First of all, i like how you put goals and learning stuff in your journal. Secondly, i don't know how other guys feel, but i don't think that you need to apologize or justify yourself. You're the alpha. Don't explain why you do what you do. You're in control. You offered her a seat, that's you, that's how you are mannered, you don't need to explain it. You do what makes you comfortable.

If you were nervous about the full-claw (Chief's term i think it is), the arm around her, then while you are escorting or leading the girl somewhere you can just put your arm on her back. Lightly, a bit more heavily, doesn't matter. I do it all the time as i think it is natural.

Now about the friends. This is a real bummer. My friends, when they see me in a set, they don't interfere or stare, they could be in another corner of the bar seeing how i do but here it was a case of pretentious jerks. Nevertheless, you need to stay on top. Take it as a form of amog. I found it helps that if you encounter any problem, think of it as an amog you need to disarm. It won't just go away and if you let it stay it will become awkward as you described. Maybe you could've joked about it, told something, anything better than watching and cursing your luck. It also helps to maybe go to another place, escalate logistically (to next/a more exciting) place but still, you need to communicate.

I also like to sarge in bars as it is really easy to kino and create sexual vibe in there. Usually it is very loud so you can put an arm to everything you say and get close. As you said, the date was at 8 and so by 10 or 11 you could have gone to another place with her. Start in a cafe and move to a louder and more crowded spot.

Anyways those were my two cents. Let me know what you think and good luck.

Day 24: 14th December 2012
First night out in a new place

Goals:
- Getting comfortable in the environment
- Talk with girls when I feel to

Field report:
So my friend told me that he found an amazing bar dancing kind off place in our town. He tried to convince me 2 times but the first night I had my date and the 2nd night I was too tired. So last Friday I decided to give it a try.

We drank a few beers at his house with 2 other friends and went to the bar dancing. However 1 friend decided not to go, doesn't matter. So when we went inside and I saw the same 3 girls that are always sitting on the table next to us during school breaks. And let me tell you this: these girls do the same 3 things every break: play with their phones, doing make-up, or just looking nasty at every person that walks by or offcourse, us.

1 of them saw me and kind off screamed like: wooooww it's the guy from school! (it's not what she said, but she kinda had that expression on her face). I told her to f*ck off. No seriously, i hate them. But the second thing that I noticed, was that it was amazingly crowded, like no place to walk at all. It took 5 minutes to get to the end of the bar, because that's where u could hang your jacket (talk about unlogical). Whatever.

1 friend of mine was already kind off drunk but in a really good mood so he started dancing. It made me feel good so I started dancing along. Our 3rd friend, nope. 1 song contained some hardstyle beats, so we danced on it. A girl stood next to me, and she danced along. WHen the song ended I talked to her. But I ejected very soon, because I found out that she was just crazy as hell.

The night progressed but I didn't feel like approaching, I was having too much fun. Me and my friend stood on some kind of plateau when I noticed my old classmate beneath me. He was talking to a girl and sometimes sneakily looking at me. Like he was telling her to kind off tease me, that's what he always did when I was 14. It probably worked because she kept looking at me, winking. At first I thought she would do it just 1 time, but she did a 2nd, 3rd, 4th... At first it annoyed me, but after a couple more times I insisted and just did it back. Fortunately she stopped. Though I want to tell this. Even though this guy is a jerk, and I shall always hate him, but I also admire his ability to make every girl/woman around him to like him, a true natural. I always wondered, how and why he did that. He also always stole the girls I liked, and one day, when I have all the skills needed, I will take revenge and steal some of his. Even though he made me decide to search for answers on books and forums.

When we outside during closing hour, we stumbled across one of my co-workers from a different location, a 21 year old girl, which happens to be very nice, and talkative. I met her during a party from my company, and she was very, very nice to me then. I believe that she even opened me. That was about 1 year ago. We danced at that party and I suggested that I would take her home. But she had a BF then, and I didn't knew how to handle it. Afterwards I befriended her on facebook and always talked to her when seeing her. A month ago I noticed that she broke up. So I told her about the new company party at 4th January 2013, and she said she already had plans then, but would try to move them, because she really liked the party last year. She even said, we will dance then, promise me! I said: if you promise to show up, then ill promise to dance. Her friend introduced herself, and I made a joke about: let's shake hands for the whole conversation, doesn't look weird at all . She laughed, and then left with my co-worker.

Oh, and I have talked to a lot of familiar people this night so I'm definately gonna check it out more often.

What have I learnt today:
- New places are fun to check out
- In terms of my classmate: things don't always come up how they seem.
- I should get more in touch with my co-worker, who knows, perhaps there is some fireworks.

Questions to move on:
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Day 25: 15th December 2012
I was doomed to fail even before going out

Goals:
- Approach ... sets
- Having a good ass night

Field report:

It all started when I came back from work. I sat on the couch and then my mother started complaining, nagging to me. Because the night before (day 24) I wasn't supposed to go out in her mind. My parents were helping my older brother moving out and when they came back obviously noticed I was gone. They started complaining that if I would go out at Friday's, I couldn't take the car next day to work. But I was really tired, so I just stood up, got my pyjama's and went in the shower. After that I went to my room and slept till 9:30 pm.

When I woke up, I was filled with energy, positive energy. I was ready to have fun, approach girls, and be the best of myself. So I started looking for my best clothes, nicest aftershave and while I did that, I listened to energy filling music. After 10 mins I went downstairs and was about to put some gel into my hair. But then my parents had to make a 'talk' with me, RIGHT BEFORE I WAS ABOUT TO GO OUT!

They were complaining about my grades at school, that some of my grades weren't as high as they expected. + the fact that I sometimes was asleep during the evenings and they suspected that I was gaming at nights again, which I wasn't. So I made a lame excuse that I made some homework sometimes during the night or read a book, and that I never could get asleep before 2:00 am during the normal school days (which is the TRUTH!). However they didn't believe it, started complaining more, eventually even yelling at me! And my mindset turned 180 degrees. My confidence was gone, my positive energy was gone, and I didn't have a good mindset anymore. My mind was filled with all the negative thoughts about the yelling, the complaining, everything! WHY DID SHE HAVE TO YELL AT ME RIGHT BEFORE I WAS ABOUT TO GO OUT????!! Seriously, sometimes I believe i'm getting crazy here. I really need to pass my exams, go to college and get out of this f*cking house!

