, no matter what the outcome will be. Fuck with rejection. Just need to find a sound opening and that's all about it. Will tell you guys of the good outcome.

Anyway, sport and "Social Intelligence" has helped my vibe. I noticed that I feel better day by day and get more and more checking out by ladies. Too bad I couldn't use it to my advantage. That will change.

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I read over most of your journal, and thought I'd mention a few things that might help or motivate you.

I know what you mean when you said you found yourself returning to your AFCness, as that's what seems to happen when you don't do any approaches for awhile. I referred to that as 'social momentum' in my journal.

To feel better and more confident about yourself, I'm a big proponent of a healthy lifestyle in terms of diet, exercise and rest. I believe you mentioned that you currently don't have a job, but I'd highly recommend joining a gym, or if not, at the very least, workout at home by doing bodyweight exercises. What I'd recommend doing is find out your maintenance calorie level, ie how many calories you need to consume on a daily basis to maintain your current body weight based on your activity level.

Then, depending on whether you need to lose or gain weight, adjust your daily food consumption accordingly. If you need to lose weight, depending on how much, start eating at a caloric defecit of roughly 500 cal/day. If you need to gain weight, start eating at a daily caloric surplus of 300-500 cal/day. You can use a site like myfitnesspal to track food intake, and you can also do that from your phone too as they have an app for that. You'd be surprised how much better you'll feel about yourself as you begin to see your body change. And above all that, exercise is healthy, it'll likely make you sleep better, lower stress, and just put you in a positive frame of mind.

And as far as approaching chicks go, I've found that for me it was really important to analyse my opener and how I came across. The girl will make a first impression of you in the first few moments of conversation, so these are a few things that I always try to keep in mind as I'm about to approach. Speak loudly so she can hear you, slow it down and don't talk too fast, be very confident with what your'e saying, and have strong eye contact and body language. The last thing you want to do is appear nervous, apologetic like you're interrupting her, or just have a general aura of non-confidence as that will kill your chances. It's not always important exactly what you say, but how you say it, and that means having all those things I just mentioned covered.

Anyways dude, keep at it, good luck, and hope a bit of that might help you.

Thanks for following my progress as well. I agree with the sport part after experiencing first hand how my confidence and with it my vibe went freefalling without it. As for my opener part, I'll use standard ones first, focusing rather on the way I get it out rather than what I say it. Still no enough guts to use more brazen ones, let alone applying them without working on other issues like that user at another subforum who got his ass out from Barnes and Nobles for using it haha (for the mentioned guy: no offence intended. Hope you'll learn something out of it and work your way up. Don't get discouraged!). And I've got it applied before I read this post of yours lol, with a big success in my standard but probably some success to yours.

So here's the story:
Staying true to my goal, I went at about 3 PM to the town to see if there's any viable target. The city was packed, fuller than usual, but mostly by tourists, kids, couples. Rarely lonely targets. Even if there were, they were usually on the way somewhere and, well granted, I was afraid that my chance would get cut. Stayed for another hour, got stressed for probably not being able to meet my own set target, and decided to go by train to Koblenz to get rid of my stress, as well as to get the use out of my university semester train ticket.

Arrived there, went to the Mosel river and walked along it. No visible targets, apart from 2 ladies in their end 20's. No solos. Fuck it, so rather than going home complaining of doing nothing, I decided to go to them anyway. I got a good vibe now so why still procrastinating? Opening: What could I visit in Koblenz? Pushed my ass to them and asked, and they turned out to be very open and friendly, asked me about some info about me. I don't wanna game them at this moment, and from the tone of the convo I could figure out they just wanted to be on their own so I thanked them and walked away. This experience then reminded me that ladies are actually warm in general (exceptions apply, of course), it's the boys' behaviour that potentially make them cold.

Walked further and came across an apparently a blonde lady in her 40's, looked actually pretty cute if she was a bit younger. Wanted to close her but then I was confused which "you" form I would use, since using the formal you (Sie) might kill the attraction while taking the use of the informal you (du) might come across as impolite. Opinion from a mainland European language speaker is appreciated! Oh, she was friendly as well.

I was in Koblenz for about an hour only, and with this newly found mentality and the feeling of contention for meeting my target, I decided to go home, only to find myself hitting my new milestone.

