Sunday morning, at work, and I absolutely not feel like working… Meaning… I think it’s time for me to write another guide on this forum so I can contribute to the quality of this PUA forum. I’ve always been shocked by how LITTLE information this forum has on actual sex and penile problems. I would expect a forum about seduction to AT LEAST have a section about sex, but it’s not the case, hence why I am writing this thread. Having myself suffered from a ton of bad experiences and problems when it comes to sex, I want to help everyone who are going through these experiences and improve their sex life. This is going to be a long thread, but I could not do otherwise… “If I had more time, I would of written you a shorter letter”- Blaise


For those who haven’t checked it out yet, I wrote this guide a while ago:
mrmatt-dancefloor-club-game-vt128197.html

The following thread will be some sort of a part 2 to it… What happens when you did everything right, and you managed to bring a girl home and get her in bed? How can you face you’re fears, problems and become better when it comes to sex and overcome your anxiety or penile problems?


These are the topics that I will talk about:

- The truth about the importance of your size
- Injuries (more specifically torn frenulum and STD’s)
- Erectile dysfunction
- Premature ejaculation
a) Physical causes
b) Mental causes
- Performance anxiety
- How to get better at sex/ Advices



The truth about the importance of your sex


How could I write a guide on sex and penile problems without talking about the importance of penises sizes!

Myth: Penis size is really important and you have to hang like a porn star to easily satisfy girls.

Reality: Even though size has something to do with satisfying your girls, it is not the most important thing when it comes to being able to satisfy your girl. The average size is around 5.5 inches, so if you are bigger than 5 inch, you have what it takes to do the job and you show not be ashamed of what you have down there. If not, there are some natural ways to increase your size, which I will talk about later. Now, you guys have to remember that sex is about 50% physical pleasure and 50% mental pleasure. While penis size do not make that much of a difference when it comes to physical pleasure, having a big penis will most likely turn her on and will provide more mental pleasure.


Injuries & STD’s

I feel like I needed to talk about injuries a bit because we never know what can happen. Since I know that there are a lot of fairly inexperienced guys lurking on the forum, let me talk a bit about torn frenulum. This injury is most likely to happen to young inexperienced guys who probably tried to go a little too rough, this occurs when your frenulum tears apart, which is probably the most painful thing you will ever experience (it did happened to me, and believe me, I would not wish that to my worse enemies). However, if it does happens, do NOT touch, masturbate, have sex or anything related for the next 2-3 weeks. If it happens again, you might need a surgery, so do not hesitate about seeing your doctor about that. Now, a bit about STD’s… I unfortunately experience that as well, and the best thing I can tell you is to use protection when sleeping with a new girls. If, for some reason, you sleep with someone without using a condom, be aware of your little man during the next few days and you should consider seeing your doctor if anything out of the ordinary happens.


Erectile dysfunction

This is one of the most common penile related problems, and thankfully, is often cured pretty easily. First off, you have to find out if your problem is physical or mental. Some guys can get great erection when they are alone, but cannot get it up when they are with a girl (sex anxiety). Be aware that maintaining a good health is really important for maintaining a good erection, so you should always practice some sort of physical exercises, avoid smoking (and even drinking) as much as possible, and eating well.
Now, what if you are under 35, healthy, and still suffer from ED? There might be another physical problem. You pelvic floor is most probably imbalanced. Of course, there are some ways to get a balanced pelvic floor, but it might take time and effort. Yours is probably not strong enough, hence why you need to start a kegelling/reverse kegelling routine. Simply said, kegels is the PC muscle you activate if you want to stop peeing and reverse kegel is when you want force “force peeing” (You are more than welcome to do some research on google on how to master these)

A good beginner routine could be: (4 times a week, focusing on 70% kegels and 30% reverse kegels)

50 kegels, 1-2 seconds hold,
20 kegels, 4-5 seconds hold,
2-5 kegels, 30 seconds hold,
Then, does something similar with RK (reminder: 70% K and 30% RK)

