Hi,

This is my first post on this forum - I've been racking my brain for a solution this all day, and couldn't come up with one, so I thought I'd consult the experts:

Situation
I've been hooking up with a girl in another city for the last two months, we met her through close mutual friends and whenever I visit the city (every 1-2 weeks) we hang out with said mutual friends and I end up sleeping over at her place.

The Girl
She is a ~9, very attractive, super outgoing, dancer and aspiring model, fairly wealthy, university student that lives at home.

The Problem
I'm starting to like the girl and want to escalate intimacy without making her think that I'm more into her than she's into me (I don't want to be seen chasing her).

Ie. I want to tell her I miss her, or something along those lines - but I don't want to give up my position of relative disinterest.

Essentially I'm looking for a way to get her to make a stronger emotional commitment to me.

Any ideas?

just game her without confessing your feelings. Make your feelings known ambiguously through compliments that are not referring to her physical features... And there is nothing wrong with chasing her in the context of setting up meet ups and escalating because you naturally desire her. She is a woman and you are a man. Man wants woman. Woman wants man. So find a balance to get it to that point. Escalate and then show some self-control. Usually guys go all out and don't back off to cool down.


Just some thoughts.


ps. don't tell her you miss or her or any of that stuff until you sleep with her more than a few times and created solid rapport.. Unless, you want to get friend zoned.

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Your headline reads "escalate intimacy" but from your message it seems like you want to escalate emotionally. If you're trying to escalate emotionally because you want to date her, my advice to you is to be patient and let her come out with her feelings first.

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I don't want to date her, but I want her to become more emotionally attached to me - which I suppose I'll have to do with standard game.