So I was on the platform waiting for my train and there's this girl apparently in her teens waiting for her train with her luggage. She smiled at me (probably thanks to my improved vibe ) and I did it back. I didn't think to close her but decided to talk to her anyway, no harm in that. I asked her why the painting on the train we're supposed to board was Luxembourgian instead of German. She said she had no idea and then I asked her where she was going and she said Luxembourg, which triggered me to ask if she's a Luxembourgian, which she denied. Then the train door got opened, I got in and said, "Let's sit here" and she followed. Of course I gave her a hand to get her luggage in since there were stairs to go through.

Then off we went. Standard questions. Turned out she's 19 (instead of an underage like I had thought) and would continue her au-pair in Luxembourg. But this time I spiced it with a lots of stories about what I've experienced and known in life, about 70% of the time and 20% about me, but almost only if she asked. Some negs of course applied, I made sure that my opinions won. I would start the talk and pause in between and then look away, and usually after like 30 seconds to a minute she would then ask something about me, and I would say it in details and managed to throw it to her. In between (but not at the beginning) I found out she had a BF already. She definitely liked me, she played her hair a lot, occasionally bit her lips, and tried to steal my attention by looking at me and smiling. I didn't fall to it whole the time, only occasionally to return the favour. There's a glitch in this one though: There's a moment went she pretended to be crying about being far from home, and I said playfully to her to come to me and cry, to which she reacted with an awkward laughter. Ouch. But I managed to get to the right way by keeping the status quo. Then as we're about to reach my destination (before hers), I said to her that we could stay in touch. And she said that her Facebook wasn't findable and asked that I wrote my Facebook name instead so that she could add me. Not a good sign, I thought, but there's no good in being pushy in this one so I went ahead with giving my name, no matter what. Then we continued talking till I reached Trier (my city), where I then kissed her goodbye on the cheeks. No good expectation, probably a blown one with that little error, so I presumed. Got out and thought nothing out of it other than writing something here on this forum, and as I was on my way home with the bus, I found that she had added me on Facebook while still being on the train to Luxembourg.

First number close!

I'll delay adding her probably up until the next hours, so as to keep the mysterious profile.

Not a perfect one, but I'm proud of myself and more committed to getting one approach a day. This is just getting better.

Lessons learned:
-Ladies are not the problem during approaching, men are. We're totally responsible to get around it.
-Don't be too open like in my glitch

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Went today to hit the gym, didn't pay attention to the ladies and on the hindsight I could see them noticing me. Then met a flat neighbour at the changing room who offered me to play a game called intercross at the sport hall (located in the same building with the gym). No idea about that but I thought I could take a look. Learned a new game and came across a HB 9, big boobies, damn gorgeous. Was on a visit at her cousin which is a regular at the sport. Ignored her at first but eventually took a look at her sometimes and asked some questions, hence the info I said. Didn't have enough time to ask further as it was done during short breaks. Managed to ignore her during the rest of the game but somehow my body felt like getting closer to her and even though I managed to get away at many occasions, she must have felt that I was too close to her and it must have killed the attraction. Didn't try to close number given the glitches.

Then the same mate invited me to the bar tonight with his friends. Came across some girls that I knew at the uni, managed to strike small talks with hands on their backs. Of course they're all with their friends and more than 2 people in a group, miniscule chance to isolate them at this point. Came across a HB8 sitting next to me. Managed to get out some info and applied some negs but it seemed that she wasn't very open at striking further talks with me. Her bitch shield seemed to be too high. Later on I found that an acquaintance of mine who tried to sarge her as well (after I had given up on her) told me that she said she had a boyfriend and the friends kept on staring at her all the time, so that confirmed my suspicion. Have to admit I got a bit jealous when she got closer to this acquaintance but then I told myself that I could probably ask him about the approach, so no harm on me. Oh, during the time at the bar, my eyes were occasionally screening for girls. Probably have to stop it the next time. Then I greeted goodbye to everyone. Daily target met but no desirable results.

The reality slapped back lol.

Lessons learned:
-Learn to talk long (not just small) and eventually isolate
-Don't try to close multiple girls, another reason that may have triggered the bitch shields. I should've instead focused on one till the situation didn't allow it any further.
-Don't give away much look, keep yourself look mysterious
-Don't greet goodbye, for the same reason as no. 3

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Went to Saarbrücken to celebrate my birthday on a midnight, last minute plan after much hesitation. Was down after a party the day before for not having a strong aura, hence no girl, but I pushed it anyway, who knows I'd get something there I thought. Oh, I went there solo.

Came across some guys who were celebrating the birthday of one of them too so we went together.