That alone should solve most ED related problems. Now, the mental ones are a bit trickier. These are probably happening because you are still not very experienced and not used to being naked with a female. All I call tell you is that you should rather focus on your immersion and enjoying the moment & stimulation rather than having some sort of anxiety. Now, one of the most commons reasons is…. Porn! Porn addiction is probably the most damaging thing when it comes to “penile health”, porn addiction will basically get you so used to hardcore visual stimulation that your body will not react the same way if you are about to have sex with the lights off. DO NOT RELY ON PORN TO GET ERECTION. So, if you are motivated about this, stop watching porn.
If, for whatever reason, you have tried out all of the above and your problem still persist, go see your doctor.



Premature ejaculation

I am sure most of you guys have been waiting for this part, if you didn’t skip directly to it. Premature ejaculation is by far the most common and scariest problem that men experience during sex. I personally experienced PE, but I have done a lot of research to overcome it and even though I still do not last like a porn star, I made some great progress. Premature ejaculation can be caused by a mental problem or a physical problem. REMINDER: Progress will not be measured overnight and it will take time and dedication to make noticeable progress.

A) The physical causes are the easiest ones to get rid of. Just like ED, they are caused by an imbalanced pelvic floor. This time, your pelvic floor is probably too tight, and you need to focus on reserve kegels. Look up for the part about K and RK routine, and do the same thing, but this time, focusing 70% RK and 30%.

Now, the next thing you should do is to constantly aware of your body. If you pay attention, you will notice that you will often do some involuntary kegels when you get a very aroused, these also causes PE, so you should focus on breathing well, maintaining a small but constant RK and avoid these. Basically, maintaining a constant RK will slow down the “point of no return”, but once you get there, you can also try to Kegel as strong as possible for about 10 second, this can stop the ejaculation if done properly. I am currently working on mastering this one, but I will not really get into this until I am able to perfectly do it (dry orgasm).

B) Now onto the mental causes. PE can occurs when someone is sexually inexperienced or when someone often get over aroused. If that is the case, there are some routines you can do that will most likely help you out. First of all: Quit all porn. It may seem hard to do, but are you willing to sacrifice porn in order to better your sexual life and get rid of this problem?

Here’s a basic routine you can do for PE:

- K and RK routine like I said earlier,
- 10 minute of meditation breathing (Focusing on breathing, while doing a small RK when breathing-in, and releasing when breathing out.
- Edging: Edging is basically masturbation with your imagination only in order to get aware of your body reaction and get you used to stimulation. A good edging exercise would be to go for 10 min (depending how severe your PE is), and constantly go for a better time. While edging, you are only allowed to cum once every 3 session. It will be hard to do at first and need great discipline, but the result will be amazing.

There are other exercises that you can do, but I am trying to not make this thread “too” long, so you can always PM me if you want more information on that matter.


Performance anxiety

Most inexperienced guys will suffer from performance anxiety, but also guys who have suffered from ED or PE. For those inexperienced guys out there, the best advice I can give you is to go all out and don’t be afraid of failing. As a great man once said: “ There is no such thing as failure, there is only winning and learning”.
Go out there, don’t be afraid to try new things, and when you do, focus on your immersion, be in the moment, and don’t think about what might or might not happen. If you have suffered from PE and DE, the best you can do is to work on it with some of the things and said earlier and try to not think about it. The more you think about it, the worse it will be.


Sex advices and tips

Now, this is where the fun parts begin! I will start by giving advices of my own, but I want this section to be a "mash-up" of advices, tips and tricks from all the experienced guys out there. I want to thread to be some sort of “Sex encyclopia”, and this can only be achieved with your help!

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- The first thing I will tell you about sex is to not take anything too seriously! If you do something wrong, just laugh it off and it won't matter at all! If, on the other hand, you take it seriously and keeps thinking about it, it will most likely be awkward between you and the girl, and it may causes even bigger issues in the future (i.e. Sexual confidence problems).

