Since you woke up to zero messages, you are to make sure she makes first contact with you. Do not initiate contact. So you can LOG onto SPAM, but do not be the first to contact her.

If you really believe it's over, your best shot is to start talking to other girls for a rebound.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

Ok, dude...I seriously pity you- you have serious "oneitis" and are a major beta when it comes to relationships (I've been there, don't worry). You've only been dating 3 months??? That is way too short to start taking things to the "next level" (and I pity if you were the one who did). You seriously need a big fucking WAKE UP CALL. You should NEVER say "I love you" first to a girl, EVER. Let her do the chasing in the relationship, because IT IS THE ONLY WAY that YOU WILL HAVE THE POWER IN IT. You will have CONTROL of her emotions and can be the FIRST to walk away, since she took things to the next level and NOT you- in fact you should ALWAYS BE IN CONTROL (not her), since you're the MAN of the relationship.

I should also give you the sad, but true revelation about women and "love". Women DO NOT "love" us, EVER. It is all a lie, perpetuated by the media and society to keep men under control and women empowered by their feminist agendas. If they really loved us (as they claim to), they would NEVER leave us because love is unconditional and the so-called "love" that women FEEL for us (at times) is purely conditional (and usually only AFTER we have fucked their brains out good and hard)- that you keep doing things for her, that you give her a "GOOD, HARD, FUCKING", that you continue to be THE MAN in the relationship (which you are clearly not)...blahh blahh blahh.

It's all bullshit. Don't ever believe it. EVER. The truth is women only "love" (rather, desire) what they CANNOT HAVE and as myself and others have pointed out here: "they are like cats". They hate attention- when they don't get it, they crave it MUCH MUCH more. I know it sucks to surrender to the sad, cold, harsh truth, but until you do, women will ALWAYS mess you around, use you and PRETEND to love you ONLY so they are getting what they want from you- they are manipulative, cold, deceitful, merciless creatures (if you give them the power) and in my honest opinion should NEVER be trusted- at least not fully.

I'm not saying you should treat them like dirt (I'm not a misogynist), just don't give yourself to them emotionally (THIS IS THEIR JOB, NOT YOURS)- don't say "I love you", don't say "you're my everything" ; DONT EVER give any indication that this girl has you under her thumb (emotionally), because when you do, sadly that's when she begins to "lose attraction", and starts the manipulation and games until something "better" comes along (usually some narcissistic emotionally unavailable, condescending asshole who only wants to fuck and dump her). Yeah women really do consider that "better"- fucked up I know, but its because that guy is MASCULINE and not FEMININE in the slightest. Giving "emotional" support is a FEMININE trait and it turns women off quicker than a 400lb, 50 year old asking us for a rimjob (and you should consider doing this for her once in a while- they LOVE it). It is the WOMAN'S JOB in a relationship to provide emotional support, NOT the MAN'S. The so called "in love" FEELINGS women have for us are nothing more than a strong SEXUAL ATTRACTION towards us and when that goes, so does their so-called "love".

The TRUTH is you CANNOT be EMOTIONAL with a woman if you want to KEEP HER ATTRACTED (not "in love"). MEN ARE NOT MEANT TO BE EMOTIONAL: Let me repeat that "MEN ARE NOT MEANT TO BE EMOTIONAL". The only emotional support you should provide is hugging her when SHE COMES TO YOU- DO NOT GO TO HER (signals emotional "neediness"). Hugging is the only thing that produces the "emotional" feelings (oxytocin) that makes a couple bond emotionally ("in love" feelings, supposedly)- rather it makes HER bond emotionally with YOU (become more attracted), but as long as you keep hugging her ONLY if and when SHE wants it (offer emotional support, NOT "neediness") after FUCKING HER BRAINS OUT (yes, I mean it), she will REMAIN attracted to you. However, as soon as you start opening up emotionally to her (her job in the relationship), SHE will BEGIN to LOSE ATTRACTION for YOU and the more you keep it up, the less attracted to you she will become until she is no longer "in love" (the classic line) with you. This is just the way woman are wired and I'll explain why below.

Here is a little history and evolutionary psychology as to why this is the case and why we men have BEEN LIED TO (big time), by the media and society about what women want (supposedly). For centuries, men have been the hunters (providers for their family), women the gatherers (nurturers of the family). This means that men took all the risks (did all the killing etc and sometimes got killed in the process), fucked the women (more like raped them) and afterwards it was the WOMAN'S JOB to "keep the MAN interested in HER", so that he would "provide for HER" and "protect HER".

This means it was HER JOB to provide EMOTIONAL SUPPORT- hugging, saying "I love you" in ugginese (caveman language), because if she didn't (after he fucked her) her and her child were often at risk from danger, often by a sabretooth tiger surveying the landscape for a "tasty morsel". Thus she knew (instinctively) that in order for the man to WANT to protect her/her child, she had to nurture them (provide emotional support) as this was the primary switch that signalled to the man (in is small brain) that it was the only way to preserve the caveman/woman race (nothing more than a survival instinct), and so he would continue to protect her/her child from danger and also continue fucking her (raping her) brains out to produce more offspring.

