I've been the 'nice' guy my whole life. having girlfriends with the first girl I get feelings for and sticking with her.

and now I'm changing it.

I'm trying to change how I act to be more 'alpha' but I'm coming off as an asshole. I've gotten a lot farther by being assertive, but I'm hitting a block now that if I'm nice she doesn't text back much. If I neg her or be assertive I'm being an asshole. I'm going to try not saying anything for the next week till she texts me and see what happens, but she's talked about breaking up pretty seriously.

Other girls I've gotten a lot of practice, Kino'd a girl to kiss me (surprised me actually) and got another girl to drive an hour out of her way to watch a movie with me for the night.

I'm not very worried, just want to know if I'm doing this correctly or if I am being to big an ass and not 'alpha'

You decide whether your being an ass or not. I tell girls things like "your getting me bored" and they don't look at it as if I am an asshole because I say it sincerely and not to act rude or anything. So if your motives behind your assholness is to get a reaction then yea change it, if that's just how you roll then don't change. Also remember you need to go out and game other girls as much as possible. Girls sense when your desperate.

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"Experience is the teacher of all things"

asshole vs confident man. Right now I am also in a bit of a rut and have been coming off a little arrogant. Just keep socializing and fixing your personality to what you really are. I am not naturally arrogant but I can get that way if I get competitive. I am more humble when there isn't a game to be won.

I know it is cliche but find out if your personality is naturally assholish or whatever trait you want to throw out there. Tweak it to respect others and everything should be fine. Right now you are not congruent with who you want to be and what you are. You are going through a phase of trying to be this when you really should get to the core and bring out the realest you.

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You need to calibrate. She may get pissed off at an asshole comment which means you need to lighten up and be nice for a minute. Neg her when she gets out of line and be nice when it's called for.

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Basically what he said works great for me. I do a lot of being the alpha but sometimes I take it a step too far to the asshole side and the nice guy has to come in an defuse the situation.
You "Kino'd a girl to kiss me" so you probably did a good job being alpha there. I've had a good amount of my closes by the girl making the first move, me being the prize. It's awesome.

I think thats the point of being a good PUA, there is no game to be won because you know your not losing anything. your not depending on the other person for anything, you could get it anywhere else (happiness, fulfillment, sex etc)
yes, it is the coolest thing ever! she wasn't a great kisser, but still.