- Get good with oral sex! Oral sex is an opportunity to give your girl an orgasm before you even started sex! Especially if you still have some sort of performance anxiety, this will remove a ton of pressure if you can give her some pleasure with foreplay.

-Take your time. Unless you are in a hurry and looking for a quickie, always take your time. Don't rush anything, spend some time turning her on, kissing her neck, playing with her breasts, clitoris and vagina.

- Do not focus on positions, angles of insertions, etc. Of course, having a basic knowledge about positions and techniques is mandatory, but do not become a bedroom technician, and remember that at least 50% of the pleasure from sex comes from mental stimulation.

-Don't be afraid to dirty talk or grunt if it feels good, tell her how she is a naughty girl and has been thinking of your cock all day long. Don't be one of those awkward silent guys... If you ever slept with a girl who did not make a sound in bed, you will understand what I mean.


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Being a follower of Sex God by Daniel Rose, allow me to write the four major elements that one should not forget in order to have great sex:

1) Dominance:Even if you should always focus on maintaining these four aspects equally, I find dominance to be really important for me and also easier to do. Be the leader, do not "ask" your girl to switch positions. Grab her and pull her how you want her to be, tell her what to do, be the man that she has be dreaming of all her life. This can also be achieved by small actions, like grabbing her firmly, controlling her hands when fucking on missionary, grabbing her hair while fucking doggy style, etc.

2) Immersion:This basically means: Live in the moment. Do not think about what you are going to do tomorrow, or even how you are going to kick her out once you're done. Live in the moment, focus on the sensation you are feeling with your body, etc. The sex will be much more enjoyable for both of you.

3) Emotion: Sex is the strongest form of emotional connection you could possibly have with a girl. So, while you're at it, why don't you try to trigger some emotional connection? Deep eyes contact, telling her how nice she is, how good it feels, etc.

4) Variety: While you do not want to become a bedroom technician, you should still maintain a good level of variety in your sex life. Fucking your girl in the same missionary position for an hour straight, 4 times a week, 52 weeks a year, might become boring. Try out new stuff, have sex in unorthodox places! The world is your oyster!

This is a brief explanations of the 4 main aspects of sex that you will find in Sex God by Daniel Rose. For anyone who did not read this book yet, go do it now! It is golden!

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Now, this is where I am looking for YOU GUYS, YOU'RE ADVICES, FROM YOUR PERSONAL EXPERIENCES. please comment on the thread and I will quote all the good information along with your name! Thanks!
A special thanks to: Skills360, Illogic and Dodgez for their contribution on this guide.

I am a big fan of massages(as foreplay), cause it makes the women relax and get comfortable, i do 15-20 minutes regular massage, and then after i switch to erotic type massage.... Other stuff i do is multitask, which is doing many different sexual moves at the same time which also help me with not ejaculating too fast, so while i am in missionary i may be licking the nipple while penetrating, while playing with her clit etc... For premature ejaculation what you do is i stop and say no yet, and then go down or pleasure her, till my skills junior gets a rest then i go back to do what i was doing, once you stop for about 3 times your penis will get pissed and you will last long...In the last couple of years i been playing with the girl ass and had made couple of girls orgasm that way,

SLOOOOOOW DOWN: Most guys when giving oral or fingerbanging go way too fast and/or rough. It's not a race and it feels better for them if you're gentle. You've heard this before but a girl is more like an oven than a microwave. Heat them up slowly before you go max-temp.

TEASE THEM: Don't just shove it in there like you're plugging a leak. Tease them, make them want it. Ask them if they want it, make them say please.. Put it in just 1 inch, fuck them like this for a minute and notice their reactions. Then go in 2 inches and fuck them for a minute, etc... Go all the way in, then all the way out.. When you finally go all the way in it will feel amazing, and also bigger for them.
ALL GIRLS LIKE IT ROUGH: When I was younger an older friend imparted this wisdom onto me and it was a revelation. So don't be afraid to get aggressive (which does not mean violent). Slap their ass, pull their hair etc. You would be surprised how that sweet innocent girl loves to be slammed with the force of a Javan rhinoceros.