This is the way it has been from the beginning of time and I FIRMLY believe this is the way it STILL IS. Sexual attraction for men and women is still primal (as it always has been); that means men are attracted to "tits and ass" (beauty), women are attracted to MASCULINE qualities like strength/courage/dominance etc, NOT emotional 'neediness' and when we become emotionally needy (their job) it signals to their primal brain that we are 'weak males' that can no longer protect/provide for her/her offspring.

The problem is that as human intelligence has evolved men/women have constructed "theories" about what they want/don't want in relationships and what attracts them to each other (usually bullshit), but the truth is the VAST MAJORITY of them have NO CLUE whatsoever, but thanks to evolutionary psychology, we now understand a lot more than we used to, but the majority of us are still "in the dark" about it. Thankfully I am here to impart these "words of wisdom" on some poor dudes here who are getting "pussy whipped", emotionally manipulated, cheated on and denied of sex (one of the biggest human needs). I am going to plug you all "into the matrix" of alpha-maleness and you are going to start having the best sex/relationships with women that is humanly possible.

The saying that "nice guys finish last" (the emotionally needy) IS and ALWAYS WILL BE true- why? because "jerks" or "assholes" are not EMOTIONALLY NEEDY- they are MASCULINE and at a "primal" level this is what ALL WOMEN want in a man, regardless of what they SAY they want- DON'T EVER FUCKING LISTEN TO THEM- ONLY judge them by their ACTIONS. They simply have NO fucking clue what they WANT in us- they are "socially conditioned" to BELIEVE the qualities that they WANT, which are usually the exacting fucking OPPOSITE from nice, caring, emotional, empathic- utter motherfucking bullshit and ALL FEMININE traits.

My advice to you and like others have stated here several times already; you are NEEDY AS FUCK and NEED to BACK THE FUCK OFF. You need to STOP being EMOTIONAL: stop saying I "love you", stop giving her hugs/kisses (give them ONLY if and when SHE wants them). You need to start being emotionally DISTANT (and remain that way) and she will come running back to you in a heart beat, but you should also continue to fuck her brains out- DO NOT ask her for sex, just dominate her (throw her up against the wall and start eating her pussy) or throw her on the bed, rip her panties off and proceed to FUCK HER HARD doggystyle (animalistic and primal)- DO NOT EVER ASK FOR SEX, EVER. That should definitely bring some of the attraction back (as it will signal to her primal brain that you are indeed a dominant/alpha male- who knows that he does not EVER need to ASK for sex), at least until you become all lovey-dovey/mushy/emotionally "needy" with her again or ASK her for sex again.





Here are the ways that you express your love to a woman, not be emotionally needy, keep her attracted to you and BEGGING you for sex:

1. Fuck her brains out as much AND as HARD as possible. Make sure you make her orgasm and try and make it more than once; if you cannot make her orgasm with penetration, learn to be a master at clitoral and g-spot stimulation with your fingers and tongue. You should also NEVER ask her for sex, ever. If you want sex, initiate it with her (sexually dominate her).

I also advise that you make the sex as dirty and kinky as possible (not necessarily all the time)- this means eating her pussy AND her ass (a rimjob), but make sure she cleans it out FIRST. If this disgusts you it is ok, but women love it in my experience. In short, do not NEGLECT any part of her body (women secretly resent men who do this). Women WANT to be treated like porn stars in the bedroom and WANT to participate in dirty/kinky acts (like rimjobs). Read "My Secret Garden" by Nancy Friday to see what I mean.

You should NEVER doubt this. It's just usually that the man is too much of a pussy to initiate dirty/kinky acts for fear that the women will be disgusted by them- she won't if you do it from a place of power/dominance and not begging/weakness/neediness. If she says "no" to any sexual act you want to try, DO IT ANYWAY without her permission/approval and don't give in to her resistance to your sexual advances, EVER. This is not the same as rape, since she WANTS sex with you in the first place. She is just testing your level of dominance/assertiveness when she resists. You can also tell her " you won't fuck her good and hard anymore" if she does not fulfill your fantasies (comes from a place of power/dominance)- believe me this works. Your sexual fantasies could be anything (does not have to be rimjobs), but let her know you WANT her to try them.

You should also "force her" to give you a blowjob during sex, DO NOT ask for it. Simply grab her head and put it on your cock.

Don't always accept her sexual advances either (if she initiates them)- leave her BEGGING you for more. Push/pull with sex as well as emotional support. Don't EVER be NEEDY for either.

Continue to do this and YOU WILL have this girl BEGGING YOU for more and more sex- I assure you. Not only that, she will begin initiating sex with you and willingly giving you blowjobs out of nowhere. This is what Iv'e noticed in the past. It makes HER sexually addicted to YOU.

2. Give her hugs/kisses ONLY when she wants them and comes to you for it. Provide emotional support ONLY- do not be emotionally needy.

3. Compliment her ONLY when she deserves it- when she provides you with emotional support and initiates sex/does not deny you of it, gives you a blowjob etc.

