| Compliance in game is an essential part of laying a girl. Whilst you may probably know what compliance is, this just struck me after I had my first instadate with a girl in Daygame yesterday and then realized I could've kissed her right then and there (or at least made my intention clear), but I didn't, and I got butthurt when she didn't answer my phonecall today, probably because she noticed my hesitation, and if only I had escalated and went for a kiss (a ballsy manly thing to do) I stayed a little pussy. Why? Because, as my first instadate, I had the social convention of "I can't kiss her now. I just met her, she probably would be really uncomfortable with that!" This was completely and utterly wrong. She wanted it in her eyes and I didn't give it. Instead we had a long talk about stuff and got to know each other, but the tension was subsiding. In the end I got her number and set up a date as best I could (see all the social convention? I thought this chick needed a date in order to get her! Possibly, but maybe she would've gone home with me then and there) and then said goodbye looking into her eyes thinking I'm MR. Charming.
We are not here to follow social conventions. We are here to lay the girl as quickly as possible. We are here to choose the fastest route.
Pushing compliance is ESSENTIAL. Getting to "no" is ESSENTIAL. Pickup is basically choosing the fastest way to lay the girl. And since each girl is different, each girl has a different pace. The best pace would obviously be she goes home with you then and there. Then you're able to kiss her then and there and get sexual but she requires a Day2. Then the chick requires a Day2 and Day3. After a week of no sex, well, rely on your own judgement whether she will sleep with you or not.
Nice guys or pussies or AFCs don't push compliance, don't push for the lay because they THINK that the girl is uncomfortable if they do. They think that going for the kiss now would be the "wrong" time. They think that telling her to come home now would be "too fast" for her. This is what I did on the instadate. I had a very powerful urge to kiss her and was going to just flat out tell her "I can't stop thinking about kissing you right now" but didn't because I thought that she would think this is weird! How the fuck am I supposed to know for sure if she finds it weird or not if I don't TRY IT?! It was actually INCONGRUENT of me not to go for the kiss because I triangle-gazed her and came in close. She sensed the incongruence and my nervousness and didn't forgive me this time. (Some girls forgive your AFCness to an extent, but she was a very pretty girl, and pretty girls usually move on quickly). Even if I had gone for the kiss and didn't get it, I would've had a better chance meeting her since I would have been CONGRUENT to my intent.
Pushing compliance and getting to "no" is so crucial, because imagine you think she will feel uncomfortable if you tell her to come home, when in fact if you just stay persistent she WILL come home! You didn't get the lay not because of her feelings or thoughts or social conditioning (something mostly out of your control), but because YOU were too pussy to make the move. ALWAYS MAKE THE MOVE.
Always push for the lay. Push for the whole close. EVEN DURING THE DAY! The number is just a means to an end. If you go out during the day or night and your goal is to get a NUMBER, guess what, you will get numbers but no lays. Not even Day 2s, why? Because during your interaction your intention was to get a number, not to get HER. The number is just a bunch of digits. It's not human. The girl is. You want her. You want her in your bed. Otherwise you wouldn't be into pickup. So push for that. If the number comes it comes. Push for the lay, and if it doesn't happen, settle for second best with a kiss and a plan for a Day 2 and a number. No kiss, just a Day 2 and a number. No Day 2, just a number. No number...next.
But always push for the full close and then see how far she'll take it. Stay persistent with your intentions, and if it truly doesn't happen, if she says "no" then you can't do anything about that. It's out of your control. But what IS in your control is pushing for things to happen. YOU have to push for it. YOU lead. The whole way.
If you push for the whole close which is your intention, like said before, all the other stuff will just come as a byproduct. Numbers are bullshit (they are only useful to lay the girl. By themselves they are nothing.) The kiss will come naturally because your intention is to fuck her and kissing is an escalation to that point.
This also goes for Daygame. I've been getting a shitload of flakes recently, even with the instadate (which on the outside seems to have gone well, but I was a pussy to escalate and she could smell it), and this is probably why. I'm not pushing for the whole close immediately. My intention isn't clear. I have to make my intention clear and push push push for the whole thing. If she is still cool with that then my chances are increased with that girl. She screened well.
So remember to push for the whole close, the lay. Always. Then stay persistent, and if it's a no it's a no, but you know you've pushed as far and fast as you can, and your chances are increased.
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