Learn how to make a girl squirt. There's a hand technique specifically for this. Note that not all girls will cum or squirt with this technique, part of it relies on the girl's ability to relax. But performing this technique well will definitely set you apart from the rest.

PRACTICE! (it's fun)
- arouse her well at first, don't rush things
-cut those fingernails- - do positions where your'e not thrusting when you feel like you're arousal goes too fast up, pull her to you with your arms, doggystyle is awesome for this. Thrusting will make you last less long, you could make her do the work too, put her on top of you, but don't make her work for too long.
- do the positions you want to, don't ask if you can, doggy is often a girls favorite, I like to finish in this one as you can be more agressive here.
- If you feel like you can't go anymore, you can pull out and work your magic with fingers some more
- when you come too quickly, whatever happens, you'll last longer in round 2
- david shade has alot of good sex stuff, his taoist thrusting was cool, welcomed method works good but I don't like that it's so distanced, haven't had success with deep spot but maybe I'm not doing it right




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This guide may be long, but I felt like there was so little information on the subject that it might be useful to some members of the community. My goal while writing this is to help as many people as possible, but if I can help only one person with it, I reached my goal.



Mrmatt

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

some things that popped up:

- be proud of your dick, whatever size it is
- arouse her well at first, don't rush things
-cut those fingernails
- go for the clit, if you can get her off before fucking, this will put less pressure on you while fucking, asking "you like that?" is no problem. When it's feeling real good for her you could go for G-spot, however I have more success with clit.
- do positions where your'e not thrusting when you feel like you're arousal goes too fast up, pull her to you with your arms, doggystyle is awesome for this. Thrusting will make you last less long, you could make her do the work too, put her on top of you, but don't make her work for too long.
- do the positions you want to, don't ask if you can, doggy is often a girls favorite, I like to finish in this one as you can be more agressive here.
- If you feel like you can't go anymore, you can pull out and work your magic with fingers some more
- when you come too quickly, whatever happens, you'll last longer in round 2
- david shade has alot of good sex stuff, his taoist thrusting was cool, welcomed method works good but I don't like that it's so distanced, haven't had success with deep spot but maybe I'm not doing it right

I really like the way you approach your topics of matter.

The guide its pretty general about stuff, except for the chapters of erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation; but also pretty much nailed with the other stuff.

I`d like to talk about my own issue at the moment, wich is basically all psychologic:

Lucky for me premature ejaculation its not an issue, I make girls cum always before me. I found that some positions are better for me to pull this than others. For example doing the missionaire position I can last A LOT, simple because Im too focused on the pressure on my arms. Its like for me to being able to cum I have to be more relaxed in my musles than that. The opposite to that its doggy style, wich makes me cum really fast.

My problem here is getting an erection at a specific point: when Im putting the condom on.

I tend to do a lot of foreplay, all with an erection; get the girl and I naked really slowly while kissing and licking almost every part of the girl also with an erection.
But when it comes to the point where I take the condom outta my wallet and put it in my dick, the pressure is too high. I know after this Imma have to stick it in her pussy and its great, but its a lot of pressure to me.

Im 23 years old at the moment, and this must be related to some really bad experiences when I was 18 with some girls that wouldnt simply help to the cause. I still banged all of them, but I toke a lot of hits and kinda marked me.

Lucky enough for me, with the last girl I slept with I was so full of desire (shes not that hot, I simply wanted sex), that I didnt have one single problem. Her pussy would welcome my hard stick. So there you go.

Can you elaborate a bit on my specific situation?

I am thinking of 3 possible things that could result in your situation.

1- Everybody hates condoms. They break the "moment", they remove the sensations from having sex with the girl, and they might also reduce your erection level. I experienced that when I was wearing condoms that were too small, which were blocking a good blood circulation.