4. Buy her gifts ONLY when she deserves them. Conditions are the same as above.

If you follow the above I guarantee this girl (and all others in the future), will stay "in love" (attracted) to you. I promise you.

Enjoy your new found, unending success with women!

That lost post was golden. Really really good.

I was just wondering, how do I show this in a long distance relationship. In a long distance relationship if I ignore her, don't make it exciting, whats the point of being in a relationship.

I SPAM her just now and it was really good, she said she loves me and misses me. She has a lot of parties coming up in the next few days, I am trying to not get nervous about and keep pre-occupied.

Before she use to look forward to messaging me all the time, she use to wait for my messages every single day with excitement. Now If I ignore for a bit I feel like she would be like, okay whatever.

How do I get that back. Any things I can do

So solid, breezy. Wish I had you around six months ago.

Have you read The Manual: What Women Want and How to Give it to Them by W. Anton? Phenomenal book, sounds a lot like what you are saying here. Goes into the evolutionary psychology of masculinity/femininity and the damaging effects of socialization on men really well.

OP, I strongly recommend you pick this book up. I was in your shoes, except instead of a 3 month relationship it was 2.5 years. This book got me out of my beta bullshit and I think it will do the same for you.

My relationship was long distance as well. My girlfriend was in college going out 5 nights a week surrounded by dudes, while I was in the military sitting in a shitty barracks with my thumb up my ass -- it blew. The problem is you can't really, except ignoring her when she's reaching out to you for an ego boost and not playing her games. When you stop playing her games and go cold, she will start to freak out and wonder if she made a huge mistake. That's your ONLY shot. Start by not skyping her or communicating with her at all.

http://www.amazon.com/Manual-What-Women ... 1456494554

I see it right here. Should I order. Does it mention long distance?

Breezy86's post was good info... a bit harsh but overall pretty good info. I believe you should show some extent of affection and it IS ok at times to be a little bit needy in a relationship (read some of Locke's posts on relationship advice) but then you should also be a MAN and do some of the above things. Anyways, In your particular situation which I can vouch for because I am also in a long distance relationship, you really need to shine in your phone calls and SPAM. Be playful, happy, exciting, and interesting... dont be all lovey dovey all the time or seem like a needy bitch. Right now you are being completely controlled and manipulated by this girl and she is playing mad games with you. I can tell you are stressed out, have anxiety, and are desperate. In your situation you NEED to follow the above advice and NOT "talk things out", you are pushing her away and falling into her traps. Show this girl you are a MAN and a man with value and self respect...give it right back to her by being cold and distant, let her wonder "why is he being this way? does he not want me anymore?"

I would order it, i fucking loved it, and you sound like you need it. You're asking about long distance (it doesnt) because you still want this girl back, but once you read it you'll see you dont need her.

Thanks for that dude!! I will grab a hold of that book (not that I really need it).

Massive respect for being in the military bro!!

You should also check out my advice for attracting women to you here new-to-the-forum-attraction-theory-and- ... 57483.html. That way you will NEVER again suffer from oneitis or be a beta again (like I have in the pat), because you will have girls chasing you left and right.

Just ordered the book - What women want and how to give it to them

I was also wondering, in long distance relationships, doesn't it defeat the purpose of being in a long distance relationship if I dont talk to her because she is distant, and she doesnt talk to me.

What I dont understand is, on SPAM I was happy, I joked around, and it was a good vibe, she said "I love you" and "I miss you". It made me happy, I said it back because she said it. Normally before bed she USE TO (2 months ago) write me long essays and send me audio notes, and now she just says, "okay I am off to bed". I then said, "yo.." and she replied "?" (which is short and not what i expected, i expected a "yes ", and I said "I love ya", and she replied ":)" and signed off.

Now she is asleep, I was going to go stone cold on her, but decided to leave her an audio note telling her about my day and how I might party this weekend with some friends.

What do you guys thinks. It doenst sound like she is over me or wants to break up or has lost attraction? Right? But she has given less, do you think I can get her to want it back more than anything?

Wrong. You say "I love you" and she replies with a fucking ":)"? Fuck that.

Re-read this thread and everything we've said everytime you start to feel beta and want to contact her or tell her something lovey-dovey. Seriously. It will help. I know the temptation is there, you have to fight it and reading what we've told you will help.

There is someone else in the picture and she wants you around in case it doesn't work out. Long distance is hard, man, I don't think there is a solution. If you were there, you could fuck her, scare this guy off, whatever, but you're not, and that lack of control is making you even more needy. Go get hammered with your buddies and game every hot girl you see. There are plenty of girls out there, don't let your mind go toxic over this one.

I dont think there is another guy in the picture... all her friends are my friends and see her everyday. I would know about it. there is no way that there is another guy in the picture

I also think that the reason why it went so well before is because I was exciting. I use to message her about working out, soccer, my friends and doing things. Now I dont. Now I stay in my room and such. Do you think that has to do with it - The reason I am asking so many question is because... do you think messaging her less and being distant right now is best. Or do you think me doing things, soccer, parties, all that, and tell her is better and leaving her messages in those moments to show I care?

I just want her back to the many messages she use to send me, can you help me get that