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I’m a dude who loves hanging out with women for nights or short periods of times: I love watching them, listening to them, tasting their skin, getting a glimpse of who they are and why they are like that, and eventually becoming them for a moment.
Honestly, (and this is the point of the thread), when I’m kissing or am in bed with a girl, I feel like I’m doing them (other than myself too, obviously) quite a gift. What I mean is, I love seeing joy in their face, I love their smiles and I feel honored when they open their souls to me with no trace of fear.
When I think about it, though, I have some perplexities: I know a kiss is just a kiss, and a ONS is just a ONS. They are not magical pills with the power of making any girl happier, neither I've got any power to decide what is absolutely "better" for them, so I'm not sure I can really leave one "better than I found her".
After all, I have little desire for fat/ugly girls, and I’ve only ever tried to get close to girls which I really liked. That’s why I’m starting to think that my “good” intentions may be some sort of covering in order to hide and sublimate my egoistical desires. Which makes me feel not so good since I would like to be a kind person before everything else.
I’ve always stated my intentions before closing any girl, but sometimes I generated pain since they expected something more despite me not promising long-lasting love (which I don’t know if I will be able to feel anyway).
What do you think? Do you think desire for their happiness can guide your path as a PUA, or should PUA be considered just fucking girls without trying to find a higher meaning in your actions?
Hey mate,
It is said that before you can make somebody else happy, you need to be able to make yourself happy. If you are happy with you one night stands, then you are already halfway.
Furthermore, desire, passion and lust are all reciprocal emotions (i am not sure if i use the word correctly). by that i mean: to fully get the joy out of those emotions, your partner needs to be feeling it as well, that is the beauty of good sex. Therefor, if you go for one night stands with people you are not attracted too, you really arent doing them a favor. they might as well masturbate.
As far as one night stands go: you can only give you fullest. that is it. You dont know if you leave them behind better or not unless you ask and even then i am not sure if they would tell you the truth. If you have the impression that they enjoyed it, you know for sure you didnt leave them behind worse then before.
As for those you inflict pain by being honest to them: its a hard world out there, they should be grateful that you are that honest. Many idiots wouldnt just to be able to score, with the possibility to wreck them after a couple of lays. You cannot go through life and do good for anybody. But be able to make yourself happy and then be glad that you can share your happiness with those who are open to receive it. I dont think there is much more you can do.
cheers
CHAT