Obviously my friends noticed it, and started to cheer me up, told me I should go drunk. Even though I felt like sh*t, my conscience wasn't dead and I told them: NO, drinking won't solve the problem. So we drank at a bar and then went to the first nightclub in town. My friend had free entrance and could bring 4 others with free entrance as well. Around 12:00 pm, he obviously was amazingly happy because he turned 19 then. It was his birthday. Nobody could forget it, because he was like bragging about it all night. Nonetheless, we congratulated him. Then around 12:30 pm, we went to the 2nd nightclub in town. It was busy there, very busy. They all wanted to go to the quiet bar in the club first. I sticked with them.

What happened in between isn't really interesting. It was walking around a lot, because I couldn't find my friends, or going to the toilet, sometimes meeting up with people I knew. Until my friend told me he knew a girl and wanted to introduce me. He said I would like her. I was curious so I sticked along. Turned out when we found her that was a bitch and she smoked, I'm sorry but I really hate smoking. Maybe I need to be less picky about that.
After that, there were some dumb attempts in approaching but nothing worked. My night was doomed the moment my mother started complaining, which she does a lot. I'm at a point now that I don't give a f*ck about her. That's I cannot tolerate complaining girls, and it sickens me because some of these girls are just having a bad mood and might actually be very nice if you would get to know them better.

The next day, not a single word has been spoken about her complaining :S

What have I learnt today?
- Everything can happen, I just need deal with it, such as fighting, or someone getting hurt.
- Like I said: drinking alcohol doesn't solve the problem (I want to remember this for the future)

Questions to move on:
My mother has a dominant role in this house. My father hardly has friends, and I never do anything with my dad. He's either sleeping, watching youtube, or working. Could this be the reason that I turned out so 'nice' since my mother has influenced me a lot?

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Day 26: 22nd December 2012
Went home negative, ended up sleeping positive

Goals:
- Approach 5 sets (4/5) ( I figured that I need a number to use as a direction point)

Field report:
First of all, I can put in the usual stuff, hanging out with friends at someone's home, then going to the club and so on. But this time I wanted to make sure that I would not drink much alcohol, because I want to improve my sober game. Fortunately I sticked to it and I only had 3 beers.

But we didn't go to the nightclub I wanted to go. 1 nightclub had a House It! night, which I wanted to go because I like that music. And the other had visiting Yellow Claw, popular artist. My friends obviously wanted to go to Yellow Claw because well, a lot of people they knew would go, their GF's went there and it would be busy. Once again I played it safe and didn't go to the nightclub on my own, but sticked along with my friends. I don't know how it would have worked out if I went alone, but that doesn't matter.

When we arrived at the club, there was a huuuuuuge line. We entered from the side because that's always the fastest way to get in, and we only had to wait 15 mins, instead of an hour. Inside I had to wait another 15 mins to hang my jacket. When going inside, it was crowded as hell. A girl I knew noticed me and waved at me with a smile. (she's kinda crazy so i didn't go for her). We talked a bit and I ended it with a hug, excusing myself. I found my friends and they were, offcourse, with the same girls as always. And they stayed there all night, so did I.

I approached in total 4 sets that walked by, but all of them didn't go off very well. And I felt shitty, my mood went down, and I was wondering what the f*ck I was actually doing in the club. I was wondering if I should have went alone to the other club, even though it could be very risky. The music wasn't in my favour, the girls were ok, but I've seen at least 3 fights that night. 1 fight I was lucky that I didn't get punched, because one guy punched another guy in his face, next to me, and his fist almost hit me. I immediatly backed away offcourse, but my friend jumped in to stop the fight. The guards were, as usual, very late. I said to my friend: "That's gotta be the most heroic or stupidest thing you've done here, because you didn't know any of these guys". He said: "My mind was on autopilot, I didn't think about it". Then it occured to me that it is exactly what I have to do with my approaches; the 3 second rule. You see a set, don't even think and just immediatly go in, autopilot, and start talking. However I still couldn't pull it of that night.

When I walked home, my friend said that he had an amazing night. I told him that I felt like I had the most shittiest night of the month. Eventually, when I laid in my bed, I started thinking: what would the 16 year old me think of the 19 year old version if he saw me right now? He would say: "my god, that's pathetic, why the f*ck are you so negative about yourself?". So I wanted my inspiration back, I wanted to have that positive mindset back. I started reading my journal from the begin to the end, and replayed the success stories in my mind. And when I did that, my mood changed, I smiled when reading it, and I thought: "Look at what you accomplished already, there is no reason to be sad, or angry at yourself. Ever since you started the journal, you've become more social, you talk more, you give more kino with girls, you even have met a lot of new girls!". When I felt asleep, I was happy, even though I thought it was the shittiest night at first. Why? Because I focused on the fact that I took action, though it didn't go off very well. And so I once again learned, to focus on the positive!

What have I learnt today?
- Whenever you decide to go to the club alone, you have to stick with it, and not decide otherwise in the end.
- Stop focusing the negative, and stop making excuses
- When approaching, always use the 3 second rule. See a set--> go for it, no thinking, autopilot!
- Use the positive to change your mood. Think of all the success you had in the past and use that as a tool to picture yourself as a cool guy.

Questions to move on?
No questions.

Wallie

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Day 27: 28th December 2012
You're a guy that likes a one-night stand, right?

Goals:
- Make 5 approaches (7 / 5)
- Make eye-contact with girls that look at me (did that all night)
- Have fun

Field report:
First of all I can say that it was an amazing night. It feels like starting all over again from the beginning, but in a fresh way. Since I no longer am outcome dependant, things are different. I have no number, or kiss but I'm ok with it because it's the fact that I'm actually taking action that makes me happy. So instead of outcome dependant goals, I'd rather look for goals that will improve my game and my life in general.

