Hey Guys – I’m going to try to keep this as short as possible. I met the girl of my dreams, she’s in love with me, we want to get married, just got engaged and she recently moved in with me.

Only one problem she has major LSE and I found out that she couldn’t keep her legs closed in college her freshman year. She’s had 30+ partners I’m about double that. She’s 22, I’m 33.

I’m a full Alpha, not an afc by any means. I don’t have a problem with her having a sexual history, bigger dicks, whatever. I have a problem with the lack of SE it takes for a girl to let herself get used continuously with no ounce of self respect for herself or her body.

This girl is a solid HB10 (with baggage maybe 8.5/9) and swears up and down she’s in love with me and only wants us to be together.

She does the little lies and half truths, has made mistakes with guys in the past with being too friendly while we were together, still works the bar in a stripclub but is changing her schedule and job to spend more time together (her idea).

My issue with her is I’m no longer attracted to her bc of her past, don’t feel she’s marriage or relationship material.

Anyway to salvage this? Can’t get her being used out of my head. Relationship is likely toast even though were crazy about eachother. How to I rebuild attraction for her, trust (since she’s ruined it) between us, how can I ever respect her.

Maybe I’m just old fashioned, it’s ridiculous these days to expect a Woman to respect herself and not ho it up in the US anyway. You US girls are going to have REAL hard time finding morons to marry you.

This girl looks like she walked off a Victorias Secret mag or Weird Science, like I did some experiment to manifest the perfect female image. And she swears she’s in love with me.

Also, apparently she never had anything outside of a clitoral orgasm until she met me. I’ve got her having multiples regularly from EVERY spot. How on Earth can a female have 30 partners and never get a real O.
She’s about to be toast anyway but though I would reach out to the pro’s on this one.

I’m normally a PUA and thought this was the one. I don’t care about womens past when their just FB but this is different.

Please let me know if you guys need more info, much appreciation!

Advice Please!!

Why does it bother you? Would you rather marry a women with four partners in her past that at age 32 or 40 gets curious and starts having affairs, or someone who has already gotten all that out of their system?

I hear you on this one. It's definitely psychological and I can attest myself because the girl I was with years ago was pretty much just as how you've described yours (HB10). That is until I got to know a bit about her history from friends and family. I couldn't even get a hard on anymore because of it after that. I literally went limp inside of her (not afraid to admit the truth) because those thoughts really haunted me. We broke up, and thank God we did cause it certainly improved my subconscious/conscious mental health. Some things you just cannot get over, I know I couldn't. Either way, not sure if this may help, but just letting you know that you're not alone.

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well don't ask questions you don't want answers to. Unless, you found out another way then I take my first statement back. You aren't AFC but maybe your values are conflicting here. You should reevaluate them. Girls are going to have sex before you and after you (even if you dump her). Either you can deal with it or you let her go if she doesn't meet your standard. At least you know you are uncomfortable but how will you let your emotional discomfort guide your decision. If she has a history of cheating then all you can really do is rely on her doing the right thing now because you can't control outcomes. If she cheats, all you do is find another woman. It is that simple. No need to lose trust for the whole gender because of one girl, it just wasn't meant to be. If you can't handle the heat then get out the kitchen.

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I don't see a problem with her sexual history women go through stages in life, hoe stage, sexual stage, monogamy stage, experimenting sexual stage, marriage stage, post divorce stage etc...

The problem is you and your societal brainwashed head, here is by Blackdragon:

With that being said i would not marry her right now for many reason IMO:
1.- You are insecure about her (and kind of needy)
2.- She is not fully develop in her maturity(she is only 22, i would not marry a girl unless she is minimum 26)
3.- She works in a bar at strip club(so she is bombarded with temptation, unless you have and open relationship this may be a fat girl on a diet with constant cake in front of her)
4.- You are not ready yourself, and all you talk about is that she is an hb10( all i see by your comments is valuing her looks, that shit is irrelevant in a long term relationship, you need a lot more than that)

Why don't you read the best of the relationship posts from all the gurus of the community, this is gold:

http://www.pua-zone.com/showthread.php? ... -old-forum

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This is so typical in every way. Young hot girl is bombarded with men and sleeps with a bunch of them. She works in a place like a bar/strip club where she can get by on her looks. She meets some guy who is considerably older than her since girls are attracted to older men. And eventhough she's still way young she acts like she's now ready to settle down, despite being immature and undeveloped as a person. This story gets played out over and over again.

