| OK, I'll first describe what kind of girl she is. She is VERY chilled, laid back, aloof, indifferent, and also very genuine, not fake at all. She only has like 3 close girlfriends and rest are guy friends because she doesn't really like girls due to drama and shit. She is one of the prettiest girls I have met in person and she is getting prettier and prettier in my eyes the more time that goes by. She is very outgoing and always doing something. She goes out to drink and stuff with a group of guy friends often, but I don't know if she's hooking up with them or not...I really don't think she is because they are all friends. Everyone is always confused why she is single and always say "we have to find her a BF, how does she not have a BF, etc. She has been on and off with her ex bf for a FEW years.
So when I first started working with her, there was a bit of attraction there. I would tell her stories about myself and she would bring the story back up when it got interrupted. I made her laugh and felt like she enjoyed my company. I was a pussy and never asked her out since we worked together and I was honestly overwhelmed how popular, high status, and amazing this girl was. Few months later, she gets back together with her ex for like the 4th time, but she would tell me shit like, yeah he wants to get serious, but I just want to keep things casual and stuff.
Fast forward a bit, I left work for a few months and during this time I didn't talk to her at all and she had broken up with her BF the first month I was gone. She would tell my friends who went to the bar why I wasn't with them, tell him to visit, we miss him, etc. I texted a week before my return and she was very excited in her texts which rarely happens with this girl. Anyway, my first day back from work, she comes in on her off day with her group of friends and gets pretty drunk. She was all like it's good to have you back, we love you, etc.
For the next month, her attraction levels were higher than ever. I started playing it very cool, texting other girls in front of her and flirting with girl customers getting a lot of pre selection and social proof. She doesn't show much interest or IOIs to anyone, but I there was definitely tension there. The way she would smile at me when she saw me, the way she hugged me compared to other guys. I think I played it too cool, so she started playing the same game texting other guys in front of me and hanging out with them while I was working and she was off. Every time she got drunk, she would come to me with lots of kino and IOIs.
Fast forward to now, I can definitely feel less tension and attraction. It's much more silent when we work together now. She constantly on her phone and shit. This is the bottom line, I am 99% sure she was into me and I simply did not make a move. So right now she is either got bored or simply thinks I am not interested in her. I still flirt with her and she smiles and laughs, but it's not like before.
Guys, I know I fucked up my chances and I am a god damn pussy for not taking the chance when I had it. I know it may be too late, but I want this girl so badly. Every time I try to hang out with different girls I find myself comparing them to this girl and no one ever comes even close. So how do I handle a girl who had a thing for me, but attraction is dying out? Honestly, it would be weird if I asked her out. She is so much more outgoing and doing much cooler shit than me. It's hard for me to ask her out in my position because of our work schedule, I have no car, live with my parents, etc. How do I reignite this attraction? At this point, I am willing to go all or nothing to even have a chance with her because I need to move on either way. It's becoming hard to work with her and I just want to either have her or move on for good. Sorry for the long post, I need your help.
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