| So it's 3AM here in London, and I was out tonight in my student bar when I cam across a natural. He, like many other naturals I met, had a very distinct personality that I've seen in so many naturals. He's very different to me, and it was then that I realized fully that there are different styles of getting a girl, different types of personalities, and different types of girls that are attracted to each of these.
I think a lot of us confuse PUA with being the social guy, the high status guy, the rockstar type. This leads to people who are not naturally like that to try to act like that and fail. The fact is you have a baseline preference in everything, and you can't just go from introvert to extrovert like that. This started with me thinking about introverts vs extroverts (this guy was clearly extroverted - whilst I am introverted). And then I remembered I always wanted to be like him, or someone like him, but well, that's just not me. I can be that person, but at specific times, when I'm feeling great, or in "state" fully.
Anyways, onto my text that came to me in the last half an hour:
The James Bond and The Steven Tyler
There are different types of personalities in guys, and they get different types of girls.
The Steven Tyler
There is the high energy alpha male rockstar type, the one who's always smiling, and even patronizing to people "below" him. He simply does not care. He is a natural. He says whatever he wants. He's always in state, very social, has fun talking to people. Girls gravitate towards him. He's extroverted, he's not afraid to show his style. He has a rockstar type of style, he's opinionated and not afraid to let them be known. He's high value, high social status, and doesn't have to do that much for girls to approach him or for him to get a girl, as girls are attracted to him. He can take things sexual, but takes his time, when he feels like it. He's very open, and girls like that about him. He's got a warm personality, but also the bad boy in him, which girls can recognize. He plays (unconsciously) a more social game, because that's just who he is.
The James Bond
There is the stealthy direct type. He's more introverted. He's direct. He talks less but goes for what he wants and doesn't apologize for it. He takes things sexual very quickly, is very seductive. He is very congruent in what he wants, and he challenges the girl a lot. It is CLEAR he is hitting on her, and she likes it. He is PERSISTENT but not needy, he knows there are other options out there, and this girl is not his center of attention. He doesn't care much for the "alpha" male type out there, he just knows what he wants and goes for it. He knows he can sexually please a woman. He can move on quickly, as some girls can't take his intensity. His flirt is in his vibe, but he can also be extroverted at times, and then use his seductive PUA skills to move things forward quickly. He gets to know the girl on a deeper level, by asking her deeper questions and talking about deeper stuff than others. He is very observant. He plays a more personal game, because that's just who he is.
Both of these can interchange, but one is always stronger within a person. If an extrovert learns the skills that an introvert or stealth type has, he can both dominate the group AND get the girl quickly.
If an introvert or stealth type goes out to HAVE FUN and not interested in picking up women tonight, girls will gravitate towards him and he will be the social guy, the alpha male, the fun one, the high social status one, and then knowing his natural seductiveness he can quickly take things sexual and connect.
Both are confident in who they are, they are just very different, and their styles differ, but can be the same as there will be times where their mood interchanges. Sometimes the extroverted high social status type will not feel like it tonight, and will just be interested in getting to it quickly, and so will be direct like the James Bond, whereas there will be times where the James Bond will have great fun and be in state and in a good mood, and girls gravitate towards him and he will then quickly make the move, directly either verbally or non-verbally (mostly non-verbally). Both have their advantages and disadvantages.
The James Bond has to stay congruent at all times. The Steven Tyler, whilst it'd be better if he stayed congruent, can play a little more. He can use the whole Cat String Theory to his advantage, playing with the girl, making her laugh, spin, giving her a great emotional experience. Great for high-energy girls who need to have fun wherever they go.
The James Bond on the other hand is very sexual. He's not so much into games as he is in getting straight to the point. Fuck the games, let's get to it. He bypasses a lot of the high-school flirting, which women will find attractive, especially more mature women, and shy girls will love it, as he will lead every step of the way. He doesn't take shit, he just gets to it. And he connects on a deep level.
Both get different types of girls. But the common thread is they are both confident in who they are. They don't try to be someone else, they know who they are.
Don't try to force yourself to be the high social status Steven Tyler guy if you are not feeling it. If you are out to get a girl, then do so. If you are out to have fun and don't want girls, then do so. If a girl comes into your vicinity or you just feel like it, you have a great approachability. But don't force it. Just go with whatever and accept who you are fully in the moment.
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