Hi guys!
I've been texting with a really beautiful girl today and invited her to a festival tomorrow.
She thanked me for the invitation and said that she really wanted to go, but don't have time due to a test coming up.
How would you guys recommend me to respond to this?
I don't want to waste time texting back and forth without getting anywhere, and I don't want to sound weak as in "Well, just let me know when you have the time, and I'll come running".

What I'm thinking about doing is to text her back saying that it was too bad she couldn't come and that I might have some time next week in case she wants to hang. That's it.
What do you guys think?

Thanks!

Btw: I'm in Japan and she's Japanese, so being too cocky etc. won't work here, at least not in my experience..

First off, I envy you for being in Japan. I am currently saving up to take a vacation to Osaka. I think I have asiaphile/yellow fever. I heard they LOVE american men over there. Is it true? Could be that they don't see a lot of american's there so they are surprised when they see one. I may come back to the US with a wife, that is if I come back at all...

Normally, when you offer a girl to tag along with you and she declines; if she was truly interested and wanted to go with you, she'd offer a different time/day to go. I wouldn't text her saying, "It's too bad you can't come". I feel like the subtext of that is, "Damn, I really wanted to come with me because no one else would". Offer her to do something other than "hang". Maybe make plans with your friends to go to a bar/club or something and say "hey, my friends are going to this new club/restaurant/bar and wanted to see if you and your friends would like to come along"? Offering to have her friends to come will ease the burden and take the focus off of "the two of you".

I'm sort of in the same boat. This girl at work gives me IOI's, I offered her to tag along to go Christmas shopping since she had a nice sense of style, she declined but never offered another time/day. I will give her a few days and I will invite to go somewhere again, possibly with friends. If she declines again without trying to make another date on a different time/day, I'll stop trying.

I'm pretty new to the game, so take what I say with a grain of salt. Hopefully a more experienced person can help.

I would still keep trying. But don't jump at meet ups too early. Keep building attraction and a bit of comfort. This girl sounds like she still isn't attracted enough or does not see why she would value in spending time with you yet. It is only a matter of time before the girl starts to reciprocate. She might take long to text or might text single single words or sentences but don't be discouraged! Like I said patience and persistence will win if it was meant to be.

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I agree about continuing to build comfort and rapport before officially asking her out.

Also, there is no proper way to respond to rejection. It's not like you are going to say some magical combination of words and then all of a sudden she replies back "You know what, I changed my mind. You seem awesome. See you at the festival!"

The best thing to do is just take it in stride and respond very casually like it's no big deal. Then work on whichever phases of your routine that you were lacking in previously. And more importantly, take a mental note of where you think you may have went wrong and make the necessary corrections on the next girl.

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Well in the North American culture, that bullshit excuse of "I have a test coming up" (not "I have a test tomorrow") is English for "go fuck yourself, I'm not interested."

But the Japanese culture is a tad different so I doubt it applies where you are. I can only think of two other possible explanations. 1) Them Japs are shy, so though she may like you, she may be intimidated by the prospect of hanging out with a cock-azn male. 2) It's actually possible she takes her studies very seriously and doesn't want to mess anything up.

Here's what I what do... I would ask her out to a different type of date. Tell her you're having sushi or whatever at X place and that she should drop by. Something like that. Change it up. Forget the concert for now.

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If a girl rejects me via texting, I literally do not send anything back until I run into her in person or call/text her back a few days later. I don't like being that type of man who gives a girl the satisfaction of knowing she still has my attention after she rejected me. But each man's opinions to his own.

I would text her in the next few days and find out her schedule, then find a free-space somewhere in there and make sure she has no excuse at all and practically has to come out.

Hey Dinoz

A few notes on text game that helped me keep things straight:

~ If she isn't texting back it's more beneficial to analyze how my in person response was with her than the actual texts. Especially if I'm in line with the following:
~ I always start out trying to lift her emotional state. Whether it be making her laugh, being sexual etc (whatever fits your already existing experience with her). I send invitations after she is in a better emotional state.
~ Very rarely expect text backs from more "deep" interactions. I use to have these really deep, connected conversations with girls. Often the women would be asking me to "hang out sometime" or would be asking me for my number. But the funny thing was they never text me back when I text them another day. Deep interactions are harder for a women to emotionally recall. Think about it. Try to recall a profound conversation or moment you had with someone and how that felt in your body? Now try to recall a moment that was sexually charged or had you laughing your ass off and how that felt in your body... You want the simple act of her getting a text from you popping up to spark a smile or a smirk on her face. So if I didn't have humor and flirtatiousness in meeting her, I expect text backs or meet-ups to be unlikely.
~ Persistance really is sometimes the only problem. I don't text back girls all the time, or I'm super short with them simply because of timing. Text her back another day.
~ Even when your game is REALLY tight you're going to get numbers to flake out. Getting solid numbers is like all of game, a bit of a number games... There are girls that are down to get down one night, yet feel guilty another day because they kind of have a boyfriend or have been shamed by friends or themselves over being to sexual. Simply: Before you try texting her again, make the effort to get 5 more solid interactions in. Try to pull more girls. Let the ones the fall out fall out.

Hope this helps:
Dommer

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