So I don't have enough posts to get this into the PUA Lounge yet, so I'm tossing it in here.

Been seeing this girl a few times over the last week. She's pretty shy, and we've spent the night at each other's places a couple of times now. I told her at the beginning that I wasn't looking for any relationship in particular, that I was just taking things as they came. The first time that this happened, I got her shirt off and we dry humped pretty intensely (which she came from, and obviously enjoyed a lot), and she told me that she didn't want to go any further because she is a virgin, and in fact had never even had a boyfriend to speak of. I respectfully agreed, and didn't try to pull any LMR things on her at all. The second night was much the same, and she, of her own accord, was on the fence about going all the way. She asked if she would regret it, to which I responded that it was a loaded question and that I wasn't going to try and sway her.

I like this girl, but I have hesitations about how attached she will be if I were to indeed take her virginity. I don't want to break her heart at all, because that situation sucks no matter what, but I would like to keep spending time with her, and I'd be lying if I said that I didn't want to make sexii tiime with her, too. I feel like it's kind of a fine line to be trying to walk. I was hoping some of you guys on here might be able to shed some opinions or personal experience on the subject for me. It's her birthday tonight, and so my plan, if things start heating up at the end of the night, is to be upfront, tell her what I'm thinking, and let her decide whether or not to move forward from there.

I personally wouldn't unless i was sure i wanted to go for an exclusive LTR with this girl, the first time is usually has huge impacts for women and you're right she's likely to get quite attached afterwards.

However if you still want to and don't want the whole LTR thing explain to her in no uncertain terms what you want from her/the relationship and then let her make an informed decision, imo.

lol....dry humped, are you in middle school?
joking of course

At any rate, go for it...but taking a girls virginity should be handled with class.

I think guys tend to overestimate the impact of the "first time" for girls. Most girls I know lost their virginity to someone they never felt in love with or were in a super long term relationship with.

I thought for a log time that this is something special for girls.
And then I discovered that 90% of girls I was with, lost their virginity to some douchebag when they were drunk so who gives a fuck.

If you wont be ''the first one to land on the moon'' some other will in two weeks on some drunk privat party in a car.

I wouldnt do it ONLY with a girl who is over 24 years old and is saving virginity for that special guy who she will marry with.

But still, you never know if some asshole PUA comes near her in two weeks and fuck the shit out of her.

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There's also a rule against posting this kinda stuff in the PUA Lounge. Read them

Personally, I have a no-virgin policy. They just get way too clingy and you are seen as very special in their eyes. Fuck enough virgins and you'll end up breaking a ton of hearts and fill your life with plenty of stupid drama.

I boned and American chick who was here in the UK studying and was leaving to go home in like a month, I didn't know until the time came that she was a virgin. Although I would normally avoid virgins for the obvious reasons of them thinking that you are "special", I was zoned in on the pussy. Anyway we fucked and fell asleep and the next morning I was woken up by a phone call from my boss asking me why I wasn't fucking working? LOL so this gave me a quick exit strategy, no number exchange, no kiss, nothing. All was good. It wasn't until I bumped into her again, went back to her place and boned her again that things got a bit heated and she started doing those little things people do when they are getting enamored, sending me "hi sweetheart, how are you?" texts. adding me on facebook etc etc

Moral of the tale is, KEEP YOUR DISTANCE if you want to fuck without attachments. Dont do those things you would naturally do to keep a girl on side. As my story shows, you can bang a virgin with no repercussions but it has to be a quick in and out (not the sex ).

You sound like you are building up for a relationship and taht is great: if thats what you want but im not sure it is so think about what you are doing to make her "feel" you.

Best of luck, dont break no hearts now

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Virgins may have the ability to become attached. So unless you like this girl on some level I would not go for it.

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An orgasm.... from a dry hump.... when she's a virgin..... really???

Yes, 100% really. That girl was a sexual dynamo, just waiting for someone to open her up. I was in a rough spot back then, and didn't want to commit. As such, I decided to pass on being the one to take her down that path.

Must have hit the bump button on accident, this is an old topic.

If it was an accident then I'll lock this thread for ya.