Ok the field report. It started with a message on our group facebook about going to the bar again. At first nobody responded, but luckily yesterday afternoon people were talking about going and so eventually went to the bar with 6 people. It was beer for €1 night and we all kinda got drunk. I was really in the mood for approaching and so after 15 mins I had already approached my first set. It didn't work out well, but that's ok because I was already happy that I didn't felt like waiting for an hour to approach. + I wasn't drunk at that time. You see, I found out that my motivation to go out in this video from Cajun: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=70cPim6k ... 5592768046. It's basic principles, easy to follow and I don't know why but everytime I watch thát video, I feel motivated and eager to approach.

Nothing really has come out of the approaches itself, because all of the girls were 22+ years old and felt that I was too young. I spoke with 1 girl for 3 mins and got to know her, but she just wasn't interested. Too bad but ah well, more opportunities to follow. Whenever I walked around, I was looking for eye-contact, and it sure happened a few times. Eye-contact is actually very strong if you hold it, it's amazing. And Cajun was right: In bars it's better to open indirect, because if you open too direct, you encounter ASD. But if you have eye-contact and she seems to like you, it's ok to open direct.

Although the most interesting part of the night were the 2 girls that 2 of my friends brought. We saw them when we entered the bar, and there was no doubt they were our 2 friends their dates. Both girls were blonde, blue eyes and dressed slutty for male attention. 1 girl was Polish and the other one was the friend I guess. I asked both my friends the same question: Which one is yours? It turned out that both of them didn't want the Polish girl. My AFC friend offcourse, who's like a pain in the ass, immediatly tried to hit on her and oh my god, his game is terrible. After half an hour you could see her getting annoyed by him.

When I just couldn't bare seeing it any longer I approached the Polish girl and kinda talked to her. But my my, what I found out her was everything I didn't want to know. She likes motorcycles, she drinks a hell lot of alcohol if you ask me, has piercings (which I still think is kinda sexy), and if I would have to rate her on her looks she was an HB 8 or 9. And that's basically all she had, the looks and her bagage, but nothing more. Trash. When she said to me that my friend liked her, she immediatly continued with telling me that she already had a guy, and was a 'camping guy'. Believe me, those guys are really annoying. I didn't want anything from this girl, except a one-night stand. And yesterday she was drunk as hell.

I tried everything with her. First I looked for eye-contact but there was none. Then I started to dance with her but that didn't work out well either. Then I started sitting down with her and talking while using kino (hand on back of her shoulder, hand on the middle of her back but not result. I got kinda drunk myself and it around 1.00 am I rubbed her butt, I believe 3 times. NOT 1 OF THOSE TIMES SHE REACTED. I was confused, because I really thought I had a shot. In my drunkiness, I said to my friend: "Dude, I don't like this girl, there is nothing about her that I like, except her looks". He said: "Man, you should know how hard she can suck a dick. If she would suck on your dick, then your balls would be come right out of your penis". Me: "Well that sounds fine, but she doesn't react to anything I do". Him: "Nonsense, sure she does". Me (don't forget, drunk): "Ok watch this", and I don't know what I thought at that moment but I squeezed her boob when she didn't look. But I was right: She slapped the hand away, and then started dancing further. My friends were looking like: Dude, why did you do that. I said to my friend: "See, I told you." He looked at me, laughed and gave me a high five for having the balls to do something like that.

It's then that her friend asked: You're a guy who likes a one-night stand, don't you? (surprisingly with a smile). Me: "Well I never had one, but I'm up for it when the opportunity is there". Her: "Yeah, I could that on you haha ". She was actually kinda cool, except offcourse she was my friends' girl. I didn't want to interrupt his game, since he has helped me with girls before. I'm happy that I could make her laugh, and make her Polish friend laugh.

Oh yeah, one more thing. Her Polish friend had some glitter I believe in her purse. I was standing next to her dancing and when I didn't look she put it on both my cheeks. I tried to rub if off, but that damn glitter was sticky. When I walked to the bathroom, people would look at me and it was actually a good way to peacock. The glitter shines hard when light get's on it and people notice it. It's not that bad tbh, but still, i'm not gonna wear it, it's kinda weird.
But to conclude this night: it's was definately a succes. I'm really, really proud of myself, that I made much approaches yesterday. I think i'm gonna use more of the preparation, clothing style and more in the future.

What have I learnt today?
- The earlier I start approaching, the better it will be later on in the night.
- Watching the Cajun video before going approaching, gets me motivated very well
- Eye-contact is very crucial to warm up your approaches
- I need to watch better for IOD's.
- Age might be a dealbreaker for some girls.
- The bar might be not a good place because a lot of older women go there
- Indirect game works better in bars, then direct game (in most situations.)

Question to move on:
No questions

Wallie

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Day 28: 31st December - 1st January 2012-2013.
Happy New Year's Eve!

Goals:
- Doing whatever is possible to kiss last year's girl (she didn't show up, too bad but it didn't matter after all)
- Start the new year with a positive state of mind
- Having a night to remember!

Field report:
Happy New Year's Eve! I've had a blast of a night, which was from 5:30 pm till 5:30 am. Since it's a long night ill try to hold it short:

First I went to my best friend's house at 17:30 and I was first. It was going to be a long night so I didn't drink any beer there, only cola and Fanta. Ate 2 snacks around 19:00 and then when our friends joined went to an another friend's (girl) house at 20:00. I've been relaxed until around 23:00. I didn't drink much beers, 4 in total at the girl's house. I was having fun, and others felt the energy. When it was close to 2013, we turned on the tv and watched the final song of the top 2000 songs. #1 was Bohemian Rapsody so we all armed up and sang along. The song ended, countdown to 2013 and offcourse, celebrating when hitting the 2013 mark!
Our friends ignited their fireworks, and half an hour later we were watching AC/DC live, till 1:00 am.

