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No one can ever really say what precisely attracts a girl to you. Thats the problem. They its alpha, they say its confidence, they say its a sense of humor, they say its looks, they say its fashion, they say its status, they say its money, they say its power, they say alot of things.
A lot of things are correlated with a attraction, but no one ever tells you what will directly cause attraction.
plenty can say precisely what attracts girls to you, in fact if you google sexual selection or evolutionary biology you might find quite a bit of scientific research on the topic, as well as articles and books on the subject of what causes people are attracted to
the pickup scene is more the ''how'' mixed with strategies to stay motivated
girls are attracted to status, comparitively value is subjective, but the main variable to if a girl is attracted to you, is importance, they are just like men, but more picky and it comes down to everything in order to ensure the more likely survival of offspring, how important are you compared to other men? what sets you apart and makes you different/better then other guys? how good looking you are compared to other guys, what kind of a person you are, what is your life is like, all comparitively to other guys and
the most dominant guy (the best compared to others from the particular girls POV) is the most attractive (alpha is also just a term for #1, or first in line of status), girls in general all subjectively value something different from the next, just like guys in general all subjectively value something different from the next
famous, rich and good looking is the killer combo for a guy, movie star or something similar screams IMPORTANT, good looking enough to want to see naked, rich enough to take care of kids and lead a great lifestyle if it goes the long term route, cool and famous enough to want to be assosiated with socially, it's the full meal deal for most girls, she has the short term fun and excitement side to it, and the long term security side to it all covered, a typical dream guy for most girls
the pickup is the process from meeting a girl, to trying to sleep with her and your roadmap to that, a ''game plan''
the ''game'' is not what girls are attracted to, YOU are what girls are attracted to, it's the way you go about things and how you operate that descides how often and with who you will end up having sex with, the more efficent and thought out and practised your game plan is, the more you will not do things that don't suit your goals, and as a result meet them more often, that is what a ''game'' is for, it's not a fuck all women with the magic trick sort of thing, it's more of a go out and get good at figuring out how to talk strangers into sleeping with you kind of thing, and if you are already good at that, then you probably don't need to get started on reading any pua material, if not, that's why this exists, so guys that are actually interested in meeting random women for the purpose of starting a sexual relationship and don't know how to go about that have a way to learn how to do that and become better at it,
if a guy isn't getting laid at all, it's likely one of two issues
1) doesn't fucking try and has no game at all, sits with his thumb in his ass and just expects one day it will ''just happen'' to him, and some girl will just hit on him and hop on his dick and lead the whole thing
^ these guys need to just find some motivation to start out and try to develope a game, this is the typical ''go out and meet women'' or ''you're not approaching enough'' or ''GFTOW'', kind of guys who will fixate on one girl who they turned off months ago or who they could already have sex with but have 0 experience and don't know what a vagina is for, just needy, or socially anxious/awkward in general, if they have anxiety they have to get over the hump and just face the pain period and do simple things they can execute that embarass them a bit to take them out of their comfort zone to become desensatized
2) guys who are irregularily unattractive, don't take care of themselves physically, don't take care of hygene/skincare or grooming, possible facial deformities, mental illness that makes them extremely difficult to socialize with or be around, extremely bland agreeable and needy (repulsive socially), guys who have no job or a shit job and have absolutely no motivation, guys who ostrosize themselves socially and isolate and avoid people, codependance and timid/aulteristic personality types
^ these guys need to work on themselves, you can improve yourself to improve your status over all,
the problem with the seperation of these two guys is insecurity, some guys posses low self esteem and will have anxiety around meeting women due to their insecurities, instead of following through with option 1 and developing a game when that is what they need in order to have a successful sex life, instead they opt out for option 2 when they have little to no experience, they simply convince themselves they are not good enough due to an extremely low volume of sample women's opinions of them, or no sample pool and just their own negative self opinion, based on this conclusion and self esteem, they are not entitled to women, there fore they must not meet women until they become XYZ or have obtained XYZ (usually an unrealistic standard, and even if they meet the standard they will find a new excuse), this is an ego problem, where they just don't want to face failure to protect some distorted self image they have of themselves
no matter how bad the situation, with a well practiced implimented gameplan being used with consistency on new women, any guy no matter the status can still get laid, might not be the top of the food chain or slamming victoria secret cover models, but you can still have a decent sex life if you actually have the ability to be proactive and make that happen, that is why game trumps all, don't meet any women = don't sleep with any women, doesn't matter if your brad pitt, if you lock yourself up in a house and make no attempt to reach out for a connection, you will never make one, and the more you get out there, the better you get at making that connection with new people, male or female, you just become good at meeting strangers and turning them into people that are comfortable and aquainted with you, and social skills are very related to what you can accomplish in life, well liked people tend to be more successful then those who are socially outcast
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). Last week I was playing a poker tournament and went out. Now when I seen the cards I was way ahead - I had a bigger pair than his pocket pair.... If I knew his cards (which I read them pretty spot on) I would have done the same move. Now what happened was he drew out on me, he hit is set (3 of a kind - approximately 1 to 8 chance) but if I knew his cards I would do the same move every time because it is the correct move.