I saw Donald Trump in an interview one time a while back, and the interviewer asked him, does it bother you that many women may not want you for you but for your money?

His answer was interesting, he said "it doesnt really matter does it" ?

Then I was reminded of a Seinfeld episode where "George" was interested in one of Elaines friends, she got back to him and said "my friend said she'd like to go out with you" and he gets excited "really"? Elaine says yeah and she said "looks dont matter to her"

Then Georges smile turns into a grimace. Whatttt? whats that supposed to mean" he was freaking out

This is intresesting. Cause PUA is supposed to be about not how you look, and that women dont care that much. But is that what we want?

Do we want a woman who likes us for other reasons and not for being good looking? When it comes to sex, dont we want to know that the woman finds us attractive enough to kiss and sleep with? and not just doing it to get it over with?

Do we want to have our looks overlooked for money or for personality?

In the past, If I felt a woman wasnt into "me" I usually lose interest and look somewhere else.

How bout yall?

I barely care if they think I'm good looking or not, most of my long term girlfriends have at some stage said something like "I really like you, you're not that hot but oh well". But every girlfriend I had was sex-on-tap the entire way through the relationship so that's good enough for me.

I kind of take it as a compliment if they are dating me but don't think I"m that good looking.

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doesn't really matter if they find me good looking or not from specific girl to girl, but It matters to me what I look like to a great degree and looking good and feeling good both have an impact on how you are treated and how you feel about yourself overall, does it really matter if a girl is responding well to my personality rather then looks, or looks rather then personality, or money etc., no, doesn't matter as long as she responds, and if she doesn't comply or respond really what does that matter? just a waste of time, meet a different girl who responds instead of trying to find reasons to feel insecure, if something keeps re-occuring to cause a negative reaction and is quite apparent, sure pay attention and try to correct the negative pattern, but specifically if one girl is rude when 5 girls are not, who gives a fuck about that one rude dis-interested girl
pickup is not about looks because looks play little part in meeting a stranger and convincing them to get naked with you, looks have more to do with the responses and compliance you are recieved with, rather then moving things towards the act it's self through conversation and actions and knowing how to do that and properly interpreting social cues

if you have no idea what to do to make it happen and are high on anxiety, you will just be another guy who ''doesn't know what to say/do'' even if you are really good looking, it will just be night after night of girls all happy you came to talk to them, followed by going home to jack off, because girls typically are not the initiators/escalating factor between the male female sexual dynamic, without a certain level of competence and confidence you will most likely not be getting laid with any form of consistency, thus why confidence is usually considered the most important quality you can posses as a guy

without an extreme amount of status in some way shape or form to attract women to meeting you and reversing the aggressor/intiator rolls, you will have to develop a game at some point or be limited to the girls that escalate on you, or settle with being involuntarily celibate, things such as a slightly higher income, or above average looks and popularity will pretty much be useless if you have no confidence in a game plan, the degree of status required for girls to initiate and come on to you are near perfect looks, being filthy rich, or extreme social status to the point of fame or infamy, girls typically don't escalate or lead, all they really can do is make their interest obvious and hope the guy is socially competent enough to follow social cues, and pickup is absolutely a skillset considering that about 90% of men can't even face their AA and when in a situation when faced with a girl they find attractive that they didn't have to approach, there are plenty of guys who won't capitalize on social cues of interest that do present themselves in order to feel secure and not put their ego on the line

with all that being considered, guys that practise meeting women and try to overcome their anxieties are at an advantage with their ''confidence'' and ability to meet new women and have a plan of action, more so then the typical good looking guy who might meet under 20 new women a year through social circle, when you can approach 1000 women in a month, you are at an extreme advantage over a guy who can not approach women at all due to crippling fear and insecurity, looks have very little to do with this ability

K.

It matters to me and maybe thats a pitfall of mine. I once had a gf tell me that my friend was better looking than me.

She was telling me a story of how she was talking to her friend, and that she mentioned my friend to her, and....as always, the girl asked "is he cute" and is he tall?

And my gf tells me she told her friend...mmmffffff, yes he's cute!

I go silent, wondering where that came from. She realizes, sits on my lap, awww im sorry are you jealous?

Im like no, just you never showed you thought that. Shes like "well, what would happen if everybody dated on the best looking people, nobody would be happy.

I say, so im not one of the best looking people? she says yeah you are, my sistser thinks so too, but whats the big deal about looks?

She was one of these mature beyond her years girls. I say so who is better looking, my friend or me.

She thinks, and says honestly, for me, he is, he's more my type, but im glad I found you.

Lol, I say , getting back to this, i didnt let it go easy.

I dont want to hear about other good looking guys, I think most guys dont.

I could care less if a woman gets off from my looks. I would only care about my fashion sense, however. I want my clothes to be top notch and girls usually have good opinions on that. Physically however, meh. I do workout though, only because I believe I owe it to myself to be the best I can be. I do not do it for others; I do it for myself. You have to accept the fact that other men are better looking but keep in mind that they also have their weaknesses. I have met many physically attractive men that lack some social skills due to the fact that everything is a bit easier for them and therefore don't have to work as hard.

Now take the people of the PUA community who study social dynamics and come to an understanding that women don't really get off on looks. Of course it is appealing at first but even that loses steam sooner or later. Take the best tasting burger ever and eat it everyday. Eventually you will expect the same taste, texture, look, and get bored. Women are attracted to a man who is constantly improving. A not so good looking man that is unaffected by other men who are physically better is intriguing, they stick out because they are so confident in the group where their role is expected to be that of a chump. It is a slap in the face to society and that is what you should strive for; women want a man that makes his own reality.

This is my reality:
In my reality, I am cute, not as cute as that guy, but I am most likely better in most areas of my personality. I worked for what I have and I understand things that he probably does not. I probably am better in bed because he probably gets laid because of just his looks and does not take the time to study how to pleasure a woman. He might get lays but I can get a consistent loyal fan base.

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I'm not sure I would of handled that situation very well either! There's some things that just are never meant to be said and she failed lol! I would of been so pissed off!!

For me I know I'm good looking but I could definitely do with toning up my body a bit! I'm not fat but I'm not toned either. My girl gets hit on a lot by sporty guys but athleticism is not one of her attraction points.

For her looks are not the most important!

You could put my girl in a room with air head male models and ill not be worried!

Put her in a room with free thinkers, artists and musician and ill begin to panic lol!