2- Like you said. Your past trauma is most probably not helping at all. Like I said about performence anxiety, the more you think of it, the more it become and stays a problem. Try to keep your mind busy and absolutely not think about your past trauma. The best you can do is probably focus on your immersion (being in the moment as much as possible).

3- Last but not last, and this is probably the number 1 reason. Masturbation with porn multiples times a week. I cannot stress enough how BAD porn is for your overall sexual health. Of course, porn is really addictive, but my goal here is to make you understand that you are "hurting" yourself everyc single time you watch some porn. You are probably used to visual stimulation so much that you cannot get as hard when fucking than if you were alone, masturbating to porn. Of course, you will get that boner during foreplay and all, because you are immersed in doing so, and you also have great visual and physical stimulation. However, as soon as you lose the immersion, it's much harder to get a boner. DO NOT FOCUS ON PORN TO GET AN ERECTION.

If you are really motivated about this and want to change this aspect of your life, you HAVE to quit porn, start masturbation to your imagination only (you will also notice how harder it is to get a boner without any visual stimulation.).

My 2 cent.

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Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

Single most awesome thing I've ever seen in my life.

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

some personal sex tips:

SLOOOOOOW DOWN: Most guys when giving oral or fingerbanging go way too fast and/or rough. It's not a race and it feels better for them if you're gentle. You've heard this before but a girl is more like an oven than a microwave. Heat them up slowly before you go max-temp.

TEASE THEM: Don't just shove it in there like you're plugging a leak. Tease them, make them want it. Ask them if they want it, make them say please.. Put it in just 1 inch, fuck them like this for a minute and notice their reactions. Then go in 2 inches and fuck them for a minute, etc... Go all the way in, then all the way out.. When you finally go all the way in it will feel amazing, and also bigger for them.

LOSE YOURSELF: This comes with practice and not over-thinking. Sex should be an experience, not a process. Instead of thinking "what should I do next" you should be thinking....... NOTHING. Focus on enjoying the experience, it will feel better for both of you and more natural. Any moves you make will be spontaneous. Also if you follow the same process every time this becomes boring. Which leads to:

VARIETY: Not all girls are the same. Some like different things. Even if you're sleeping with the same girl often, it should not be the same every time. Ask a girl what she wants while you're fucking her. She'll be more open to telling you during the experience. Other times tell her what you want her to do or what you're going to do. This is part of variety: dominance + satisfying her needs. Variety is also mixing up speeds. You don't want to be only slow or only fast the whole time (well, once in a while you might). Generally mix up the speeds. Also if you find yourself releasing too early, then slow right down when you feel the urge.
All of these rules can and should be broken when you feel the need. Arguably the most important part of a relationship is keeping the sex exciting.

ALL GIRLS LIKE IT ROUGH: When I was younger an older friend imparted this wisdom onto me and it was a revelation. So don't be afraid to get aggressive (which does not mean violent). Slap their ass, pull their hair etc. You would be surprised how that sweet innocent girl loves to be slammed with the force of a Javan rhinoceros.

Learn how to make a girl squirt. There's a hand technique specifically for this. Note that not all girls will cum or squirt with this technique, part of it relies on the girl's ability to relax. But performing this technique well will definitely set you apart from the rest.

PRACTICE! (it's fun)

Almost everything has been said...I am a big fan of massages(as foreplay), cause it makes the women relax and get comfortable, i do 15-20 minutes regular massage, and then after i switch to erotic type massage.... Other stuff i do is multitask, which is doing many different sexual moves at the same time which also help me with not ejaculating too fast, so while i am in missionary i may be licking the nipple while penetrating, while playing with her clit etc... For premature ejaculation what you do is i stop and say no yet, and then go down or pleasure her, till my skills junior gets a rest then i go back to do what i was doing, once you stop for about 3 times your penis will get pissed and you will last long...In the last couple of years i been playing with the girl ass and had made couple of girls orgasm that way... Finally, i encourage all my fwb to get the pocket rocket, i also encourage them to use it while i am having sex...


