I'll keep it brief...

This HB9 responded to my ad on craigslist earlier this week and for whatever reason seemed hooked on me from the get go. We started out e-mailing and then chatting over Gmail chat this past week, and she always initiated it. She's been showing HEAVY interest, i.e. getting pissed at me when I don't message her the next day, qualifying herself to me "But I'm cute", asking me what type of girls I like, and when I play hard to get she says shit like "You want me bad..."

The other day SHE asked ME if I wanted to go to a club this weekend to "give her free drinks and dirty dance with her." Also said she'd be driving down to me (from San Fran to San jose is about 40 mins to an hour). I said that sounds good even though I fucking hate clubs (I planned to handle that "free drinks" thing later on) but since I usually work Friday and saturday nights we'd prob have to do a diff day.

Today I found out I don't work this weekend. She said she's having a party Saturday and people staying the night Friday and invited me over. The way I see it, I have 5 options:

A) Go Friday, where there will be less distractions for her (such as friends and hotter or potentially more interesting guys). Downsides: she might still get distracted by friends and no booze, though the last one isn't much of an issue to me.

B) Go Saturday, where there will be a ton of ppl I don't know and many many more potential distractions for her. She will be drunk, which is a blessing and a curse; lowered inhibitions but also most likely severe ADD. Which in conjunction with all the friends and guys could mean she'll be very difficult to handle, (especially considering I've never met here before).

C) Say I will come Friday, then flake to get her to invest more (this is speculation, not sure if it's a good idea or not) and go Saturday instead.

D) Say I will come Saturday, then flake for same reason as above.

E) Skip the whole thing and get her 1 on 1 for a date. Downside: I run the risk of losing her interest, though to be honest it appears to be seriously high at the moment. So it may not be an issue


Option B is tempting me for the sheer challenge of it, but it seems like it's just a step or two beyond what I'm socially capable of at the moment. My life right now is very complicated and socially dead, so most of my game experience over the past 2 years has been on dates I get from online game, which are much lower energy than clubs and parties. I do fine when meeting a girls' friends, but at parties I don't always do so well. So options A and E seem safest. I'm on the fence though.

What do you guys think?

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Dude, just go to her party, it sounds like a good time. You have to think about having fun too, what else is life for Whether you want to go Friday or Saturday, that's your call. Saturday will mean more targets, Friday will mean more intimacy. So really it's your call, both options have their advantages.

Though do make sure she's not a guy or a tranny, this is craiglist after all. Or that she's not trying to get you to come over to her place where her team of highly trained surgeons will divest you of your organs.

Don't over-complicated things. The only question is whether you want to go and enjoy yourself or not. If you have better plan and don't want to then don't go. If you have nothing to do then go. It's simple. Just yes or no question, once you get there, you can figure out everything else later. I would go to the Saturday one, lot of people, you can DHV with your social skills, meet new chicks, make her jealous, or might even pull some unexpected closes. The point is you're doing this for yourself, not her. You come to the party because you want to enjoy a good weekend and meet some new people. She just happens to be the host, that's it.

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Yeah, you guys are right... I shouldn't be going to this thing to try and seduce her, but to have fun. I forget how crucial that disparity in mentality is. Thanks for reminding me.

And Irish, don't worry. I pack mace for CL dates

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