We paid €10 to an other friend (also girl) and there were some discussions because some people wanted their money back, but didn't receive it back. The story is too long to explain so let's just say that most of my friends weren't behaving very well at the party. However I still was having fun, and was searching for an approach. But for some reason, I just didn't notice any girl that I found attractive. And I was fine with that actually, because I'm not outcome dependant anymore .

My friend came up to me and said: "You won't believe what I just did". Me: "You made out with someone tonight, right?". He nodded and said: "Yep, and she has a boyfriend actually." I was impressed, since he's not like a PUA or natural actually. I responded with: "Really? Well done!". He: "And the boyfriend is actually at this party, he knows something is totally right". I was even more impressed and I told him: "Dude, if that guy is being annoying, call me and I've got your back buddy!". I smiled, it wasn't my own success but he just made a move that I have yet failed to achieve. Impressive, it gave me proof that boyfriends aren't always dealbreakers, and don't just hit the self-destruct button when you here those 4 words of "I have a boyfriend".

At the 4 am mark we had to leave since the girl's parents were angry about the sound level, people drunk and screaming. The party was kind off between houses, so the neighbours were complaining. I tried to calm down the mother, and tried to show empathy to both the mother and the girl who was hosting it. I looked her in the eye, giving strong eye contact, but I didn't want to kiss her, no I wasn't attracted to her. So I hugged her and then went to my friends again.

I noticed two girls which were friends from the girl of day 22, and they smiled when they spoke to me. I guess I really made a good impression during that party because they were literally kind of pushing me into Jet since they wanted me to be with her. I said: "Look, i'm happy that you think that i'm a cool guy but it is just not gonna happen". I didn't feel attracted to Jet anymore. But her friends kept pushing me, trying to convince me to talk to her. I wasn't interested. They told me that she was shy, but I kept my frame, kept my control and I just walked away.

At 4:30 am I had an afterparty at the same place I started that evening. We got eggs with sandwiches and it was delicious. Almost everyone was asleep or at least trying to, but not me. Oh man I had soooo much energy left, unbelieveable. A friend said: You say that you have much energy, but your eyes are looking a bit sleepy. Fortunately at 5:30 am my friend said to everyone, you have to go now, because i'm gonna be sleeping now. His GF was drunk, which she is quite much lately, and he wanted to sleep next to her. That reminded me that I don't want a GF who is drunk a lot, that would be very annoying. Once in a while ok, but not too much. And I went home, to sleep for the first time in 2013

What have I learnt today?
- No matter what, party's are for fun. If you have a bad mood, then don't go.
- Watch out with paying too early for parties!
- A boyfriend doesn't say anything. If the relationship is bad, then she is ready to cheat!

Questions to move on:
I have no questions.

Wallie

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Day 29: 4th January 2013
Succes at company party

Goals:
- Talk to my superior colleague about how great person he is (I did that and in fact he told me the same thing, he literally said that he loved me, in a kind off brother way)
- Speak with all the girls and try to attract one (spoke with half of the girls but did attract one indeed)
- Speak with all the guys, being social (I believe that I spoke with almost every guy in the room)
- Dance (took a challenge and danced on stage, danced with a female co-worker)
- Give a massage to a girl (no, forget to do that)
- Make it amazing (yes!)

Field Report+:
Wow, where do I start, yesterday was incredible. Ill just tell you the story chronologically:
The company party would start at 20:00 hours, so we first ate a snack with the co-workers an hour before the party. Getting into a positive vibe and ours stomachs filled we went to the party. At first it was just about drinking some beers. The girls arrived and you could definately see a split between the girls and guys (funny how awkward it always is at first). The party host invented some challenges or games for 4 different groups, where everyone is mixed with guys and girls.

The girls challenge was kind off a dance challenge. My group pushed me forward, and so I was like, alright what does it matter. There was a dance off between the 4 groups but I didn't win:(. There were more challenges such as empty a tissuebox as quickly as possible with 1 hand, eat a full can of sausages as fast as possible and stuff like that. It was funny and our group made it to the 2nd round. Then we had some questions about the company and then I didn't made it to the final, which didn't matter to me. It was fun to do and I gave my respect to the party host.

I spoke with my superior colleague and told him about the good work he delivers, that he's always positive, and I said to him: "If I pass my exams this year, you will be invited to the party for sure!" He told me about the fact that I delivered good work as well in his eyes, so that's something to remember. Then he grabbed my shoulder and squeezed in it, hard! It hurt but I knew he was just toying with me, he always does haha.

My boss however had some beers and he's always nagging. He can be a real jerk sometimes, because he was screaming all the time; "marc is gay", or: "Man, you won't get a girl tonight, you know that yourself!" Boy, what was he wrong when he said those things. I've proven him wrong!

I saw a few girl co-workers, and I speak a lot with 2 of them during other weeks. So I started talking with them since they are quite good friends, and the twin co-workers were standing next to them. They are kinda young (I believe 15) but that doesn't matter to me. If you would have to rate them on looks, I'd say HB 8's. I started talking to one of them. I said: "What makes you different from your twin sister, how do I know who's who?" She was thinking but only said: "You just see the difference when you have seen us more often". I said: "Well, then I guess we should hang out more". The girls I talked first with wanted to take pictures, so I took my arm around her waist and we made a picture of us together. After that we started talking again, and while I talked I used some kino. When she spoke she kind off leaned in (music volume was quite high). The amount of kino was very good. Then a friend started talking to her so I moved to her twin sister, and kind off asking for permission to date Daniek (to tease her). Maybe not the best move but ok. She said: "Well it doesn't matter to me, ask her". I replied: "Sure, ill take her away from you now then . Then I started talking to Daniek agian and did ask the question: "Well, you're actually a cool girl, what do you say about going on a date sometime?" Her: "I'm not sure, what date do you mean?". Before I could say anything her twin sister came in, and I guess dragging her away. I reacted confident and just started talking to some other female in the room. After 15 mins I saw her sitting at the bar so I said: "You didn't gave me an answer yet". Her: "To what question?". Me: "If you would go on a date with me". I could see in her eyes that she was talking and I think that she was just a little bit nervous. So I replied: "Maybe this will make your decision easier" and I gave her a single kiss on the lips.( It was like Tr@veler was standing behind me, saying; kiss her!) Suprisingly I did that with confidence, not a single bit of hesitation. I believe she dind't expect it but that doesn't matter. Unfortunately she still didn't give an answer so I said: "Do you have your cellphone with you"? She gave me her cellphone and I put my number under 'Sexy Colleague'. Her sister said that they had to go and she was going for her coat. I still had her cellphone in my hands, so I wanted to call myself to get the number. When I was unable to find it, I saw her SPAM, so I messaged myself: "heey, sexy colleague". When she left I asked for a kiss and she gave a single one back on the lips.