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Alright Matt. I finally actually read this. I enjoyed it quite a bit. There's a few typos, but I'm sure you wrote it all in one sitting and posted it. A lot of good advice and key points in here.

K and RK is a great tool that a lot of people don't know about and if they do, don't believe it works. It does, it takes a lot of work, it's weird, it's hard to figure out if you're even doing it correctly at first, but after a while it'll help you have more control with the little PUA.

You're dead on with the "making them want it." They should fucking crave it, and "it" being the next level of intensity. I like the sticking it in an inch and then another, more and more until you're just full cock in, it's a great method of yours. If I could stress one portion of the topics you covered it would be this one. 2 steps forward 1 step back can certainly apply, but you should never take it up a notch until she's dying to have it. To be honest I look at it like a stick shift. You don't want to shift until the RPMs are getting up there and it's time. Don't shift too early. But where it's not like a stick shift is the fact that women honestly should get to craving for the next bit. Giving them a little nibble at a time and then a little more and then a little more automatically starts giving you dominance too. Guys should never just focus on sex as "shoving it in her vagina" because it starts from words to kino to lips to necks etc etc before it gets to the vagina.

Women can be taken to a level of being horny far crazier and higher than men can, but they're rarely ever taken there. A squirting orgasm for example is something we consider to be a very intense orgasm for a woman, but truth is its really just her having a FULL orgasm. Imagine having an orgasm as a dude and nothing coming out. It wouldn't be nearly as satisfying. Another thing is the way they're bodies are. They can feel an orgasm through their whole bodies. We don't exactly do that. A lot of that has to do with nerve endings too. Their clit, for example, has far more nerve endings in that little nub of joy then our entire throbbing cocks.

As always, props MrMatt, much respect,

Merry Christmas and take it easy, bro,
Sweet Lou

PS You should certainly write a post that is a step by step scenario of how YOU make a woman squirt. I'm not talking the last moves inside her to make it happen. I'm talking start with the talk and end with the cock lol. Peace playboy.

Such a nice thread.

Like a beginner I find this threat useful.
I have just realised that I was doing kg exercises all wrong.
I was doing only normal kg that leeds me to PE.

Thanks to you buddy, I hope i will solve my PE problem, peace.

Well. Eventually me and this HB (lay report section Nightgame resulting in instant SNL) ran out of condoms and now I have runned into problems catching an STD. Wish I would have read this earlier and didnt go for that last-morning-after-goodbye-fuck without condom even if she were on the pill.

Would like to add; You can never have enough condoms with you.
Im getting my jacket set up with a secret pocket where I can put 10 of them...


Fucking hell.

1 week of medication and 2 weeks extra without sex, so in total 3 weeks.

Thank god medical care of this type is free in sweden; doc appointment, perscription, medicine etc. Everything paid for by the taxpayers. Sometimes I whine in the chat about taxes in sweden, but in situations like this I really appriciate them. Only had to pay for gas.

Some fellas only learn the hard way, dont do my mistake and take a chance. 1 girl without condom and you can get fucked (in the bad way) for life.

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STOP AT NOTHING, DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO.
Don't get locked in on one type of style/technique/method - find what works out for you and create your own style of game!

Nice thread.

The only thing I would add, would be about the sentence that says "If, for some reason, you sleep with someone without using a condom, be aware of your little man during the next few days and you should consider seeing your doctor if anything out of the ordinary happens."

Plenty of STIs don't have symptoms. So even if nothing out of the ordinary happens, it's still worth having a check. Now, no need to go overboard here, as if there aren't any symptoms you're probably ok. But I make a point of having a check every 2-3 months if I've had any unprotected sex in that period. And if you're starting a long term faithful relationship, get checked early on and then you can be sure you're both free from the start.

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Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

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No, the first thing you do is get a Chlamydia test as Chlamydia is very common and tricky to get rid of. Many males have unseen symptoms and would not know they even had it if they do not have a test.