This is really good. You got yourself a fun and interesting hangout with her.

Don't spoil it now by immediately putting pressure on her to go out on a date with you. Instead tell her that the winner gets a 'request' from the other person. This amps up the tension and makes things ten times more interesting.

And of course, if you win, you can freely ask her out or go for a kiss.

You worry too much about attraction being lost. Look, the woman just agreed to a wild adventure with you. Stop worrying so much. The moment she completely blocks you out of her life and only talks to you about work-related things - THAT'S when you should worry. Until then, stop worrying or else you will end up fucking things up for yourself.

Take her out, have a good time.

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Thanks man, and you're absolutely right...I do worry too much, but I can't help it. To be honest, the more PUA stuff I read, the more confused I get which makes me worry a lot. I hear stuff like women will give you a small window to make your move and if you miss it, she loses interest and puts you into the friend category which then becomes almost impossible to get out of. Then I read that there is no such thing as a friend zone...if she was attracted to you once, you can almost always bring that same attraction back by escalating.

Anyway, it might be awhile until we can arrange this club night due to our work schedule and such. What should I focus on until then? This is my gut feeling on the current situation. I played it cool and acted like I wasn't very interested and it worked. She started to get attracted, but I overdid it (too much push and no pull) with the playing it cool stuff and now she either got bored or thinks I'm not into her. She's been going out with a lot of her guy friends lately and her ex is coming back to visit soon... I don't want to lose her to someone else that's why I'm asking if I should show her I am interested because I feel like I'm on a timer.

Yes, it is very clear that you have been to brainwashed by classical PU bullshit. That's alright though, sometimes we need multiple perspectives to find a suitable one that is permanent.

Right now you seem to think in terms of 'balance' of giving her attention. You don't want to give too much, yet you want to escalate.

It doesn't work that way. Ask yourself, why would you not want this woman to understand that you like her? You don't need to make any massive move on her. The only thing you need to do to keep yourself out of the friendzone with any woman anywhere in the world is. . . Flirting. You flirt, you keep it playful, and the woman will KNOW that you are interested in her more than 'just a friend'. But now it's up to you to act accordingly.

So do it.

You're not going out with her yet and you will only see her at work. Flirt with her, discreetly. Be playful and joke around like you would with any other person.

The ^discreet part is merely there so that it doesn't turn out to be inappropriate in front of the co-workers.

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Makes sense...thanks man. You just relieved so much pressure off of me. I'm just going to concentrate on being fun and flirty and stop worrying about giving her too much attention, purposely flirting with other girls in front of her to make her jealous, etc. I'm tired of all these games anyway. I'm just going to focus on her and making things fun.