After that one of my male co-workers came up to me and said: "Hey man, I saw that you were trying to hit on Daniek". Me: "Yes I was, why?". He: "Well I made out with her about 30 mins ago". I was unaffected by this but wasn't really happy with it offcourse. When it was time to go, I didn't go to the afterparty but went straight home. When I came home I took my phone and messaged Daniek: "Heey, sexy lady!". And that was kinda the end of the night.

So even though I kind off got rejected a few times, I still had success in the end.

What have I learnt today?
- Standing in front of a group doesn't matter at all, you have the confidence to do it
- I am a good worker at my company and so my reputation is good there.
- Don't listen to what other guys say about you; prove them wrong like I did!
- Push for compliance, how do you do that? --> pushing-the-compliance-as-far-as-it-goes-vt153923.html
- If you are confident enough, you ignore all the negative comments that guys give.
- Next time I have to push for compliance even further, instead of single kiss ill just full make out with her.

Questions to move on?
No questions. All i want to say that my off-night turned out to be awesome.

Wallie

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*Quick note*
An example of text game going wrong, with girl from day 29

Yes, my text game still sucks. I didn't follow the routine I wanted to follow (the dream routine) and this is what happened:
I believe that I could have got a date from this one, but once again I did the wrong thing. Texting myself into the friendzone. I think ill update more of my texts to see the patterns that I take, the wrong ones, recognize the mistakes and correct them in the future. At some point I just went mad, and took everything the wrong way I guess.

What have I learnt from this:
- Remember that texting is for setting up dates --> comfort-manipulation-online-text-and-ph ... 84154.html
- Texting is for setting up dates. Keep it short
- Next time I do what has to be done, and CALL HER!!! GRAB THE F*CKING BALLS AND CALL HER DUDE!
- Don't try to comfort her through text
- Every text game going wrong shall I update in my journal

Wallie

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Hey wallie i will give you my 2 cents and i might be wrong, but i will give you my take, i see the problems here:
^ none of these things were the problem...

Your timing was off, her buying temperature was not high, you were showing too much interest and putting a lot of pressure "date", almost forcing the issue, also a "double date", you came across as a seller instead of the buyer. sup with bowling, why meggie set up a date. I just don't like the whole thing. You came across "as i am looking for a gf would you consider me as future bf". about the picking up the phone, i call when i am at the front of their house, the you not calling was not the problem here. The problem was the dynamic, subcommunication and frame

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Day 30: 12th January 2013
Sleepy eyes

Goals:
- 5 Approaches (5/5)
- Eye contact - Forcing IOI's ( No good eye contact that night)
- Kino and push compliance (Approaches didn't go well)

Field report:
Unfortunately last night wasn't succesfull. Nevertheless I keep trying to focus on the positive, and ignore the negative. There is no such thing as failure, only feedback, so that's what I'm gonna focus on this field report.

First of all I can say that I worked 8 hours that day, and only had 6 hours of sleep that day. When I arrived home, I cooked my food, and slept from 7:30 pm, till 9:15 pm. But I didn't immediatly get out of bed (which might have been a mistake) and feel asleep for another half hour till 9:45 pm. When I woke up thát time, my eyes felt really heavy. I had to push myself to get up (which I did), watched the cajun video for motivation and then went into the shower, getting ready to go out. At 11.15 pm me and a couple of friends went inside. Instead of going to the main dance room, we went to the quiet bar, where literally only 3 people were sitting. I think we sat there for at least an hour (way too long).

We then went to the main room, and a bit on the side. When walking that way I tried to catch eye-contact with girls, but it never lasted longer than 1 second, so forcing IOI"s was impossible. I walked around the club with my friend for maybe 3 times, but every time I couldn't get eye-contact. This could be because my eyes felt really sleepy, and I had to rub them a lot to keep awake. I think I drank at least 3 cola's that night, but unfortunately it didn't help.

About the approaches; I believe that my body language should have been different. If I recall, the energy I projected towards surrounding people wasn't high energy and fun, but more like boredom and motivationless. So that's a point I should be aware of next time. Whenever I said something to the girls, no matter what, it all resulted in the same thing: confused looks, or talking to a friend immediatly and walking away.

I want to end telling about the final 'approach' (which wasn't really an approach): When I wanted to walk through the crowd, I noticed a girl dancing in front of me, a guy 2 feet in front of her, slightly shorter in terms of height. I wanted to pass through, so I made a some sort of quick sidestep, facing my body towards the girl (which I believe was way older then me but ok). She noticed this offcourse and took it as me wanting to dance with her. I don't know why but she wanted to dance with me. What I said to her was (and I regret it now): "I just wanted to pass through". Her: "Come on dance with me (smile)". Me: "Well you can dance with the guy in front of you". Her: "Well once I an while I like to dance with somebody else". Me (and at this very moment I still have no idea why I didn't go for it): "No thanks". Her: "WHAT? No thanks? Pff! (and she kinda pushed me away). I didn't even care and just walked away. I'm typing this right now, imagening the moment and thinking; wtf were you thinking wallie? I think it was a lack of concentration or motivation, or because of the fact that I felt tired. No matter what it is, it's a lesson for me.