That being said, you just have to take it at face value. If she's hot, and you think that maybe she'll be loyal and get her act together, then who cares if she was a slamhound in college? People can change and people have fucked up past lives, but what is most important is where you are heading in the future.

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All Great posts guys and thanks for the links, I'll review them this evening.

I definitely should have made it clear that I care about her a lot and it doesn't matter how hot she is. Her number of partners really isn't that bad considering her looks, she easily could have nailed hundreds of guys or be a pornstar or something.

I completely forgot about the stages Women go through so I'm glad that was pointed out. Not trying to be needy with this chic just trying to hold her to higher standards and she seems happy about it.

You know how it is, nobody's perfect. I think I'm just concerned that she won't get her act together and continue to be an emotional wreck but I can see her changing already and she actually thanks me for making her want to be a better person and expect more of herself. She knows if she lies to me or screws around I'll drop her in a second.

Ok - How about this?

What can I do to drive her completely nutz about more than she is already? She's crazy in love, gets jealous as hell (awesome bc she's incredibly hot when she's mad) and will do anything I say.

What else can I do to deepen her feelings and commitment to our relationship further than it is already? She's already changed her schedule, looking for another job, moving in slowly and tell everyone she knows we're getting married (sometime in the future).

Also, thanks for pointing out not marrying her any time soon bc I'm definitely not that stupid. She want's to get married next summer but know I won't unless I'm happy with her. Is 26 the ideal age for Women to get married, or to be frank; at what age do Women actually get a small clue and stop being complete morons when it comes to reality and relationships?


You guys rule! seriously.

Apologies about the irritated nature of my OP, I typed a cordial long one prior but was timed out on and lost it.

Thanks Again!

MTN

360 - I dig this post.

1. Somewhat recently out of a real shitty relationship so still have my guard up. Not trying to be needy with her, just looking for a reason to save myself a headache later on. I always hold Women that expect to be in a relationship with me to rediculously high commitment and loyalty levels. Call it my version of a shit test. Most don't pass and it easily weeds out the non LTR material girls.
2. She is still young but has been through a ton and is near genius level so I'm hoping for the best in her maturation. Can you please elaborate on this? When is a good age and what are good behavioral/emotional signs to note when a Woman is ready for marriage? Or when I'm taking the least risk anyway...
3.This chic hates her job, I know she liked the attention at one point but she has 2 degrees and will do anything to get out.
4. I definitely should have clarified, I care about her a lot and would marry her but am trying to handle things the right way. We love eachother, I wouldn't care if she was HB1.5 was just trying to convey the fact that I SCORED BIG TIME and would like to keep this one around. Def not bringing her around you Gorillaz..LMFAO

Thanks again!

Thanks did you do what i tell you and read the link????
^ this is silly cause they will put an act for you instead of being their real self, they will play to your game, and probably act and pretend to be something they are not... Just let them be who they are.
I told you 26, minimum 24 but that is my opinion base on my experiences. 22 she is to young and not fully develop as a woman....
If she hates it why is she working there, maybe she is telling you that to play to your high standards.
You want to keep her around, then stop being needy in the relationship.

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Well said Skills as usual!

Phenomenally put....

Peace and Love,

Vic

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Dammit skills, every time I think I what I want to say youve beat me to the punch point by point so Ill just say seconded....

and add: The "love of my life" was not much off your description except she no longer worked at the strip club. She was 23 when I met her and 27 when we split. Turned out she had this crazy past, slept with dudes at the club... blah blah blah. ended up fucking her boss twice her age. Look man, this WILL end badly. No ifs, ands, or butts. Im sorry to be so pessimistic but listen to what you are saying and pull away and look at the bigger picture. This woman has emotional scars that you cant heal. You cant love her enough. Shes that Porch 911 with the salvage title. She looks fine and drives great but somewhere down the line youre going to regret this good deal after you purchase it!

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