Say you have this one guy who is really loud, arrogant, hellbent on making your time or the time of other kids miserable, generally tries to pick fights or insult guys and is pretty loud with it, I am sure we all know this kind of a personality in real life.

How do you guys beat deal with these kind of guys? Especially when you might have pissed one off initially by disagreeing with him on something that is sports related.

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Compensate for his weakness. If he is lacking in a certain quality or trait then you can complement his style. He is arrogant, so this means that a lot of people won't like him. Influence the situation. Be humble, kind, and receptive. Instead of thinking of his negative qualities, also think of his positive qualities. Acknowledge one of those qualities and he will calm down or at least stop doing it so much. What is his underlying concern or his need?

If you don't like my approach just think in terms of being proactive.

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i watch when the guy steps out of the boundaries

if he insults me or someone else in the group i just tell him that this was too much and he should calm down. if he proceeds to bring more negative shit, things can lead to a fight or me leaving the place

i like when people are enjoying themselves and bring more fun in group, but when they are destroying the joy they have to be warned that it is not a way to be

All you need to do is point out his behavior as an observation for everyone and make statements about it.

A good example would be like "damn this fool is trying to bully fools like the O'Doyle family. Just waiting for him to say O'Doyle rules!" Of course this only works if they watched happy gilmore but you can use references that people tend to know in your culture.

I literally just make everyone aware of their behavior, no need to do anything else he is destroying himself after you point it out... just let him do what he does and enjoy the results.

Peace and Love,

Vic

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Generally if people don't like me I smile in their face and do what I can to get them to hate me more, but that's just me.

As for people constantly ribbing and throwing insults around, i've found this one works well to defuse and leave them struggling for words.

"Bro, you're trying too hard. Think up something clever, then come back to me."

Delivery is key, and say so with a smirk.

As Vic said below, draw attention to his poor behaviour.

-SilverTonguedFox