What have I learnt today?:
- You can't only rely on searching eye-contact, cold approaches are necessary as well
- Feeling tired on a night out can ruïn your chances
- Concentration in terms of IOI's is also needed, don't let chances walk away.

Questions to move forward?:
- No questions.

Wallie

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Day 31: 26th January 2013
Pathetic friends

Goals:
- I didn't have any goals for that night, just relaxation.

Field report:
Last week (19th January) I had a birthdayparty from 2 friends, but the party was really boring, and it was just talking with friends because there wasn't even anyone strange there. Anyway, at a sudden moment one of my friends' girlfriend sat next to me and we talked for 2-3 hours straight. At one point she mentioned a club named Time Out, which is a 1 hour drive away. I said that I never went there so I asked if I could join. She had to ask the rest of the group but it was okay for them.

Suprisingly ( which is actually not suprising at all ) the BF of that girl wanted to do something as well, but with a different club, called Cheetah. He wanted to arrange friends to join him to that club. I said that I didn't want to join, because I would already go to the Time out. He told me that he could arrange enough people. I didn't change my plans and went with his GF's group.

So around 9:15 pm we drove towards the club. I couldn't really sleep before so I was somewhat tired once again. We picked up the rest of the girls, and went to the club. When we arrived,(around 10 pm.) the club was just a few minutes open, and completely nobody in, so we decided to scout the area, since it was our first time there. Soon the busses arrived and the guys joined which was agreed. I believe that was around 10:45 pm. They were all strangers to me, so I introduced myself, and making a good impression to them, which was a good thing.

Now this is the part where things started to get really annoying, and I'll tell you why. It was 11:30 pm, and we were hanging around a bar near the entrance. Just hanging out, until suddenly I saw a very familiar shirt. I looked up and guess what, it were my own friends, joining us! . The first moment I saw them I was like: "Oh come on, you have got to be kidding me!" I was really unhappy to see them. First of all because they lied to me about going to a different club, and secondly because I was having so much fun with the new group, that I was happy to be in a different vibe. But that all fizzled when my 3 friends joined. The guy who supposed to arrange to go to Cheetah was being clingy with his GF all the time, and the other 2 friends were dancing monkeys, lowering the value of the group offcourse. The only thing I could think of was: "I have really, really pathetic friends to do something like this".

Nevertheless, I was impossible to ignore them, because they were constantly around me. I tried to make a few approaches, but they didn't end very well; I saw a group of girls trying to make a picture of themselves, so I mentioned that I could take the photo. The girl with the phone was OK with that which I did. When I gave her back her phone there was a chance of an opinion opener to get the group attention, but I didn't know how. And in a couple of seconds the group split up and there I was again, nothing.

In the room, I noticed some moving dance platforms, so I get up on one and started dancing. My 3 friends joined me .., but soon there were 2 hot girls on the dance platform as well. I kept dancing and tried to dance invite the blonde girl. But there was simply no eye-contact to be found, she didn't look at me once.

Final thing wasn't really an approach. We were sitting at a eating place, and suddenly 2 girls started asking me and my 3 friends about which cheese we liked. At this very moment I still don't know why, but I didn't really care for the 2 girls, because I saw a 3rd girl (which was friends with the others) to join us at the table, since she kind off sat alone. I started talking to her, my friends as well, but I could see that she was annoyed by the AFC remarks from them. Once I started talking alone with her, I could see her mood change. First she smiled without the teeth (which is a fake smile) and once I made some jokes (for instance; she had 3 jobs, so I said; 3 jobs, are you feeding a kid already? (she laughed)). When I ALMOST reached the hook point, a couple of her guy friends showed up, and I was back to nothing again. F*ck.

To conclude the whole evening: I haven't approached as much as I wanted. Sure I'm glad that I tried something, but I still feel that I could have done more. However I have to say: working 8 hours, and going out the same night, is though! Try to be awake 20 hours, with only 30 minutes nap time. Some girls even asked me if I was ok, just because I looked drunk, while I was just tired.

What have I learnt today?
- It's something I know for a long time but still; I should find better friends, who don't lie to me like that and have better social value to a group.
- Making a group photo with girls is a good way to open after the photo is taken.
- Having a conversation is no problem for me. I have humor and I proved myself because I changed a girl's mood from annoyed (by my friends) to smiling when I talked to her.
- When I get into college in a different city, I'll search for the guys during introduction with the highest value, and befriend them, what shouldn't be much of a problem.
- As I read this thread: the-importance-of-being-sexual-vt152235.html I now know why I didn't connect with every flaky girl, it keeps coming back to me. The dance girl last night, the flakes with texting, the lost opportunity's. I'm not sexual enough, and I haven't printed that in my mind yet. I think that would be a good goal for next time: Be SEXUAL!!!

Questions to move on?
No questions.

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Day 32: 2nd February 2012
Sexual state isn't present

Goals:
- Make 5 confident approaches (4/5)
- Sexual frame
- Be present at 11 o'clock and GO ALONE!

Field report:
After last weeks surprise at the unknown club, I was mad and decided to go totally alone the next week (which was yesterday). We've got a group SPAM and 2 friends wanted to go to the local club again. At first I thought it was ok to let them go, but when I re-read my journal, I discovered that when I would go to a club alone, I'd have more success in approaching. Since it were only 2, I knew that if I said nothing, they wouldn't even go to the club. I ignored the message and didn't said that I wanted to go as well. Smart thing to do because eventually they didn't want to anymore .

