| I have noticed there are two types of guys that dont get laid.
1> The ones who over qualify and build no attraction aka "orbiters" aka "nice guys" aka "LJBF Zone Fanatics"
2> The ones who under qualify and build attraction aka "I dont even know you: aka "why would I call him the next day" aka "I need connection because im a girl with emotions"
I, as friends/family in the past have told me. Am stone cold, slightly anti-social, I really do not express emotion properly as I always felt it was weakness. Its not that I dont care, its just always been naturally hard for me to be interested or be enthused. So im naturally from a base point worse than most guys at qualifying. My friends will tell me "bro, the reason you dont get laid as much as you could is because, even though you try, and get attraction, girls can sense you dont give a fuck".
I am the type who builds attraction but under qualifies. I realized how crucial I fix this is when an hb8.5 number closed me, hugged me and said you better call me.
When I opened her it was like a normal set. But then she told me about her career, which is the exact career I am pursuing. Because of this I instantly was enthused and engaged with her. I was interested and related to her, she was like the girl version of me. Instantly she went from "why is this guy talking to me.......to call me".
So basically if I can find a way to simulate being interested, caring, relating, enthused in whatever career/hobby/goal/passion the girl tells me, if even its something I dont give a f*ck about, my success should skyrocket.
Its not that I dont care, I just am bad at faking it. I mean when a girl says nurse, or stage lighting, or youth and care worker...im just like fuuuuuckkkk. Ill try and be like thats cool my ex did that blah blah, but it really just does not come off the same as when you actually know a great deal on the topic and can relate and be interested and enthused yourself.
So rather than reading wikipedia pages on every career choice possible and taking improv classes. I ask you guys, how I can/how you, improved this, for the guys who are good at this.
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