We've been friends at uni for a year. She is (was?) in a long distance relationship. She had a pretty big fight with her bf 2 weeks ago and it's kind of unresolved. I've never gamed her directly but she wouldn't have friend zoned me.

She came to my place then, we chatted, drank and made out. We went out a few times after with no awkwardness and we did it last weekend. Since then, we've been out with our mutual friends and were comfortable.

She's never asked me out although she agreed to meet up when I initiated. Is this a FWB arrangement? What's she thinking? Should I try to get her to suggest meeting up by going cold on her?

This sounds like it could be a "whatever" you want relationship, just be a man and define the terms. Don't keep her on the back burner for too long.

Just say I really like sex, we have fun, but I am not ready to have a full committed relationship, blah blah blah. We should still have sex, cause were fucking amazing at it, blah blah blah...

Just be open and say what you want. Honesty bro it actually works.

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After the next time we did it, I said that we should keep at it because we're good at it. She laughed and nothing else came of it. Now, I think she's considering leaving her bf for me. I do like her but I'm also in an on and off LDR.

When we were alone, she got me into a "talk about us". I told her that things are good right now and we keep it that way until after exams.

I bought myself some time but I think the next time she comes over, I might have to tell her that I'm not ready for an all-out relationship. Just so there's less hurt feelings.

So what now, do I end it? Any advice besides that?

Just say lets have an open-ended relationship, be a man and be honest. As of now you can tell she isn't going crazy, so she understands.

Don't be like I just like you for sex, tell her I really like being with you blah blah blah, and the sex is amazing blah blah blah, but I just dont want to have a full time relationship, I think we should stay as we are.

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I asked her to come over yesterday but she wanted to study. When I texted her today, she turned cold, took ages to reply. Heard from a mutual friend that she seemed sad.

Looks like it's over. Guilt maybe or maybe she's studying. I'm cutting out the texting. Thanks for the help. If I meet up with her again I'll definitely talk openly about it.

Bro she is sad shit happens lol, but stop investing so much, texting everyday is bad. Don't do that shit!

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