I had to work from 8:30 am till 17:15 yesterday, so I decided to take a nap from 19:00 till 21:30. I woke up fresh and read this post of Warped Mindless to remind my plan: night-game-blueprint-part-3-the-seducti ... 36750.html After that, I took a shower, listened to some motivational music, and at 22:45 I went to the club, alone as planned. When I went inside, the main room wasn't crowded at all. I liked it, because overly crowded, it is very hard to walk through. I saw 2 girls and the BF of one of the girls and talked to them since I know them for 2-3 years I think. I wanted to build op momentum which is explained in the link of Warped Mindless his post. I suggested to take their coins to get us drinks, and when I walked towards the bar, one of my female colleague's stopped me and said hi. I told her that I'd get some drinks first, and afterwards come back, which I did. We talked a bit about the company party from a month ago, basically boring stuff actually. I suggested to introduce me to her female friends, however they weren't paying attention, only 1 of her female friends actually noticed me and we talked for a couple of minutes. But it wasn't a good conversation, just the basic question from her like: Where are you from? How do you know my friend? What's your name?

Remember that I mentioned having a sexual frame? That's exactly what I did wrong here. I think she was kind off interested in me, or at least curious. However I didn't maintain a sexual frame and went the AFC route (not on purpose). When my female colleague said to me to walk around, I'd join her, and basically ejected the convo. When walking around I found my brothers' friends and talked to them for half an hour I believe? Then I went to one of the bars to get a drink for myself and found one guy I know from day 30 ( I didn't mention it though in that report). But damn, he kept on talking and talking and talking. In the meantime girls were passing by, talking to his friends, or at the bar talking to each other. And I wanted to approach them but he just kept on talking, and I found it rude to just interrupt his story and walk away. Eventually when I did, he noticed that I wanted to go, but still kept on talking. After finally ending his story, another hour passed. Waste of time.

I started walking around the club and there was a song playing with lines such as "she's got the beauty and the brains oh oh oh". I happened to pass by and a girl opened both her hands, singing that line towards me. I said: "Baby, I know i've got the beauty and the brains, but i'm not a 'she' ". She had to laugh, and tried to engage her friend into talking with me. I could see in her eyes that she was either really, really shy, or just wasn't interested (hard to tell which one it was). Maybe I should have just talked to her, but I ejected because I thought it was the latter. Self-destruct button pushed, not a good idea. I bumped into my female colleague's friend again, and she was standing alone. I re-initiated the conversation but still didn't have my sexual frame on. She forgot my name, but I remembered hers (luckily, I thought it was the wrong one). I introduced myself first as Marc earlier, but this time I said: "You might remember it next time if you call me Wallie." She nodded and smiled. However the convo after the went nothing, again, so I walked further.

After a few minutes I stumbled again upon the guy who kept talking for an hour (about his cars and stuff) but this time on his friends' GF was there and I happen to know her very well. She's one of the most social girls I know and she had her friend standing next to her. She was kinda drunk. The GF did a good talk about me, but once again I screwed up. I'm not sure what exactly I've said but at one point she said: "Don't talk so negative about yourself". And I realised that I say those things more often to also other girls. Also the fact that she was drunk and I still didn't pick her up, because I was not sexual says enough. I have to change this 'nice' attitude and change it into a more 'sexual' attitude. And for god sake's, why being negative. I might be hard for myself right now, but I have to in order to change in a good way.

This basically describes the whole night. Walking back and forth between groups I know, talking for waaaaaayyy to long, while I could have used that time to approach more girls. Lesson learned. I know that I've put this field report in a kind of negative way, but i'm actually still happy that I went. I made the choice of going out alone, while I could have also just stay home and well, do nothing. I think that I will go out alone more often, it's good for my progress.

What have I learnt today?
- Change the 'nice' and 'negative/boring' attitude into a more 'sexual' attitude. React on it when I notice that I've got the wrong state of mind.
- Don't waste too much time on talking to familiar people. Sure it's good for your social circle, but if you made your goal to approach, it's better to hold it to a minimum.
- Go out alone, there's nothing to be afraid of.

Questions to move on?
- How do I change this hard wired 'nice' attitude of mine, into a 'sexual' attitude? That's one thing I'll be focusing on in my progress, because it's definately a sticking point.

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*Quick Note*
Bringing my game to a whole new level with the Dutch Carnaval.

Alright guys, upcoming weekend (from friday till wednesday), it's the Dutch carnaval (at least in my region). You can somewhat compare it with Halloween, because everyone dresses up the way the like; guys will wear police customes, prisoner " , sumo ", gentleman ", soldier ". And girls dress up as: bees, nurses, indiana's, also soldiers, police officers, you name it. It brings out their 'sluttiness'. But that's not all. Carnaval is known as the fest of 'love' for a reason. It's either you make it, or you brake it. Allow me to explain;

Especially single people like me, have been waiting for this. Girls drink (a lot of) alcohol. Guys as well. And approaching girls is 10x easier then normally. Really. My first kiss was during this fest, and guess what: I wasn't even the one approaching. Back then I was so AFC, that I'd screwed up A HELL LOT OF chances. Until I found out about the magic .

In 3 years time, I've kissed 4 different girls, and at least 3 opportunity's were available (I rejected them). 2 of those girls I kissed wanted to still hang out with me after. I believe that says enough right?

Now these are my day by day goals (might chance during the following days,):
Well, that was quite a list, but this will be the general plan for the upcoming Carnaval. I'm really excited already it's nearly there. Ill try to update the journal with every day, and if you have recommendations, please PM me, I'm all open for feedback, positive or negative, I'm here to learn!

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Day 33: 8th February 2012
Carnaval day 1: I'm off to a good start !

Goal:
- I'll aspire to make 5 approaches. (at least 5/5, but I believe it may have been more)

Field report+:
Wow, I literally have to say that everything went better then planned. Amazing. Right now it's 2:00 am, and I'm typing this field report because I want to remember this night, it has been a blast.
I think the best thing would be to just tell the story and begin somewhere:

Alright. On Thursday as planned we went to the (quiet) bar and we stayed from approximately 8pm. till 1.00 am. A couple of drinks, then I went home. My friend stayed over and we talked till 3.00 am in the morning. And believe me, it was private stuff, that i'm not gonna share however, because it's something other people don't have to know.

