From everything I've read on this forum, and from different books, I feel as though it all comes down to being yourself, not taking non-important things to heart, and just be super chill. If im right, then how do I get to that level? Epecially around women. I feel like I worry too much, but when I don't, chicks love me. I get numbers and whatnot, but I still haven't gotten any action for a few months...which sucks ass, I know I havealimiting point. But how does one ameliorate themselves to a state of not giving a fuck? Some guys I know suggested to me to start smoking -not cigs. Advice gentlemen, please

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Most things we're afraid of are simply challenges, so smile because you'll become stronger from it.

Your problem is that 'being chill' gets harder and harder the longer you go without any action. So you end up just digging yourself a deeper hole. Just try thinking really selfishly, try being a dick every once and a while. If you don't care about people not liking you then you won't care about rejection and you'll be able to be chill. You can either do that or just trick yourself and imagine you are an actor, your call. Oh and don't do drugs.

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Now, bring me that horizon!

[quote="Beast 45"]Your problem is that 'being chill' gets harder and harder the longer you go without any action. So you end up just digging yourself a deeper hole. Just try thinking really selfishly, try being a dick every once and a while. If you don't care about people not liking you then you won't care about rejection and you'll be able to be chill. You can either do that or just trick yourself and imagine you are an actor, your call. Oh and don't do drugs.[/quote]

Dude, I haven't had an much action since April. I want it badly. Give me an example of how u would do this acting selfish improve?

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Most things we're afraid of are simply challenges, so smile because you'll become stronger from it.

Well if you come across nice and really friendly that could translate into desperate and needy. If you are a little bit of a dick (and obviously don't go over the top) then that'll mean you don't really give a damn whether you want anything or not. That's where the concept of negging comes from.

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Now, bring me that horizon!

This is my thing:

selfish and they live for themselves
confident
act on impulses
strong willed and offer a challenge

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In a funk? Read this

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If you really don't wanna give a fuck, watch Hank Moody in Californication, Charlie Sheen in Two and a Half Men and Tank in My Best Friends Girl.

Watch them, the things they say, the way they act.

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"Everything you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it" - Gandhi

Get your mind off the dry spell. You'll fuck the next person that says hello to you if you keep comparing yourself to other people's idea of how often you should have sex. Not giving a damn is being cool with your situation.

Work out. Read. Accept any invitation to anything fun. Meet new people. Improve yourself. The rest will work itself out.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

have one or two girls break your heart

then you'll just become icey as fuck

It can be very difficult not to give a shit. Personally, when I am seeing someone I can become rather attached fast and at times this leads to neediness. I've been into the game for about two years now and this is still a big issue for me, I find controlling my emotions very difficult with regards to girls I care about. I know I am fucking up and I still do it.

The thing is, you have to accept that you're human. You can't become an ice cold seduction robot overnight and sometimes you need to question if you want to be that. Sometimes I can become needy or reactive, its just who I am after years of terrible advice and ineptitude but I am working on my inner game all the time and making progress.

You will get there eventually.

What you can do is to game in places where nobody knows you. It's more a fear of being rejected in front of people, especially people who might know than it is being rejected.

If you were absolutely sure nobody saw you or knew you, you might act differently.

give it a shot, the worse that happens, you leave and nobody knows anything.