Will buddy, you are AFC.

Enjoy the frustration baby.
She controls the interaction, so forget about what you want. She'll decide, so unless you start controlling the interaction then you just need to go along while she leads you to relationship bliss, with your balls firmly in her purse. Mmmh. Sounds like fun, eh?
As a first exercise try to do the opposite of what she says. If she tries to take your hand, immediately go and look at something that you think is interesting or point at something. If she gives you the bambi eyes that say she wants to kiss you, then make a joke and try to ruin the moment. If she says let's go to the movies, tell her you are just dying for ice cream. Don't be an asshole and just have fun with it. Watch what happens.
When you do kiss her and you try to put the tongue, if she doesn't go for it. STOP! Start chatting with her, make her laugh, watch a movie, do something fun. Do this every time.
Give it a try and let us know how it goes.