hey guys, i got this situation in my social group in college that i need to solve and if any of you have any experience or opinion about it i would really appreciate it, i'll be sure to try and help you out too

so this is the situation, at the beginning of freshmen year i started to develop a social group with the people that happened to be in class with me. im an engineering mayor so not very many guys are talented with women in my classes as you would guess, but its all good, they are all good people.

except for this one guy that i really dont know why just trys to AMOG me all the freaking time.

to put a frame to the situation, this guy, lets call him manuel, is not good looking, does not have much going for him except for having a hot cousing studying with engineering with us at our school and is not the social leader by any means, it sort of feels like one of those guys that put people down to feel better about themselves.

the thing is, of course i would just blow him away if i could but his friends with my friends, and in particular with one of my high value friends so i cant cut him off that easy. he's in our social group.

let me give you guys an example of how fucking annoying this can get: im organizing a little pre partying at my house with some female friends and my boys on thursday night, of course i have to invite this fucker, and in our SPAM group conversation one of my female friends called alexia is like

alexia- so we should get to the club before 2:00am so we can get in free!!
manuel- nah dude we should do a good pre-party and then go like 3:30 to the club
me- dude its thursday remember my parents work the next day.

(im from argentina, its normal for us to live with our parents during college)

a few texts later the girls are like ok at what time should be come over, im like lets do 10:30pm, 11:00pm

manuel is like nah Owen thats lame lets do 12:00pm

i didnt even answer that, and a few hours later he pms me saying if i could just buy all the booze.

im trying to become a leader of this social group and this fucker keeps trying to put me down, i dont know how to handle this to be honest

any opinions, comments or suggestions would be grately appreciated, i'll be sure to have your back as i said.

thanks for reading

Owen

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Be more assertive


Seriously though, it is YOUR party and get together so you can recommend a time that is convenient for you. Fuck Manuel. If he wants to come late that is HIS problem. Of course don't tell him to fuck off, but just restate what you want and don't budge. Also, you have to stop reacting to this guy or he will keep stepping all over you. Just dismiss him, you don't need to acknowledge his requests if they aren't okay with you. Be proactive and make things happen and stop letting this guy get to you, it is killing your vibe.

Edit: One more thing, don't focus on becoming the social leader. Let it happen naturally. Once you become more influential and socially savvy you will get to where you want to be.

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thanks mr. assertive lol nice name.

yeah im just ignoring him, of when he asked be to buy the booze i didnt even answer, but he texted me again so i was like fuck off dude we'll do what we always do. (here its legal from 18 so everyone brings his own alcohol and we usually share)

the thing is i feel like just by questioning me he's lowering my value, i dont know how to react.

my objective would be to stop him from lowering my value, is ignoring him the best way? what would an alfa male do in your opinion?

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A man would just let it be. Just because he is questioning you doesn't mean he is lowering your value. You don't need everyone's approval to have value. Reacting is the worse thing you can do. It means other people have power over you. So focus on getting your emotions and thoughts in check from now on. You should be making the world react to you.

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awesome advice bro thanks

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You need to be more confrontational with him.
Face your fear.
You should have said 12 is stupid. You should have told him to buy the booze. you got to make the choice kid. You got to be a man. Don't blame him. A bully will take everything from you.

ME: blah blah blah
DB: blah bl... !? (amoging verbally)
ME: DUDE! lets be clear.... are you trying to AMOG me ? smile and stare at his eyes
DB: ???
ME: hahahah cool dude.

its when in most aggersive times... I usually go with ignoring them. treat them like little child

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