At 7:15 am we had to get up, because it was school time till 12.00 am (boring school day offcourse). But man, I was tired. After school I went to the bar as planned and when I arrived it wasn't really crowded yet. Approximately half an hour later it was packed. That afternoon I didn't really approach. I wasn't searching for it, nor did I feel the motivation (yet). However the girls, there's only word for this, HOT! Literally 9 out of 10 girls are wearing short skirts, so short that you can barely see their butts. And I love it . I was just looking at them, and this time the sexual frame kicked in. My mind was trying to picture them naked. However at 2.00 pm today I was soooo tired, because of the lack of speed, the alcohol from the day before and the boring school day. I excused all my friends, and classmates, colleagues (really much people I knew) and went home to get some sleep from 2.30 pm till 5:30 pm, because I asked my mom to wake me up.

In between we sat at a friends' house, had a couple of drinks and around 10:30 pm we went out. And this is where the good stuff happened!. First of all, I can say that we had to wait in line for the entrance and to hang up my coat. In that line, I've been socializing with people I knew, and people I didn't knew at all (aka strangers). Once inside I noticed some female familiar people, and joined my friends. Once of the female friends had bunny ears, so I asked if I could take 'm, and put 'm on. What happened? After walking around, almost every girl noticed me in a good way. My confidence was boosted. I rejoined my friends and a female classmate was trying to make pictures. I said the same thing as 2 weeks ago: Let me take a picture of you two (she had a friend next to her). After taking 2 pictures, she wanted to take a picture of me (which I agreed). I got an idea and asked my friend again if I could borrow her bunny ears. Then I said to my classmate; "You should make a picture of this, it's funnier". She smiled and took the picture, and said; "Ill send them to you tomorrow". However I forgot that I don't have her phone number, and this could have been the perfect opportunity. Lesson learned.

Then, only 10 minutes later (I was singing to the music and dancing, having a good time), 3 girls were walking by, and 2 of them were incredibly good looking and sweet! The following is something I have to remind for myself, and never EVER forget. I did the thing that I've been training on, eye contact.. She noticed it, she looked back, HELD EYE CONTACT, and gave me the warm smile that just melted my heart almost. I'm typing this right now and I see her in front of me, giving me that same warm smile, and I'm having trouble typing the words. It's an emotion I can't describe. However, I kept that hiding BUT I also did something (which in my opinion was) wrong, and I've waited, and waited. Fortunately, she was really thát cute, and interested, because she kept hanging around next to me with her 2 friends, kept looking at me, and each time we made eye contact, the same warm smile appeared on her beautiful face. (This sounds really AFC, I know, I'm just trying to describe the feeling). I had my line ready, but it was the first approach, and I felt AA. 1 smile, 2 smiles, 3 smiles, 4 smiles...... F*ck it; I'm going in! And took a few steps, she noticed immediatly and I said: "I bet that helmet (she was wearing a yellow builders helmet for her costume) looks better on me" ( so basically a recovery opener). I exuded confidence, even with AA. She laughed and said: "Oh reallly?". Me: "Yeah, i'm pretty sure, may I?" She nodded. I took her helmet and it was waaaaayy too small for my head. It basically was wearable and looked very silly. But she smiled, her friends smiled so I was in I believe. Then i'm not sure how anymore, but a friend wanted to take a picture of me and the cute girl, which we did. I said: "You should send me the picture". Her: "How?" Me: "Just give me your phone number, and Ill send a message, then you have mine too". She nodded. Though the dumbest thing I"ve ever had happened; I couldn't find out how to add her number, because I was looking at the wrong place I'm sure it would have been a sure close, but now I was forced to give my number to her, adding the name wallie, and letting her send it to me. Wrong! She nodded yes, but tomorrow when she wakes up and sees my name, she won't send the picture. I already know that. But after all, I'm proud. First approach of the night, alright warm approach, and I exuded confidence, made on of her friends attracted to me.

The second approach is more or less someone I know from seeing, but not really about her background and stuff. I noticed her on the other side of the bar, she noticed me as well, and I walked towards her, sitting right next to her. We talked about the music and stuff. I thought to myself; Well, f*ck it, what do I have to lose? I started making more and more eye contact, talking sexual stuff, mentioning the topics kissing, sex. I could see that she wasn't really confident on that subject, yet not afraid. Sometimes I just paused and looked her in the eye, laser eye as Warped Mindless calls it. When she noticed I was quiet and looking at her, she held eye contact for a few seconds, and the looked in front of her smiling (I believe just a little embarassment). The conversation went well, and eventually she said: "Wow, you're really a cool person to talk to". Immediatly after it I said without thinking: "Well then, give me your phone number, then we can talk more over the phone". No hesitation from her. The good thing is, she is also cute, and average looking I can say, but her friends; DAMN, hot! So even if I won't have sex with her or something, then I should just hang out with her, and target on of her friends through this girl. She has a good impression on me, she won't mind it if I'd take on of her friends instead.

The rest of the night I was happy, confident, eager to approach. So I made 3 approaches after this, talking to familiar people. Basically I had the social zone. Girls, guys, people I'd hardly even talk to: they would have a chit chat with me, even for just a few seconds. At 1:30 pm I went home and started typing this journal.The night went well, everything went even better then planned. There is every reason to be proud of myself. I've build up momentum, and Ill take this good experience with me for the next day. Can't wait for tomorrow (night!)

What have I learnt today?
- If a girl gives you a warm smile, man you gotta say something really weird to screw that up. Approach her the second she gives that warm smile.
- Not sure if mentioned before but: Always TAKE the phone number, don't GIVE it to her. You're the one who makes the decisions, and the chances are that she will never reply (which I bet will happen).
- Lazer eyes, pauses between talking. It gives a good sexual vibe.

Question to move on?
Nope.

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You could have grab the phone and call your phone and have it as a miss call.... The opener was good and situational... If you make eye contact you could say if "how are you gonna look at me like that and not say anything? i am wallie, or are you gonna keep flirting from a distance or are we gonna meet, i am wallie... Good job dude!

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