Typical dance stuffs and so on, well till I came across 2 tall blonde girls who wanted to make a photo out of themselves. I didn't think much to game them as my aura was weak these days (actually since I started the gaming, I still have no job as I said it before) but I offered to take a picture for them anyway. Some niceties won't kill do why not? Then I tried to take a picture out of them but suddenly the blitz didn't work. A guy acting cool suddenly took the phone out of my hand and shook his head as if he could do better, and it turned out he couldn't yet still tried to act cool so I had a big schadenfreude there hahahahaha.

Moving on, fast forwarding, I finished partying with the guys. Tried to ask the direction of the main station at 3 AM at a lady walking alone but she tried to walk away as if I was going to rape her or something so I had to say I was there only to ask. Given her reaction I didn't try to close her.

Came across drunken, teenager ladies group. Asked them where they partied and tried to come up with the following questions but suddenly they acted as if I was doing something silly. I gave a sign as if they're crazy and one of them danced gangnam style so as to provoke me when I wasn't looking. I told her I could see her and she stopped. Should've turned around and screamed at her for fun so that she would run away like a little kid. Well she was a kid! Subhumans.

At the main station, I came across this girl sitting alone but at first there was no space beside her and I wanted to buy some stuff from the drinking machine. Then I was wondering around and we made some eye contacts but in the end she found me creepy so there's no ground to approach.

That's all about it.

Lessons learned:
1. No vibe, better no approach
2. Better come up with a wing, if no wing, then approach some guys on the street
3. Don't act too cool. If something embarrassing comes up it will really slap you in the face, seen that first hand lol.
4. Don't approach a lady walking alone on a lonely street as she may think you're up for some nasty stuff, unless the situation allows, i.e. waiting at a bus stop together.
5. Don't approach teenagers unless they're indicating some IOI's. Or worse drunken ones. Or worse yet without vibe.
6. Don't take too many looks at a lady, that'll come across as creepy.

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Personality-wise I've probably reached my peak, but this hasn't been matched with the improvement in my mood, which has somehow made me apathetic even towards the most gorgeous of ladies. My mood was dry and I was struggling to find the reason, and it appeared I've found the answer as I was walking alone during the night and decided to sit and stare at the city at some empty place where there was nobody at all. Went home much more relieved, and as I went by train to write my big German exam today, I notice that girls were checking me out and talking about me. I pretended to not know it but I saw everything. First time that this happened, and that, despite me having slept only for 2 hours. During my class some ladies also smiled at me and stared at me.

This led me to conclusion about what had been happening these 4 months: I missed private space. The thing is, I live in flat where there's no door at all to my sleeping place, so I don't have a place where I could have some peace and think about myself without getting interrupted. I'd still live here for a while, but at least I know the probable core of my pick-up problems. Now I plan to have at least an hour in a day to do stuffs like this: no computer, no cellphone, no books, just me and myself.

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Yup, as the title suggests, it made me be unable to game effectively today. Slept for less than 6 hours last night and feel not really good and now I experience it first hand. I could control my emotion but I have to admit that every time I think of a bad event, I feel like stabbing the culprit. I could notice that I'm not that relaxed like I was yesterday. Yet I still maintain some aura though, I've smiled at at least 3 girls since they stared at me and they smiled at me back. Another girl also smiled at me earlier on the day when my aura hadn't gone worse. Still do the above-written routines.

I'm thinking also to take a full-day break, probably on a Friday when I have some free time, so as I could spend the whole day really thinking about myself at somewhere peaceful, and probably new.

Oh, and I learned first-hand too that opening is crucial. Tried to open this girl at my class by asking if she learned on the same subject and suddenly the talk became weird.

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The result of my daily nothing-else-break has taken off. I feel braver now when it comes to looking face-to-face with a girl, and they smile or at least look at me a lot more too. And for the first time in my flirting saga, a girl actually felt shy, probably falling victim to my newly found vibe lol.

So there's this girl sitting alone under the sun when I was with a friend looking for our classroom. We passed by her twice and I noticed she looked at me quite often, so as my friend decided to go into a class randomly, I told him I'd go close her. I went to her and asked if she was out there enjoying the sun. Then off the talk. Not much happening though as she didn't ask back and I myself didn't raise any further questions so there were lots of pauses in between. Should've done that plus negs. But it's clear that she felt nervous, which was noticeable from her body languages.

Otherwise, well, I feel my mood is getting better from day to day, even though it hasn't reached the level where I'd say happy days like it used to be. It may take a month or so, I've been like this since a week.

Anyway, tonight there'll be a big party. My aforementioned friend decided not to go along but it doesn't matter as it will be a big one and I can drop by at probably 12 PM to see what's up.

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